Daughter (15) came out as bisexual, so we stop allowing unsupervised get together?

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of a lesbian high schooler: Sleepovers are fine as long as they’re in separate rooms. When dd had a girlfriend last year, we talked it over with gf’s parents and we all agreed that when the kids spent the night at either of our houses, they would be sleeping in different rooms. Did the same thing for ds when his gf from college visited. This is what’s worked best for us.

I’m sure someone will come here to question that and say they’re already having sex. I understand that. I also get to set up the rules and expectations in my house. Every parent gets to do what’s best for their house.

You made consenting adults sleep in different rooms because you're afraid that they might have sex in your house? Are you going to do that with your son when he's married too? Or are married children allowed to have sex in your home? This reminds me of my grandparents and it all stems from weird puritanical fears of sex.

When they’re married? No, of course they can sleep together. Like I said, each person makes the rules for their own house. You make the rules for your own kids. Do you even have any?

So then, what's the difference between a married couple and an unmarried couple sleeping together in your house?

Oh, boy. Here we go. Pay attention.
When a man and a woman love each other very much, they like to hug, and like they hug so closely, that they take off their clothes.... and months later, a baby is born!

Wow coming to the gay board with your heteronormative description of love.

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She can have friends just because she’s bi. First, how do you know her friends are into girls? How do you know they’re into each other? And what would be the worst thing if they did fool around in the safety of your home? No one is getting pregnant.

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of a lesbian high schooler: Sleepovers are fine as long as they’re in separate rooms. When dd had a girlfriend last year, we talked it over with gf’s parents and we all agreed that when the kids spent the night at either of our houses, they would be sleeping in different rooms. Did the same thing for ds when his gf from college visited. This is what’s worked best for us.

I’m sure someone will come here to question that and say they’re already having sex. I understand that. I also get to set up the rules and expectations in my house. Every parent gets to do what’s best for their house.

You made consenting adults sleep in different rooms because you're afraid that they might have sex in your house? Are you going to do that with your son when he's married too? Or are married children allowed to have sex in your home? This reminds me of my grandparents and it all stems from weird puritanical fears of sex.

When they’re married? No, of course they can sleep together. Like I said, each person makes the rules for their own house. You make the rules for your own kids. Do you even have any?

NP you’re being questioned because your rules are stupid and arbitrary.

[Anonymous]

Having a lesbian teenager made me realize that I was more concerned about teenage pregnancy than teenage sex. When she took the possibility of pregnancy out of the picture, I was able to have a more rational approach. My daughter and I were able to have more meaningful conversations about sex and physical relationships and what's important.

(And yes, I know she could still have sex with a boy so pregnancy is still a topic of conversation between us.)

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of a lesbian high schooler: Sleepovers are fine as long as they’re in separate rooms. When dd had a girlfriend last year, we talked it over with gf’s parents and we all agreed that when the kids spent the night at either of our houses, they would be sleeping in different rooms. Did the same thing for ds when his gf from college visited. This is what’s worked best for us.

I’m sure someone will come here to question that and say they’re already having sex. I understand that. I also get to set up the rules and expectations in my house. Every parent gets to do what’s best for their house.

You made consenting adults sleep in different rooms because you're afraid that they might have sex in your house? Are you going to do that with your son when he's married too? Or are married children allowed to have sex in your home? This reminds me of my grandparents and it all stems from weird puritanical fears of sex.

When they’re married? No, of course they can sleep together. Like I said, each person makes the rules for their own house. You make the rules for your own kids. Do you even have any?

So then, what's the difference between a married couple and an unmarried couple sleeping together in your house?

NP here. My mother was a strict Catholic. When my college BF came to visit, it wouldn't have been acceptable under her roof for us to be sleeping in the same room. I respected her rules. Not that big of a rule. It's an important lesson to know that not everyone may see the world as you do.

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of a lesbian high schooler: Sleepovers are fine as long as they’re in separate rooms. When dd had a girlfriend last year, we talked it over with gf’s parents and we all agreed that when the kids spent the night at either of our houses, they would be sleeping in different rooms. Did the same thing for ds when his gf from college visited. This is what’s worked best for us.

I’m sure someone will come here to question that and say they’re already having sex. I understand that. I also get to set up the rules and expectations in my house. Every parent gets to do what’s best for their house.

You made consenting adults sleep in different rooms because you're afraid that they might have sex in your house? Are you going to do that with your son when he's married too? Or are married children allowed to have sex in your home? This reminds me of my grandparents and it all stems from weird puritanical fears of sex.

When they’re married? No, of course they can sleep together. Like I said, each person makes the rules for their own house. You make the rules for your own kids. Do you even have any?

So then, what's the difference between a married couple and an unmarried couple sleeping together in your house?

Oh, boy. Here we go. Pay attention.
When a man and a woman love each other very much, they like to hug, and like they hug so closely, that they take off their clothes.... and months later, a baby is born!

Wow coming to the gay board with your heteronormative description of love.

not the pp but, it is listed on "recent" topics. Most people don't look closely

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of a lesbian high schooler: Sleepovers are fine as long as they’re in separate rooms. When dd had a girlfriend last year, we talked it over with gf’s parents and we all agreed that when the kids spent the night at either of our houses, they would be sleeping in different rooms. Did the same thing for ds when his gf from college visited. This is what’s worked best for us.

I’m sure someone will come here to question that and say they’re already having sex. I understand that. I also get to set up the rules and expectations in my house. Every parent gets to do what’s best for their house.

You made consenting adults sleep in different rooms because you're afraid that they might have sex in your house? Are you going to do that with your son when he's married too? Or are married children allowed to have sex in your home? This reminds me of my grandparents and it all stems from weird puritanical fears of sex.

When they’re married? No, of course they can sleep together. Like I said, each person makes the rules for their own house. You make the rules for your own kids. Do you even have any?

So then, what's the difference between a married couple and an unmarried couple sleeping together in your house?

Oh, boy. Here we go. Pay attention.
When a man and a woman love each other very much, they like to hug, and like they hug so closely, that they take off their clothes.... and months later, a baby is born!

Wow coming to the gay board with your heteronormative description of love.

Wow coming to the gay board thinking that (cis) homosexuals can get pregnant from sex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom of a lesbian high schooler: Sleepovers are fine as long as they’re in separate rooms. When dd had a girlfriend last year, we talked it over with gf’s parents and we all agreed that when the kids spent the night at either of our houses, they would be sleeping in different rooms. Did the same thing for ds when his gf from college visited. This is what’s worked best for us.

I’m sure someone will come here to question that and say they’re already having sex. I understand that. I also get to set up the rules and expectations in my house. Every parent gets to do what’s best for their house.

You made consenting adults sleep in different rooms because you're afraid that they might have sex in your house? Are you going to do that with your son when he's married too? Or are married children allowed to have sex in your home? This reminds me of my grandparents and it all stems from weird puritanical fears of sex.

When they’re married? No, of course they can sleep together. Like I said, each person makes the rules for their own house. You make the rules for your own kids. Do you even have any?

So then, what's the difference between a married couple and an unmarried couple sleeping together in your house?

NP here. My mother was a strict Catholic. When my college BF came to visit, it wouldn't have been acceptable under her roof for us to be sleeping in the same room. I respected her rules. Not that big of a rule. It's an important lesson to know that not everyone may see the world as you do.

I'm sure you followed her rules that you didn't have sex at all until marriage either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of a lesbian high schooler: Sleepovers are fine as long as they’re in separate rooms. When dd had a girlfriend last year, we talked it over with gf’s parents and we all agreed that when the kids spent the night at either of our houses, they would be sleeping in different rooms. Did the same thing for ds when his gf from college visited. This is what’s worked best for us.

I’m sure someone will come here to question that and say they’re already having sex. I understand that. I also get to set up the rules and expectations in my house. Every parent gets to do what’s best for their house.

You made consenting adults sleep in different rooms because you're afraid that they might have sex in your house? Are you going to do that with your son when he's married too? Or are married children allowed to have sex in your home? This reminds me of my grandparents and it all stems from weird puritanical fears of sex.

High school kids are not “consenting adults.” What is wrong with you???

This is what I was thinking. My 16 yo DD has not yet had a boyfriend or girlfriend. If she does, in high school...no sleepovers. In college, sure why not. Although honestly, I can imagine our daughter actually wanting to have sex in the house with her parents at home.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's time to stop sleepovers OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom of a lesbian high schooler: Sleepovers are fine as long as they’re in separate rooms. When dd had a girlfriend last year, we talked it over with gf’s parents and we all agreed that when the kids spent the night at either of our houses, they would be sleeping in different rooms. Did the same thing for ds when his gf from college visited. This is what’s worked best for us.

I’m sure someone will come here to question that and say they’re already having sex. I understand that. I also get to set up the rules and expectations in my house. Every parent gets to do what’s best for their house.

You made consenting adults sleep in different rooms because you're afraid that they might have sex in your house? Are you going to do that with your son when he's married too? Or are married children allowed to have sex in your home? This reminds me of my grandparents and it all stems from weird puritanical fears of sex.

High school kids are not “consenting adults.” What is wrong with you???

This is what I was thinking. My 16 yo DD has not yet had a boyfriend or girlfriend. If she does, in high school...no sleepovers. In college, sure why not. Although honestly, I can imagine our daughter actually wanting to have sex in the house with her parents at home.

Literally no one called them that. Read the posts, some straight people were talking about their straight college age son.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of a lesbian high schooler: Sleepovers are fine as long as they’re in separate rooms. When dd had a girlfriend last year, we talked it over with gf’s parents and we all agreed that when the kids spent the night at either of our houses, they would be sleeping in different rooms. Did the same thing for ds when his gf from college visited. This is what’s worked best for us.

I’m sure someone will come here to question that and say they’re already having sex. I understand that. I also get to set up the rules and expectations in my house. Every parent gets to do what’s best for their house.

You made consenting adults sleep in different rooms because you're afraid that they might have sex in your house? Are you going to do that with your son when he's married too? Or are married children allowed to have sex in your home? This reminds me of my grandparents and it all stems from weird puritanical fears of sex.

NP, but my DH and I slept in separate rooms at our family's houses before we were married, yes (we actually waited until we were married to have sex, but we understood how it looked to share a bed).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m bisexual and, yes, had sex with my friends at sleepovers. I also had sex with boys in cars and random places.

I don’t know why people work so hard to keep their kids from having sex. It’s going to happen eventually anyway.

It's called instilling values. I am very worried about where society is going based on some of the comments on this thread. My son is 22 and when his girlfriend stays here, they sleep in separate rooms. They will continue to do that until they are married, and they respect my wishes. Her family has the same values/rules. Both families are from Catholic faith and I think this has a lot to do with our similar outlooks.

When DS gets his own apartment or when he visits her at college, they will have all the sex they want. That is between them and their God. But when under our roof, these rules stand.

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of a lesbian high schooler: Sleepovers are fine as long as they’re in separate rooms. When dd had a girlfriend last year, we talked it over with gf’s parents and we all agreed that when the kids spent the night at either of our houses, they would be sleeping in different rooms. Did the same thing for ds when his gf from college visited. This is what’s worked best for us.

I’m sure someone will come here to question that and say they’re already having sex. I understand that. I also get to set up the rules and expectations in my house. Every parent gets to do what’s best for their house.

You made consenting adults sleep in different rooms because you're afraid that they might have sex in your house? Are you going to do that with your son when he's married too? Or are married children allowed to have sex in your home? This reminds me of my grandparents and it all stems from weird puritanical fears of sex.

NP, but my DH and I slept in separate rooms at our family's houses before we were married, yes (we actually waited until we were married to have sex, but we understood how it looked to share a bed).

This is awesome to read. Thanks for sharing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of a lesbian high schooler: Sleepovers are fine as long as they’re in separate rooms. When dd had a girlfriend last year, we talked it over with gf’s parents and we all agreed that when the kids spent the night at either of our houses, they would be sleeping in different rooms. Did the same thing for ds when his gf from college visited. This is what’s worked best for us.

I’m sure someone will come here to question that and say they’re already having sex. I understand that. I also get to set up the rules and expectations in my house. Every parent gets to do what’s best for their house.

You made consenting adults sleep in different rooms because you're afraid that they might have sex in your house? Are you going to do that with your son when he's married too? Or are married children allowed to have sex in your home? This reminds me of my grandparents and it all stems from weird puritanical fears of sex.

NP, but my DH and I slept in separate rooms at our family's houses before we were married, yes (we actually waited until we were married to have sex, but we understood how it looked to share a bed).

This is awesome to read. Thanks for sharing.

When my now DH and I were dating…we were living together (I was 26 and he was 32) and his parents made us sleep in separate rooms when we visited before we were married. Totally ridiculous but their house, their rules.