are we being counseled out?

[Anonymous]

I think the school is just demonstrating concern for your child’s mental health. Depression and anxiety are far from rare. Any good school knows this and wants to be supportive. My son is now in college but his k-8 wouldn’t have hesitated to have such a meeting. I think it depends on the HOS’s usual attitude/involvement. Our HOS was a very kind, concerned guy. He frequently checked in with my son and other students to see how they were doing so it wouldn’t have raised an eyebrow for me.

[Anonymous]

I would be way more concerned about my kid’s mental health and well being than I would be over the prospect of potentially getting counseled out. Is your kid stressed/ anxious? Do you have them in therapy to support him/ her - and not “support” to keep them from getting asked to move elsewhere but to really understand what’s going on. This school may not be the best fit for your kid regardless of what the outcome is on whether your family is asked back after next year or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be way more concerned about my kid’s mental health and well being than I would be over the prospect of potentially getting counseled out. Is your kid stressed/ anxious? Do you have them in therapy to support him/ her - and not “support” to keep them from getting asked to move elsewhere but to really understand what’s going on. This school may not be the best fit for your kid regardless of what the outcome is on whether your family is asked back after next year or not.

This. The focus should be on helping your kid and if that means a different school then move them.

[Anonymous]

I was almost counseled out of an elite school in 7th grade. Wasn’t paying attention or doing homework. I fixed it and worked harder but graduated probably in the middle of the class.

[Anonymous]

Be on the lookout for signs that your DD is going to get her 1st period. I know you are currently in 4th grade- but the roller coaster of hormones can be impacting behavior.
I am sure your are on this - especially since you checked in with her pediatrician.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think they will wait to see if it gets better and if it doesn't, they will counsel you out for 6th grade. The classy schools give families advance notice so they can apply out for the following year.

How depressing. I was always the perfect child and never came close to being kicked out of school, so this is...just very distressing.

very telling reply here, imho. weird you bring it back to you OP. Do you always compare your child against yourself and how "perfect" you were?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think they will wait to see if it gets better and if it doesn't, they will counsel you out for 6th grade. The classy schools give families advance notice so they can apply out for the following year.

How depressing. I was always the perfect child and never came close to being kicked out of school, so this is...just very distressing.

very telling reply here, imho. weird you bring it back to you OP. Do you always compare your child against yourself and how "perfect" you were?

Um, no. But it's pretty embarrassing to have my daughter kicked out of private school, yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think they will wait to see if it gets better and if it doesn't, they will counsel you out for 6th grade. The classy schools give families advance notice so they can apply out for the following year.

How depressing. I was always the perfect child and never came close to being kicked out of school, so this is...just very distressing.

very telling reply here, imho. weird you bring it back to you OP. Do you always compare your child against yourself and how "perfect" you were?

Um, no. But it's pretty embarrassing to have my daughter kicked out of private school, yes.

If there’s any chance of dd overhearing this kind of thought make sure she understands you don’t find her embarrassing or worse, an embarrassment

[Anonymous]

Drives me crazy that privates only want perfect kids!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think they will wait to see if it gets better and if it doesn't, they will counsel you out for 6th grade. The classy schools give families advance notice so they can apply out for the following year.

How depressing. I was always the perfect child and never came close to being kicked out of school, so this is...just very distressing.

very telling reply here, imho. weird you bring it back to you OP. Do you always compare your child against yourself and how "perfect" you were?

Um, no. But it's pretty embarrassing to have my daughter kicked out of private school, yes.

What are you doing to support your daughter? My experience has been that schools are much more willing to be flexible and let a student stay if they think the parents are partnering with them to deal with problems. Parents who are in denial are faster to be told to leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drives me crazy that privates only want perfect kids!

They just don’t have the resources to deal with learning and behavioral issues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Drives me crazy that privates only want perfect kids!

They just don’t have the resources to deal with learning and behavioral issues.

Some don’t. Some could but choose not to, regardless of all the DEI rhetoric on their web pages.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think they will wait to see if it gets better and if it doesn't, they will counsel you out for 6th grade. The classy schools give families advance notice so they can apply out for the following year.

How depressing. I was always the perfect child and never came close to being kicked out of school, so this is...just very distressing.

very telling reply here, imho. weird you bring it back to you OP. Do you always compare your child against yourself and how "perfect" you were?

Um, no. But it's pretty embarrassing to have my daughter kicked out of private school, yes.

What are you doing to support your daughter? My experience has been that schools are much more willing to be flexible and let a student stay if they think the parents are partnering with them to deal with problems. Parents who are in denial are faster to be told to leave.

Honestly, the earlier bedtime seems to have solved most of the issue. We didn't realize she was reading in bed until 11:30 pm or later. Now she's in bed earlier and asleep by 9:30 - I guess just being in there triggers sleep, whether she wants to keep reading or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think they will wait to see if it gets better and if it doesn't, they will counsel you out for 6th grade. The classy schools give families advance notice so they can apply out for the following year.

How depressing. I was always the perfect child and never came close to being kicked out of school, so this is...just very distressing.

OP I was speculating. 6th grade is far away. So don't read too much into it. The people I know who were counseled out were overwhelmed academically, and it was about finding a different school with less pressure and more support. All students grow and change as they get older. Anyway, counseled out is NOT the same as kicked out. Don't confuse the two.

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Anonymous wrote:very telling reply here, imho. weird you bring it back to you OP. Do you always compare your child against yourself and how "perfect" you were?

Um, no. But it's pretty embarrassing to have my daughter kicked out of private school, yes.

OP I'm the PP from upthread who said counseled out is not the same as kicked out. Was this latest post from you? What do you need help with to understand?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One way you know you're being counseled out is if you aren't offered a re-enrollment contract for your child when all the other families are offered theirs. That was our prompt to immediately start looking for another school for our child for the following academic year. (It all worked out).

We've already paid next year's tuition.

It sounds like you have a binding contract. If they didn't want your kid, they wouldn't have accepted your payment