So should we just lie to prospective nannies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, you be honest. That’s a terrible thing to do and you may need help in the future.

Kind of like the "terrible thing" the nanny just did?
Right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, you be honest. That’s a terrible thing to do and you may need help in the future.

Kind of like the "terrible thing" the nanny just did?
Right.

Getting a better job isn’t a terrible thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, fat bonus will do the trick. You’re paying long-term pay for a short-term contract. No good nanny will take that. January is a terrible time to look for a nanny job.

How is “January is a terrible time to look for a nanny job”? Babies are born every day, families are always searching for care.

I don’t buy it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$30/hr isn’t that great of a deal for a short term contract.

Offer $30/hr plus a fat bonus if they get you to the finish line.

What is a “fat bonus”? Give me a number.

I’m tempted to just dangle this as a long term gig and dump them with two weeks notice.

So you’re “tempted” to be lying trash. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other benefit of the house manager offer is that you get something for that extra money. A bonus just leaves with her. Up to you if it’s worth the extra cash to have a few months of increased sanity. I know I would have appreciated a clean house, folded laundry, raked leaves, etc., in those early days.

+ back up care for the sick days your baby will inevitably have.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and would never ever do this unless the family did something egregious. When you make a commitment to someone you do your best to honor that commitment. I also care about my reputation and as a result when I need to find a new job I have tons of glowing references. Be ethical even if others aren't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny and would never ever do this unless the family did something egregious. When you make a commitment to someone you do your best to honor that commitment. I also care about my reputation and as a result when I need to find a new job I have tons of glowing references. Be ethical even if others aren't.

We did nothing egregious.

We can see that nanny is on Care.com in recent hours. We have a premium account and it shows the last time she was logged onto the website. When she told us it showed her as being on her account in the last hour.

Really crappy tbh. I mean, I have to leave a scathing review, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you just offer a lump sum including the bonus?

What does this mean? Nannies need to get paid at least biweekly. We are not going to hold her earnings hostage until the end of the year. No nanny will agree to that.

[Anonymous]

Might be a stupid question but if you find a nanny you love why would you switch to office daycare?

[Anonymous]

Any chance you could get into the daycare sooner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Might be a stupid question but if you find a nanny you love why would you switch to office daycare?

Difference of $3.5K per month and it's an incredible Montessori daycare that will get us to kindergarten.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$30/hr isn’t that great of a deal for a short term contract.

Offer $30/hr plus a fat bonus if they get you to the finish line.

What is a “fat bonus”? Give me a number.

I’m tempted to just dangle this as a long term gig and dump them with two weeks notice.

Nanny here -

Please don’t do this. Imagine what your salary is compared to your nanny. How can you even think like this? Most nannies live paycheque to paycheque. That is really vile and you don’t deserve a good nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other benefit of the house manager offer is that you get something for that extra money. A bonus just leaves with her. Up to you if it’s worth the extra cash to have a few months of increased sanity. I know I would have appreciated a clean house, folded laundry, raked leaves, etc., in those early days.

Raked leaves? Lmaooooo this is not a job for a nanny for or family assistant, what is wrong with you people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, fat bonus will do the trick. You’re paying long-term pay for a short-term contract. No good nanny will take that. January is a terrible time to look for a nanny job.

How is “January is a terrible time to look for a nanny job”? Babies are born every day, families are always searching for care.

I don’t buy it.

Nanny here with 25 years experience…. Op sounds pretty awful but just wanted to point out that September and January are actually the best times of year to find a nanny job. The worst is June, July because by then everyone has their summer childcare sorted.

[Anonymous]

You need to let the thing with the previous nanny go. You can’t “fix” it by trying to screw your next nanny. Jeez.

I agree with the others that being transparent and offering a “completion bonus” is the right move. I think the bonus should be a month’s pay, including all severance. So basically twice what you would pay out normally.

I’d also plan your holiday schedule in advance so you can tell prospective Nannies what days they’ll have off, and you should offer a good holiday schedule since they won’t have time to accrue a lot of leave.

Being an employer is harder than being an employee. Suck it up.