If you were kicked out as an adult, what did you do after?

[Anonymous]

Kicked out 11 with my 4 year old sister, a women who lost her Foster Parent license took us in. She wasn't perfect, she locked up food, but she also signed us up for cheerleading, and other after school activities. The women ended up adopting our youngest sibling, but kept us until she died of 'old age.'

I went to university before her death, my sister went to another sibling on a naval base, and my youngest sister had to fend for herself.

I am now a software engineer, supporting my 21 year old sister as she finishes her teaching degree. The youngest is staying with her partner in a relationship I don't approve of, but doesn't seem to be detrimental to her health (besides the age gap.)

[Anonymous]

PT 2.
13 year old brother was kicked out at 18 and lived under a bridge, and couch surfed until he got his girlfriend pregnant. They've been surviving off of government benefits since their first child was conceived at 17, he's now 36 with 6 children.

12 year old brother ended up marrying into a family with an opioid problem at 17 (to a 40yr/old.) Out of the 5 of them 10 years ago, there are only 2, his wife and his step son.

[Anonymous]

at 18, I left for college and never went back.
Got student loans and worked. Made it through just fine.
Parents had a lot of kids - I was the oldest - and didn't pay for anything.
Not understanding how this is a thing?

[Anonymous]

I got TF out as soon as possible. My brother was kicked out at 20 or 21. Neither of us speak to our family. He does on rare occasions. I never do. I got a crappy job that barely covered rent for several years.

[Anonymous]

My dear co-worker
Both parents lawyers. Her father died when she was 7
Her mother married several times and was very irresponsible with money
She was sick with chickenpox when her mother moved to a boyfriend’s home. This step father who she hardly knew got her the medicine she needed and she moved in with her older brother
She got a job at an insurance company and made a career for herself there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:at 18, I left for college and never went back.
Got student loans and worked. Made it through just fine.
Parents had a lot of kids - I was the oldest - and didn't pay for anything.
Not understanding how this is a thing?

That’s much more difficult to do today. Without a co-signer, a traditional undergrad student can only take out up to $27,000 in federal student loans total over the course of their 4 years, not per year. That limit hasn’t increased since 2007. Which averages out to about $5-6k/year limits. The cheapest instate schools are $10k/year nowadays in tuition alone, and then you add in bare minimum $900/month rent in a shared living situation. Then add in transportation, food & books.

Hopefully, that explains it for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:at 18, I left for college and never went back.
Got student loans and worked. Made it through just fine.
Parents had a lot of kids - I was the oldest - and didn't pay for anything.
Not understanding how this is a thing?

That’s much more difficult to do today. Without a co-signer, a traditional undergrad student can only take out up to $27,000 in federal student loans total over the course of their 4 years, not per year. That limit hasn’t increased since 2007. Which averages out to about $5-6k/year limits. The cheapest instate schools are $10k/year nowadays in tuition alone, and then you add in bare minimum $900/month rent in a shared living situation. Then add in transportation, food & books.

Hopefully, that explains it for you.

It’s actually 31000 now. And most people can probably earn around 15k/year for part-time and summer jobs. Find super cheap housing and it’s possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:at 18, I left for college and never went back.
Got student loans and worked. Made it through just fine.
Parents had a lot of kids - I was the oldest - and didn't pay for anything.
Not understanding how this is a thing?

That’s much more difficult to do today. Without a co-signer, a traditional undergrad student can only take out up to $27,000 in federal student loans total over the course of their 4 years, not per year. That limit hasn’t increased since 2007. Which averages out to about $5-6k/year limits. The cheapest instate schools are $10k/year nowadays in tuition alone, and then you add in bare minimum $900/month rent in a shared living situation. Then add in transportation, food & books.

Hopefully, that explains it for you.

It’s actually 31000 now. And most people can probably earn around 15k/year for part-time and summer jobs. Find super cheap housing and it’s possible.

Nope, it’s $27,000 for traditional students (17-23 y/o, unmarried, childless, non-military, not emancipated due to abuse). And any “super cheap” housing will be far away from campus & therefore require a car, if it even exists.

The loans don’t even cover tuition in full, even at the cheapest instate school or community college. $15K/year for living expenses is laughable.

[Anonymous]

teeny tiny violins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:teeny tiny violins.

Which post are you replying to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:teeny tiny violins.

Which post are you replying to?

*post(s)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:teeny tiny violins.

Which post are you replying to?

ALL of them.

[Anonymous]

I have a daughter , 21 years old, paid fees for College, she failed, got kicked out of collage, paid the county college, not studying,, not ready to work, just partying and changing boyfriends.
Planning to kick her out, as she constantly fight and yells back at us. There has to be a reason why parents have to kick their kids out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Effectively kicked out at 18. I fortunately had enough money from scholarships and my mom’s life insurance that college was doable with minimal work study and a few loans. I did go home a few times for Christmas but otherwise stayed with my sister and friends during breaks. I was travelling for most of the summers during college, funded by scholarships or teaching English. First couple of years out of college I supported myself fine with various jobs and low COL lifestyle (roommates etc). When I needed to get on my feet after college I stayed with my aunt a few months while I took the train into the city to temp as I looked for my first “real” job. A few years of that then a full ride to law school, and have been comfortably supporting myself ever since.

Elderly dad and stepmom now periodically beg for money. They can suck it!

I’m glad you were able to succeed. I’m fascinated that your father and stepmother ask you for money. Can you say more about that? What do they actually say to you? Is there any acknowledgment whatsoever from them that they did not support you and completely left you to fend for yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:at 18, I left for college and never went back.
Got student loans and worked. Made it through just fine.
Parents had a lot of kids - I was the oldest - and didn't pay for anything.
Not understanding how this is a thing?

That’s much more difficult to do today. Without a co-signer, a traditional undergrad student can only take out up to $27,000 in federal student loans total over the course of their 4 years, not per year. That limit hasn’t increased since 2007. Which averages out to about $5-6k/year limits. The cheapest instate schools are $10k/year nowadays in tuition alone, and then you add in bare minimum $900/month rent in a shared living situation. Then add in transportation, food & books.

Hopefully, that explains it for you.

It’s actually 31000 now. And most people can probably earn around 15k/year for part-time and summer jobs. Find super cheap housing and it’s possible.

Nope, it’s $27,000 for traditional students (17-23 y/o, unmarried, childless, non-military, not emancipated due to abuse). And any “super cheap” housing will be far away from campus & therefore require a car, if it even exists.

The loans don’t even cover tuition in full, even at the cheapest instate school or community college. $15K/year for living expenses is laughable.

It’s 31,000. https://studentaid.gov/understand-aid/types/loans/subsidized-unsubsidized#how-much-can-i-borrow