Before getting married, make sure to go on a trip to a third world country

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I read this book called “The Defining Decade” by Meg Jay, and it says that potential couples should go on a vacation together to a third world country before getting engaged.

Apparently, vacationing in a place like Nicaragua is a good simulator for marriage. Do you agree with this?

The correct word is “developing country.”

[Anonymous]

I'm not rich and I'm not spending my valuable time or my valuable money in a sh*thole country just because some academic thinks its a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not rich and I'm not spending my valuable time or my valuable money in a sh*thole country just because some academic thinks its a good idea.

You do, every day.

[Anonymous]

Go to a poor country and then fling a handful of coins on the road. All the poors will descend to pick the coins and you can take really great pictures of poor people with desperate lives. Its great pictures for less than a dollar.

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[Anonymous]

I have no desire to ever go to a 3rd world Country

[Anonymous]

Can you spell out what the theory is OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you spell out what the theory is OP?

Not OP, but basically before you get married you should do something with your SO that tests both of you. Something difficult.

[Anonymous]

We walked around the North Philly slums, does that count?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think people here are understanding the premise. I don't agree with the premise, but it is not about a vacation, it is about how you deal with difficult and inconvenient situations as a team.

I think that's important, but traveling in a third world country only gets at certain parts of that and not the parts that are likely to come up in everyday married life. Sounds like a hokey book.

Most well-off travelers are not encountering "difficult and inconvenient" situations in developing countries though. You are usually getting a level of service and luxury that is unimaginable in the US for an UMC person.

I assume you have never traveled anywhere given that you're using the term "third world" which has been passe for the last 25+ yrs.

[Anonymous]

I went to Nicaragua solo a couple years before getting married. The people may be poor, but as an American you’re still rich and have access to rich people stuff and will be pretty comfortable. So I don’t get it? I mean, it’s not like you’re going on a caravan through the Sahara in 1832.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you spell out what the theory is OP?

Not OP, but basically before you get married you should do something with your SO that tests both of you. Something difficult.

Seeing how bad other people have it is something that tests you? Poverty-cation is not difficult for those living in a Hilton while viewing poverty and eating room service.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you spell out what the theory is OP?

Not OP, but basically before you get married you should do something with your SO that tests both of you. Something difficult.

Seeing how bad other people have it is something that tests you? Poverty-cation is not difficult for those living in a Hilton while viewing poverty and eating room service.

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Today in clueless rich people wow

Maybe a cheaper version of this is to take a backpacking trip somewhere really rural and remote, like Montana? I get what the author is saying with the advice

Even a trip like that is out of the range for most working class people.

Guess marriage is just for middle class and wealthy people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read this book called “The Defining Decade” by Meg Jay, and it says that potential couples should go on a vacation together to a third world country before getting engaged.

Apparently, vacationing in a place like Nicaragua is a good simulator for marriage. Do you agree with this?

The correct word is “developing country.”

Even that term can be really misleading. Some parts of Nigeria, for example, are much more developed than some parts of the US.

[Anonymous]

I still don't get how this works. It's not like we experienced the difficulty of poverty in Peru ourselves. We saw it, experienced it as tourists, etc but I have no idea how that would have tested us.