Do you miss your ‘babies’?

[Anonymous]

Yes, but at the same time I remember how challenging those days were. I wish I could just go back in time and have one day with them as babies. I definitely indulge in slide shows of the days when they were little. I don't shy away from those feelings. But I also adore the ages my kids are at now. They are 11 and 14 and such a trip.

[Anonymous]

I remember the fun moments with fondness but then I remember how I didn’t sleep all night for a couple of years and the colic. Nope don’t miss it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would turn off this feature on your iPhone so you stop getting reminded randomly. That way you can choose to go down memory lane when you are in the right mood.

My kids are 4 and 7 and I mostly just want them to grow up. I’m so unbelievably tired. Like I am never NOT tired. I’m more tired than I was when they were babies. I don’t like being a parent.

I remember thinking way too often about how many years were left until my youngest turned 18. I loved them but parenting at certain ages was just killer. But now they are older and it's different.

Can you drop something in your life? I wonder if you would like being a parent more if you didn't have to juggle so many other hats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, but at the same time I remember how challenging those days were. I wish I could just go back in time and have one day with them as babies. I definitely indulge in slide shows of the days when they were little. I don't shy away from those feelings. But I also adore the ages my kids are at now. They are 11 and 14 and such a trip.

I still have babies (4, 3 and 1) and I can't stop looking at them and wanting to freeze time. It's just going way too fast.

[Anonymous]

Help out a mom with babies. Having a bond with a baby and seeing your kids experiencing the fun of a baby really helps! Plus there's lots of moms who could use a little free support.

[Anonymous]

Same Op, but part of my nostalgia is my own regret - I stressed about naps, potty training, sibling tag-alongs to older kid's stuff, did i do ok for their nirthdays, did i create enough magic for holidays, etc.

Dd, 14 yrs old, told me she'd always wanted the Sofia the First doll for her bday. I was crushed bc I feel like I failed and that was the only thing she remembered and looking back at the photos I muse what other disappointments there may have been.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not coping well with the passage of time (quite a significant issue overall) and specifically as it pertains to my kids getting older. They are 7 and 10 and whenever the iPhone reminds me of them being younger (constantly) I just feel like I painfully miss them as babies. Anyone else? Urgh.

Yes, I miss my babies and for me I'm deeply saddened that we were not set up in the perfect house/neighborhood when they were younger instead we were stressing half the time/moving all over the place in their younger years. They were soooooooooooooooo cute!

[Anonymous]

I regret wanting it all to speed up when I was blown out from early child care. It’s whizzing by. We have an only, 8 yo. 8 is great for sure, miss her being two.

[Anonymous]

Yes, everyday

[Anonymous]

I miss not feeling "needed" or "mommy makes the best sandwiches in the world" type thing.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. This thread makes me sad. I feel the same as OP. My boy is 13 and still sweet but it’s hard to get him to want to spend time together anymore. It went by slowly and then suddenly everything changed and now it feels like there is no time left and I don’t think I savored it enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op ... you want your babies to grow up, make happy homes, and have babies! More babies to love!!

I'm sure you want to do all you can to guide good things for their future. How about you steer your mindset this way -- that the best way you can do the best for them -- is to promote joy for the here and now, and their future selves.

np Only if that makes them happy. Being a mom is so hard that I am not sure I can honestly tell them to go for it. Maybe if women got more support...and I did love being a mom

[Anonymous]

Yes. I look at my 40 year old dc and yearn til it hurts. He will always be MY baby. His wife will never replace me.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Some days I feel super sad about how fast it all goes by. Like crying sad. Doesn’t help that I always wanted more kids, but that didn’t work out. But I am trying to focus on enjoying each stage, because they are all fun in their own way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, but at the same time I remember how challenging those days were. I wish I could just go back in time and have one day with them as babies. I definitely indulge in slide shows of the days when they were little. I don't shy away from those feelings. But I also adore the ages my kids are at now. They are 11 and 14 and such a trip.

I still have babies (4, 3 and 1) and I can't stop looking at them and wanting to freeze time. It's just going way too fast.

In the same phase as you and I feel the exact same way. I desperately wish I could stop time sometimes