What did/does you 8-9yo son wear to sleep?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 8 year old still wears briefs like themed ones like Minecraft, Star Wars, etc. Is that too babyish at this age? He seems to like them but maybe we'll try boxer briefs soon. He's heading to sleep away camp next summer so none of this crossed my mind!

I wouldn't judge a kid for it because I'm an adult and not a pedophile, but I think they are tacky and would discourage buying them.

[Anonymous]

I understand why you're posting this and asking, but honestly, at 8/9 I'd follow his lead, ask him what he wants to wear to sleep at camp, and provide what he asks for. Yes, that might lead to the same scenario as your daughter with the bra but:

1) Kids being embarrassed about their own choices isn't exactly terrible. Hard to get through adolescence without having at least one of those moments (particularly as far as clothes). It's super low stakes and character building.
2) I think you're sending the wrong message - "I've found out what other kids wear so that you won't be embarrassed, here it is" rather than "wear what you want and if other people don't like it, shrug." I know you're not going to say that, but your actions do.

I understand kids want to fit in and avoid embarrassment, and I don't begrudge them that, but I'm not taking that goal on for myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand why you're posting this and asking, but honestly, at 8/9 I'd follow his lead, ask him what he wants to wear to sleep at camp, and provide what he asks for. Yes, that might lead to the same scenario as your daughter with the bra but:

1) Kids being embarrassed about their own choices isn't exactly terrible. Hard to get through adolescence without having at least one of those moments (particularly as far as clothes). It's super low stakes and character building.
2) I think you're sending the wrong message - "I've found out what other kids wear so that you won't be embarrassed, here it is" rather than "wear what you want and if other people don't like it, shrug." I know you're not going to say that, but your actions do.

I understand kids want to fit in and avoid embarrassment, and I don't begrudge them that, but I'm not taking that goal on for myself.

Or worse, teaching them that goal is a worthy one.

[Anonymous]

Our 8-yo wears loose boxers (his regular underwear) with no shirt at home, and will probably do the same at camp.

But I sort of agree with "let your kid decide what he likes." Maybe buy one of a few different options and let him choose. You should have your answer after a few nights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand why you're posting this and asking, but honestly, at 8/9 I'd follow his lead, ask him what he wants to wear to sleep at camp, and provide what he asks for. Yes, that might lead to the same scenario as your daughter with the bra but:

1) Kids being embarrassed about their own choices isn't exactly terrible. Hard to get through adolescence without having at least one of those moments (particularly as far as clothes). It's super low stakes and character building.
2) I think you're sending the wrong message - "I've found out what other kids wear so that you won't be embarrassed, here it is" rather than "wear what you want and if other people don't like it, shrug." I know you're not going to say that, but your actions do.

I understand kids want to fit in and avoid embarrassment, and I don't begrudge them that, but I'm not taking that goal on for myself.

Or worse, teaching them that goal is a worthy one.

Op - I agree, but he has mentioned several times being concerned about “fitting in” and he doesn’t have any older boy role models who would give him advice on this. I wouldn’t do any of this on my own, and I’m not actually going to tell him about any of this but I think I might just slip a few pairs of boxer briefs into his bag so he has the option if he wants them. For the sleeping I’m more wondering if sleeping without a shirt is a normal and acceptable thing at this age or if I need to talk with him about considering wearing a shirt to bed. And if matching pj sets aren’t really a thing I’ll pack a pack of Hanes white t-shirts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand why you're posting this and asking, but honestly, at 8/9 I'd follow his lead, ask him what he wants to wear to sleep at camp, and provide what he asks for. Yes, that might lead to the same scenario as your daughter with the bra but:

1) Kids being embarrassed about their own choices isn't exactly terrible. Hard to get through adolescence without having at least one of those moments (particularly as far as clothes). It's super low stakes and character building.
2) I think you're sending the wrong message - "I've found out what other kids wear so that you won't be embarrassed, here it is" rather than "wear what you want and if other people don't like it, shrug." I know you're not going to say that, but your actions do.

I understand kids want to fit in and avoid embarrassment, and I don't begrudge them that, but I'm not taking that goal on for myself.

Or worse, teaching them that goal is a worthy one.

Op - I agree, but he has mentioned several times being concerned about “fitting in” and he doesn’t have any older boy role models who would give him advice on this. I wouldn’t do any of this on my own, and I’m not actually going to tell him about any of this but I think I might just slip a few pairs of boxer briefs into his bag so he has the option if he wants them. For the sleeping I’m more wondering if sleeping without a shirt is a normal and acceptable thing at this age or if I need to talk with him about considering wearing a shirt to bed. And if matching pj sets aren’t really a thing I’ll pack a pack of Hanes white t-shirts.

PP here. My response to "I'm concerned I won't fit it" isn't "let me make sure you have the right clothes" it's "you're an awesome kid, and I'm sure the other kids will see that. And if they don't, you'll be okay! Look out for other kids who also don't seem to be fitting in - often they make the best friends."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand why you're posting this and asking, but honestly, at 8/9 I'd follow his lead, ask him what he wants to wear to sleep at camp, and provide what he asks for. Yes, that might lead to the same scenario as your daughter with the bra but:

1) Kids being embarrassed about their own choices isn't exactly terrible. Hard to get through adolescence without having at least one of those moments (particularly as far as clothes). It's super low stakes and character building.
2) I think you're sending the wrong message - "I've found out what other kids wear so that you won't be embarrassed, here it is" rather than "wear what you want and if other people don't like it, shrug." I know you're not going to say that, but your actions do.

I understand kids want to fit in and avoid embarrassment, and I don't begrudge them that, but I'm not taking that goal on for myself.

Or worse, teaching them that goal is a worthy one.

Op - I agree, but he has mentioned several times being concerned about “fitting in” and he doesn’t have any older boy role models who would give him advice on this. I wouldn’t do any of this on my own, and I’m not actually going to tell him about any of this but I think I might just slip a few pairs of boxer briefs into his bag so he has the option if he wants them. For the sleeping I’m more wondering if sleeping without a shirt is a normal and acceptable thing at this age or if I need to talk with him about considering wearing a shirt to bed. And if matching pj sets aren’t really a thing I’ll pack a pack of Hanes white t-shirts.

PP here. My response to "I'm concerned I won't fit it" isn't "let me make sure you have the right clothes" it's "you're an awesome kid, and I'm sure the other kids will see that. And if they don't, you'll be okay! Look out for other kids who also don't seem to be fitting in - often they make the best friends."

I did say that, but for an anxious kid this is the type of thing that could enhance or really challenge his ability to have a positive experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would an 8 or 9 year old girl need a bra?

I needed a bra when I was 9.

[Anonymous]

If these kids are checking out their friends underwear you have bigger things to worry about.

[Anonymous]

Most boys were just underpants on camp they may start in pajamas put will all want to be the same someone will say pajamas are for little boys

[Anonymous]

My DS11 wears briefs and character PJs at home. At sleepaway camp he just slept in regular clothes shorts/sweatpants. I offered to buy him plain PJs but he didn’t want to bother with changing. He also doesn’t have any texture issues and is comfortable sleeping in whatever clothes he is wearing.

[Anonymous]

Mine asked to wear boxer briefs around age 8 - I guess they were on his radar?

He puts on clothes for next day (basically workout clothes) in evening after bath and sleeps in them. If he has to wear nice clothes next day for some reason, he will just sleep in random tee and shorts. Not a pj fan (really since starting elementary school).

[Anonymous]

My 9 year old just requested "plain underwear" as he doesn't want anyone at school getting a glimpse of Pikachu or Yoshi if his pants slip down.
To bed he wears a junk t-shirt (like old baseball team, walk-a-thon, etc.) and cloth shorts.

[Anonymous]

My son just wears underpants to bed since he was 4 years old at camp my son said that all the boys just wore underwear to bed that was when he was 8 years old

[Anonymous]

These “what does your kid wear to bed “ posts come up way too much. I think a creep is behind these posts. Why would it matter ? There’s just something about the OPs that is not right.