i hate keeping secrets...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s your sister. Jesus. You don’t have to tell your parents everything she tells you. What are you, 12?

This. These aren’t really secrets. You sound more like you want to gossip. Would you really run to your mom when your sister isn’t even sure she’s pregnant but thinks she might be and needed someone to talk to about it?

Stop gossiping!

I don't gossip at all actually! I've never told my parents about anything that she has told me. She just wants to hide things from my parents because she feels like they might get upset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re not comfortable, tell her so. But I find it sad you have the urge to tell your parents everything about her. I shared my pregnancy with my sister first and she shared her engagement with me before either of us told our parents. For things like failing classes we would coordinate calls so that the person sharing bad news would have her sister call soon after to run interference with parental disappointment, etc. It’s nice to have a sister who trusts me with this stuff and to have someone I know I can always trust.

I don't have the urge to tell my parents at all! I get that she wants to share things with me, but it's to the point where she wants to hide everything from them because she's afraid they could get upset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re not comfortable, tell her so. But I find it sad you have the urge to tell your parents everything about her. I shared my pregnancy with my sister first and she shared her engagement with me before either of us told our parents. For things like failing classes we would coordinate calls so that the person sharing bad news would have her sister call soon after to run interference with parental disappointment, etc. It’s nice to have a sister who trusts me with this stuff and to have someone I know I can always trust.

I don't have the urge to tell my parents at all! I get that she wants to share things with me, but it's to the point where she wants to hide everything from them because she's afraid they could get upset.

Yes, I got that. I guess I don’t understand why you feel your parents should know things that would upset them that she doesn’t want to share? Like I assume she’ll have to tell them about the engagement eventually and the stuff she was able to avoid them knowing about (failed classes, pregnancy scare) what would be the benefit of them knowing after the fact?

But still, if it stresses you out you should tell her that. You can tell her you think she should tell your parents if that’s really what’s bothering you or you can just ask her not to tell you things she’s not comfortable sharing with your parents (yet or ever). But then you’ll know a good deal less about her life. May be good or bad depending on your relationship I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re not comfortable, tell her so. But I find it sad you have the urge to tell your parents everything about her. I shared my pregnancy with my sister first and she shared her engagement with me before either of us told our parents. For things like failing classes we would coordinate calls so that the person sharing bad news would have her sister call soon after to run interference with parental disappointment, etc. It’s nice to have a sister who trusts me with this stuff and to have someone I know I can always trust.

I don't have the urge to tell my parents at all! I get that she wants to share things with me, but it's to the point where she wants to hide everything from them because she's afraid they could get upset.

Yes, I got that. I guess I don’t understand why you feel your parents should know things that would upset them that she doesn’t want to share? Like I assume she’ll have to tell them about the engagement eventually and the stuff she was able to avoid them knowing about (failed classes, pregnancy scare) what would be the benefit of them knowing after the fact?

But still, if it stresses you out you should tell her that. You can tell her you think she should tell your parents if that’s really what’s bothering you or you can just ask her not to tell you things she’s not comfortable sharing with your parents (yet or ever). But then you’ll know a good deal less about her life. May be good or bad depending on your relationship I guess.

Yea. You made this same point 3 times already. Seriously, how old are you? Your posts read like you are a preteen. As we said before, Grow up.

[Anonymous]

My go to answer in these situations is: I won't volunteer your information, but if I'm asked directly about it, I won't lie either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s your sister. Jesus. You don’t have to tell your parents everything she tells you. What are you, 12?

Agree.