Disagreement with spouse on DC Pride

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first couple years after I came out as a young person, I went to Pride parades. For me and my queer friend group, they just weren't our thing. Obviously that wasn't a reflrction of our support for the community.

Meant to say that I went *only* in the early years. Expressed my pride in plenty of other ways.

[Anonymous]

Lesbian and mother of a queer high school daughter here. I can’t remember the last time my wife and I went to Pride. DD is excited to go with her friends. We’re excited to stay home, relax and have cocktails on the porch.

#TeamHusband 😬

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lesbian and mother of a queer high school daughter here. I can’t remember the last time my wife and I went to Pride. DD is excited to go with her friends. We’re excited to stay home, relax and have cocktails on the porch.

#TeamHusband 😬

Fellow lesbian. I think the last time I went was in 2017? 2018? Something like that. I was taking my trans niece the first year she came out because her parents couldn’t face the crowds. They loved her and were supportive but the crowds are bad. It’ll be fine, OP, if your DH is otherwise supportive of your DD. It’s nice that you’re excited to take her.

[Anonymous]

Lesbian here. I love pride. DW HATES pride. One of our kids LOVES to go with me. The other kid can't stand it the crowds, noise, etc.

So I take one kid to Pride and she takes the other kid to do something else special.

Her (and his) distaste of pride has nothing to do with supporting LGBTQIA folks. They hate the crowds, the loud music, etc.

I wish we could go as a family, but when I have forced them to go, they were miserable.

[Anonymous]

Queer mom who doesn't like crowds-and the ones at my local pride tend to be drunken. I think the pp had a good point that there are plenty of small and low key events through the month. I think you should reset your expectations-standing around in the blazing sun with a bunch of wasted dudes is not the only way to show love and acceptance of your child.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't go to Pride either, OP, unless my child had no other adult to go with. Hate all parades and similar events!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not surprised your daughter came out.

Ha, yeah - we sprayed her with the "gay" spray just to be double sure.

This was the whole reason for the post, pp. Trolly troll was baiting, waiting for someone to pull this out.

[Anonymous]

Op - just curious. Why was it important to take your child to pride events her entire life?

[Anonymous]

Another lesbian who doesn’t go to Pride parades. My wife and I do plenty of other things with our lbgbtq+ community, but the crowds and noise of Pride make me stressed and anxious. So I’d echo everyone else who suggests focusing on your spouse’s relationship with DD and not letting a parade carry too much weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lesbian and mother of a queer high school daughter here. I can’t remember the last time my wife and I went to Pride. DD is excited to go with her friends. We’re excited to stay home, relax and have cocktails on the porch.

#TeamHusband 😬

HA! OP here, thanks for this.

It is quite possible that I'm more excited that my teen daughter wants to hang out with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op - just curious. Why was it important to take your child to pride events her entire life?

I wouldn't say it was important but something that we enjoyed doing. I live walkable to most parade and festivals in DC for a long time and would attend any and all. unlike my spouse, I love a good festival.

[Anonymous]

OP, enjoy your tradition! In a way, aren’t you sort of excited to have her all to yourself tomorrow? Enjoy and congratulations on establishing a wonderfully supportive relationship!

[Anonymous]

Not everyone needs to celebrate someone else’s lifestyle and/or preferences. This is one of the most narcissistic things of our time right now.

[Anonymous]

Did OP say the spouse is male?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter and I have been going to pride together for the last 10 years or so. It's one of our favorite traditions. This year is a big year as my daughter came out to us - so I feel both my spouse and I should attend to support her (she's 14). My spouse does not like big events and rarely goes, but I feel like this one year they can suck it up and be there to support our daughter.

I don't really have a question I guess, I'm just venting because I'm annoyed. My daughter doesn't seem to care, she's just excited for her first Pride being out. I can't figure out why it bothers me so much.

Did you not notice the 14 years your spouse has been supporting your daughter???