Child using their nickname instead of first name

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This wouldn't fly in DeSantis' Florida, schools there now have to get parents to indicate on a form what their children are allowed to be called and if it's not listed then they must be called by their birth certificate name at school, no nicknames or preferred names.

The idea is to prevent students from asking staff to call them by their preferred name as they attempt to transition or begin that process, all without parental consent and knowledge.

How are Florida schools compelling young adults not to use their chosen names?

Np. I read teachers can only call the students their name that is registered. To prevent a child from saying call me Charlie or Maggie instead of Charles and Margaret.

Op it isnt about you. You sound like a narcissists. Your child gets to decide whst they want to be called. Imagine telling an adult what they can be called.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the nickname. Abe? I’d just call him Abraham if I wanted to, even if everyone else calls him Abe (unless he specifically asked me to call him Abe instead). Butthead? I’d encourage him to drop that nickname if he wants to be taken seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How would you feel if as a young adult your child insisted on using a nickname from childhood instead of their actual name that was carefully chosen to honor an ancestor and as a nod to their ethnic heritage? Would you bring it up to them and share that you would prefer they use the name you gave them, or just drop it and let them choose for themselves?

Not your choice. You gave them a name, but they get to decide what they get called.

If you really feel that it is important to "honor an ancestor" and give a nod "to their ethnic heritage" then you should go and legally change your name to give honor to that ancestor. You can decide what you do with your name. You don't get to decide what your adult child uses as their name.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the nickname.

No. It doesn’t. It depends on the adult deciding on their name.

Abe? I’d just call him Abraham if I wanted to

By the same token, you'd use "Dick" not "Richard" if you "wanted to", over an adult preferring "Richard". Because it's not what they prefer; it's what you "want".

Butthead? I’d encourage him to drop that nickname if he wants to be taken seriously.

I'd encourage people like you to MYOB if you want to be taken seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How would you feel if as a young adult your child insisted on using a nickname from childhood instead of their actual name that was carefully chosen to honor an ancestor and as a nod to their ethnic heritage? Would you bring it up to them and share that you would prefer they use the name you gave them, or just drop it and let them choose for themselves?

Good lord, Find a real problem!

[Anonymous]

If you want to have a relationship with said child please stop and go with what they want my goodness.

[Anonymous]

We are multi-cultural and gave our children 3 first names, one for each of their culture. DC1 picked the third one to use. DC2 goes by her first one, *but* she mischievously started using an entirely new name in middle school, as a joke. Now half the school knows her by that name! Funnily enough, it's a name I had considered for her, but had ruled out because it's my aunt's name and my mother would have been so jealous.

All this to say, it's all perfectly fine. Your kids know who they are and where they come from - names are not like clothing labels.

[Anonymous]

I'd be happy they have such warm memories of childhood that they want to be called a childhood nickname in adulthood....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This wouldn't fly in DeSantis' Florida, schools there now have to get parents to indicate on a form what their children are allowed to be called and if it's not listed then they must be called by their birth certificate name at school, no nicknames or preferred names.

The idea is to prevent students from asking staff to call them by their preferred name as they attempt to transition or begin that process, all without parental consent and knowledge.

Except none of that applies to OP's question since OP specified "young ADULT" child. Adult is 18+...and the "young" part is subjective, but I would guess somewhere between 18-22. Pretty sure "Desantis' Florida" would back the adult child's right to be called whatever he/she wants whether the adult parents approves or not.

[Anonymous]

Is this for real?!?!

[Anonymous]

I'd feel just fine.

[Anonymous]

The reality is your kid ultimately decides what they want to be called.

We never used the common nickname for our firstborn, we always called them by their full name. After a week in pre-K they started going by the shortened nickname (easier to write). I’m literally the only person who ever says the full name.

I know several moms who picked long, beautiful names and swore their kids would never go by a nickname. Lol. They all go by the common nicknames their moms hoped to avoid.

By childhood names are you talking about cutesy names that aren’t traditional names? Like Skip, Pooh Bear, etc?

I know legit adults whose families and childhood friends call them Pooh Bear, etc. But they don’t go by such names at work.

[Anonymous]

I am someone who doesn't like the name my parents gave me. It has a wonky spelling, it doesn't fit me and I generally don't like it.

As a college student- I changed the spelling of my nickname so it at least made sense and I wasn't constantly spelling my name for people. It made it slightly better.

When I got married- I changed my last name because it sounded better with my first name but I really really wish I had just changed my name.

It is too late now because I am 50 but I would recommend people do what they want with their name.

You don't owe your parents and should be able to go by whatever you desire.

[Anonymous]

I just wish my own parents would stop calling themselves Bunny and Dick.

[Anonymous]

Read Jhumpa Lahiri- the namesake