Friend who doesn't need to work saying how lucky she is to have work-life balance

[Anonymous]

So what you’re saying is that if you can’t be happy no one in your orbit can. You compare yourself to others and compete with them. My advice, change your life or find friends who are similarly miserable.

[Anonymous]

What sticks out to me is the friend side-texting you. Regardless of how this works out, your side texts are gossipy and will be the death knell of your threesome friendship.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand why you don’t just invite her over for lunch. You do have lunch!

[Anonymous]

Idk, there’s always something to be jealous about. I work full time, have 2 kids and would kill to be able to work from home like you and your friend do!

[Anonymous]

It’s definitely rude to say it’s “necessary” to stay home (in the same way that it’s rude when people say it’s insane to stay home because of brain rot, free loading, etc etc.)

on the other hand, what do you mean you “think it may be eroding the friendship” when you have a side text snarkiest going on-clearly that’s pretty catty for grown women.

I think you should tell your friend that it’s great it’s working for her but for many peoples its “ necessary” to work and also stop responding to mean side texts from the other friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Next time she texts/talks about it you can say, "ok, ok, no need to rub it in. Some of us are still grinding with no end in sight"

I think something simple like this would get the point across, without making a whole to-do.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to have a sit-down conversation with her and explain this calmly and rationally. That’s the only way it’ll change and she won’t seem so out-there

[Anonymous]

As a single mom I get a lot of comments from people that are tone deaf, so I get being annoyed. But it's not personal, some people are just privileged and ignorant. I think this is more about your own stress and responsibilities being a lot right now than it is something wrong on your friend's end. That said, if it's bugging you to the extent that you need to take a break, then go ahead.

[Anonymous]

People should learn to share less. No one likes to see other people being happy or thriving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a single mom I get a lot of comments from people that are tone deaf, so I get being annoyed. But it's not personal, some people are just privileged and ignorant. I think this is more about your own stress and responsibilities being a lot right now than it is something wrong on your friend's end. That said, if it's bugging you to the extent that you need to take a break, then go ahead.

Are you really a single Mom? Doubt it.

[Anonymous]

I am mostly a SAHM but work part time during the school year. My good friend is a single mom who works from home. We schedule time to get coffee but I always let her choose the time and length of get togethers. She's said to me, "This is a busy period" and I say, ok, and we either wait to get together or meet up on the weekend with our kids. I recognize how fortunate I am to stay home, and I would never talk to others (especially other moms who work) about why our family made this choice, because it's really no one else's business and everyone's situation is different. OP, I'm sorry you're venting about this especially during a stressful time, maybe just say to your friend, hey can we touch base at the end of September after things calm down. If you were my friend I'd say, Cool! Talk to you soon. Then probably randomly text you funny memes in the meantime.

[Anonymous]

Women think working is awesome but it isn't , most of the younger kids plan to marry up and stay at home, lean in Genx bs isn't working or worth it

[Anonymous]

I get it, OP. On top of everything else, you are expected to give your friend grace and understand things from her perspective when she clearly can't be bothered to take two seconds to consider your point of view before sending tone-deaf texts. It's exhausting. I'm willing to bet this isn't the first time she's been so self-absorbed.

Do you care about this person? Do you want to stay friends? If so, do what the PPs said. If not, I'd just stop responding to her texts. Maybe she'll get the hint or maybe the friendship dies. It seems like your lives are going in different directions now anyway. The older I get, the less tolerance and energy I have for friends who make everything about them with little regard for others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women think working is awesome but it isn't , most of the younger kids plan to marry up and stay at home, lean in Genx bs isn't working or worth it

"marry up" lololol

[Anonymous]

You must have young kids. The tables will turn when your kids are in middle and high school and she's aimless, bored, intellectually stunted and having existential crises.