would you rather bring kids up in NYC or the NY burbs?

[Anonymous]

There are so many beautiful family friendly neighborhoods in nyc. Personally with that HHI I would do upper west side, or somewhere in Brooklyn like Cobble Hill.

[Anonymous]

I need greenery and a sense of space. Living somewhere like Bronxville would be no brainer for me. Excellent schools too. Short commute to the city for when you need to go into the office.

I also like the Chappaqua and Bedford area but it is further out. Rye and Larchmont are also lovely.

The grit of cities wear you out after a while and kids can always have the fun of discovering the city after college. And not dealing with having crazy NYC politicians as your representatives is a delight. Come to think of it, a good reason for CT is to avoid NY politicians altogether.

[Anonymous]

What’s the appeal of staying the city? Your commute and your own convenience?

Shouldn’t your kids be the priority?

What do you think is best for them?

[Anonymous]

Op - this post is making me feel better about the fact that I can’t decide!

I think it’s maybe easier in the dc area? In nyc once you’re in the burbs you are in the burbs (long commute) and once you are in the city you are very in the city (v few yards, so expensive). It’s vv hard to decide!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume HHI around $800k. Which would you choose between Manhattan, BK, Northern burbs?

Isn't this why they invented Connecticut ?

No one knows why Connecticut exists.

[Anonymous]

I'm not an expert on NYC but to me, it would depend on where I had to commute for work and how often I needed to go into the city. In other words, it would depend on which suburbs were most convenient to getting into where I was going in the city (assuming you work in Manhattan).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bronxville or Eastchester, Westchester

This. I really like Bronxville. That's where I would go if I had a super-high HHI.

[Anonymous]

In this scenario, do I or do I not have phuck you money?

[Anonymous]

I would choose the city. Then again, I grew up in Ridgewood, and it would absolutely be my choice if I didn’t want the city.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bronxville or Eastchester, Westchester

This. I really like Bronxville. That's where I would go if I had a super-high HHI.

Bronxville is super expensive to buy, and then there’s the property taxes!

I have a lot of friends who live there and, frankly, I would not recommend. Yes, it’s nice and convenient, but it’s super small and insular. Everyone knows everyone’s business and God forbid you have a kid who’s not super sporty or different in any way. Gossip spreads like wildfire.

Also, while the school is great, for some reason, at least half my friends send their kids to private.

[Anonymous]

I was raised in Westchester and later commuted into NYC from CT. Had a wonderful quality of life. I liked having access to a major metropolis without living in the thick of its problems (homeless/mentally ill people wandering around, ridiculous real estate prices, no parking, crazy private school culture).

Kids who grow up in the city grow up too fast. They are worldly but jaded. Do you really want to have to explain addiction to your first grader? Teaching them to clutch their bags when walking down the street. It is a bit of a survival mindset (unless you are very wealthy and then create a bubble that is not normal).

Don’t you want backyard BBQ’s? Jumping in piles of leaves? Making snowmen in your yard? Little kids safely walking their new puppy around the block? Learning how to ride a bike.

Alternatives exist but I really appreciate growing up the way I did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was raised in Westchester and later commuted into NYC from CT. Had a wonderful quality of life. I liked having access to a major metropolis without living in the thick of its problems (homeless/mentally ill people wandering around, ridiculous real estate prices, no parking, crazy private school culture).

Kids who grow up in the city grow up too fast. They are worldly but jaded. Do you really want to have to explain addiction to your first grader? Teaching them to clutch their bags when walking down the street. It is a bit of a survival mindset (unless you are very wealthy and then create a bubble that is not normal).

Don’t you want backyard BBQ’s? Jumping in piles of leaves? Making snowmen in your yard? Little kids safely walking their new puppy around the block? Learning how to ride a bike.

Alternatives exist but I really appreciate growing up the way I did.

You and I have different definitions of "quality of life."

[Anonymous]

Burbs. Honestly I’d be worried about the preciousness that NYC-raised kids develop, and I say that as someone born in Manhattan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume HHI around $800k. Which would you choose between Manhattan, BK, Northern burbs?

Isn't this why they invented Connecticut ?

Op - sure: Ct/ westchester. I prefer westchester but could be Ct for sure

+1 for Westchester

[Anonymous]

NYC or Brooklyn