I don’t like my 9 year old DD

[Anonymous]

Sorry it's totally abnormal to dislike your kid

Get help

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry it's totally abnormal to dislike your kid

Get help

You think kids don't sense that? That's part of the equation and if you don't see that you are in denial.

[Anonymous]

Why do people post things with subject lines like this? It’s awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is turning into a monster. She has a bad attitude on a daily basis. She’s incredibly disrespectful to me in particular. Is this a normal phase? How long does it last? What are tips for managing this?

I'll trade you for a mouthy, disrespectful four year old boy. Imagine being disrespected on a daily basis by someone who pees themselves, spills their drinks, can't wipe their own poop, can't fetch their own snacks and drinks, constantly breaks things, unbuckles their seatbelt during car rides, and is generally mad when you're not there even though he hates you.

That’s just a toddler. Pretty much every parent experiences that.

[Anonymous]

She could be going through PMS.

My DD definitely went through PMS once a month for about 8 months before she actually got her first period. Her doctor said this was fairly normal as hormones fluctuate and change. This started for my DD at around age 10.5.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do people post things with subject lines like this? It’s awful.

You can hate them but still love them. Stop being so dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is turning into a monster. She has a bad attitude on a daily basis. She’s incredibly disrespectful to me in particular. Is this a normal phase? How long does it last? What are tips for managing this?

I'll trade you for a mouthy, disrespectful four year old boy. Imagine being disrespected on a daily basis by someone who pees themselves, spills their drinks, can't wipe their own poop, can't fetch their own snacks and drinks, constantly breaks things, unbuckles their seatbelt during car rides, and is generally mad when you're not there even though he hates you.

That’s just a toddler. Pretty much every parent experiences that.

What? A) 4 years old isn’t a toddler. B) PP’s kid sounds really angry and miserable. That’s not normal for a 4 year old. Yes, 4 year olds have difficult behavior but don’t typically dislike their parents. Something is wrong there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people post things with subject lines like this? It’s awful.

You can hate them but still love them. Stop being so dramatic.

It's a terrible way for OP to frame the issue in her mind. The child is having some behavioral problems in pre-puberty. That's frustrating. It shouldn't mean OP considers the daughter a bad person or doesn't "like her." It's hopefully just a phase, not a characteristic intrinsic to this child and their relationship. And she should absolutely never speak of the child like this to anyone because that would be super damaging if the child ever heard it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You "don't like" your child? That's a bit extreme don't you think?

I agree with that sentiment with my own kid a lot of the time, although I would describe it as she's "not very good company". Slightly nicer Some phases/behaviors are really difficult and not fun. It's only human to acknowledge it (privately).

OP, when does DD go to bed? Is it possible she is just tired? A lot of elementary schoolers I know don't get nearly enough sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry it's totally abnormal to dislike your kid

Get help

How old is your kid? Three? Or maybe you're still pregnant. Basically, shut up toddler mommy. Those of us with older kids understand what OP is going through. You'll get there eventually you smug little wench.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is turning into a monster. She has a bad attitude on a daily basis. She’s incredibly disrespectful to me in particular. Is this a normal phase? How long does it last? What are tips for managing this?

I'll trade you for a mouthy, disrespectful four year old boy. Imagine being disrespected on a daily basis by someone who pees themselves, spills their drinks, can't wipe their own poop, can't fetch their own snacks and drinks, constantly breaks things, unbuckles their seatbelt during car rides, and is generally mad when you're not there even though he hates you.

This is not normal behavior for a four year old. I hope you are having him evaluated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is turning into a monster. She has a bad attitude on a daily basis. She’s incredibly disrespectful to me in particular. Is this a normal phase? How long does it last? What are tips for managing this?

I'll trade you for a mouthy, disrespectful four year old boy. Imagine being disrespected on a daily basis by someone who pees themselves, spills their drinks, can't wipe their own poop, can't fetch their own snacks and drinks, constantly breaks things, unbuckles their seatbelt during car rides, and is generally mad when you're not there even though he hates you.

Virtually all of this seems completely normal for a four year old boy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is turning into a monster. She has a bad attitude on a daily basis. She’s incredibly disrespectful to me in particular. Is this a normal phase? How long does it last? What are tips for managing this?

I'll trade you for a mouthy, disrespectful four year old boy. Imagine being disrespected on a daily basis by someone who pees themselves, spills their drinks, can't wipe their own poop, can't fetch their own snacks and drinks, constantly breaks things, unbuckles their seatbelt during car rides, and is generally mad when you're not there even though he hates you.

Virtually all of this seems completely normal for a four year old boy

Agreed. The only thing we really come down hard on is taking off the seatbelt. Tell them you’re going to turn around and go home when they start to do it (and then follow through if needed).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry it's totally abnormal to dislike your kid

Get help

How old is your kid? Three? Or maybe you're still pregnant. Basically, shut up toddler mommy. Those of us with older kids understand what OP is going through. You'll get there eventually you smug little wench.

I agree the "abnormal" PP is out of line but why would a toddler mom NOT understand "not liking" their kid lol. That's the phase when I've least liked my kid!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is turning into a monster. She has a bad attitude on a daily basis. She’s incredibly disrespectful to me in particular. Is this a normal phase? How long does it last? What are tips for managing this?

GEt off DCUM and get some parent training and some therapy. You don't need to like her, but you do need to get your act together, take care of your own junk and triggers, and figure out how to parent your kid