WYR: Marry person you lost virginity to, or work at your first job for the rest of your life

[Anonymous]

When I was a 14 year old boy a 22 year old woman got me drunk and high and raped me. That’s how I lost my virginity.

I got my first job that same year. I was a dishwasher.

So, tell me, OP: which one should I pick?

[Anonymous]

I did the first. I was fired from the second for incompetence, so they probably wouldn't take me back. 30 years last month, though, so the first worked out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did the first. I was fired from the second for incompetence, so they probably wouldn't take me back. 30 years last month, though, so the first worked out.

+1, except I wasn’t fired. But I don’t want to work at the Gap. Been married 20 years and the good has far outweighed the bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was a 14 year old boy a 22 year old woman got me drunk and high and raped me. That’s how I lost my virginity.

I got my first job that same year. I was a dishwasher.

So, tell me, OP: which one should I pick?

President of France chose #1

[Anonymous]

I already married and then divorced him 14 years later. Guess I'll take 1st job?

[Anonymous]

Definitely #1. My first job was crap. Not my first "salaried job," my first actual job.

[Anonymous]

Wow, sorry to hear about the rapes.
Id pick #1. He was a nice guy.

[Anonymous]

Either would be fine for me. If I had to pick one it would be the guy.

[Anonymous]

Oh boy. Both were really really bad.

[Anonymous]

huh. I mean he was one of the best sexual partners I ever had. But he sucked as a person and broke my heart.

I would also like to not have to work as a hostess in a restaurant my entire life.

I think I don't like this game. lol.

[Anonymous]

The guy I lost my virginity to didn’t give me orgasms, so I’d say job for sure.

[Anonymous]

Tough choice.

#1. He’s now divorced, no children and openly propositioned me at our 25 year reunion. I believe we’d be toxic together and he’s not at all attractive to me BUT

#2. My first job out of college had me traveling as a sales rep and it was absolutely exhausting and soul crushing.

[Anonymous]

I already married my first (and only).

[Anonymous]

I'd marry the guy I lost my virginity to. He's successful and still has all his hair in his 50s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did both- married the guy and still in my first salaried job out of grad school (had other gig jobs and hourly work before though). I’m in my 30s

I did both too. And I'm in my late 50s.