Dramatic mother makes me want to fall asleep forever

[Anonymous]

You can’t have it both ways, love. When you live and are taken care of by your parents, you are subject to their rules. When you are grown up enough to move out, you get to set the rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, yes I live at home. But i dont wanna move out is that weird? The only time i wanna move out is times like these. But i know if i moved out id be miserable. Ive really never had the desire to live alone

Yes, it is weird. You don’t have to live alone: I lived with roommates in my early 20s. Oh no, you might actually have to work to find roommates and move yourself out!

If you stay stunted as a child, you’re going to be treated like a child. When you decide to grow up, you’ll be able to do what you please with your time and energy. Right now, you’re choosing to be a child. So Mommy and Daddy get to decide how you spend your time.

+1

Your language is very child-like OP.

Support yourself, house yourself, and live life on your terms.

[Anonymous]

Im not muslim , and also why do i have to move out?

[Anonymous]

She’s “dramatic” but you want to “fall asleep forever.” Hmm, what does that make you? DRAMATIC, dear.

[Anonymous]

How is my language child like? Im genuinely trying to learn so i can change that? Thanks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want to d*e

Im effed arent I

You’re a child.

[Anonymous]

So, I get that you are torn between two cultures and want to break away and live your own life. But I can see how staying in your room while your mom tells your extended family that you refuse to come out and see them is pretty awkward as well.

You say you don't want to move out...then you need to plan alternate activities. Like, become a regular at a coffee shop, take up hiking, start visiting every historical site in your area, learn the public places where you can take a book or your laptop and relax.

If the thought of all of that is anxiety inducing, then maybe you have some social anxiety going on and all of the visiting is just piling on your discomfort engaging the world around you.

I would still pursue therapy. And for the posters telling OP to grow up, it's very hard to balance the Asian idea of being a child until marrying and moving out with the American idea of becoming independent ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP are you in therapy? I think you should be in therapy. I think an anonymous internet board can’t sort out all the issues here.

I know but iM desperate for reassurance. God knows Im not a bad hearted person. I just dont want anyone telling me what I have to do.

I definitely need therapy

When you are living under other people’s roof and they are financially supporting you with food and shelter, they tend to think they can tell you what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s “dramatic” but you want to “fall asleep forever.” Hmm, what does that make you? DRAMATIC, dear.

Its not dramatic because i genuinely become suicidal from it

[Anonymous]

Move out. Maybe move to another city to take a break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make a polite appearance and then excuse yourself saying you have a big project due.

Children don’t have big projects. Children live at home with Mommy and Daddy and do what Mommy and Daddy want the family to do on the weekends. If OP wants to be an adult who has “big projects” and other weekend plans, she can move out.

But Baby is too scared to move out! So she’ll stay a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is my language child like? Im genuinely trying to learn so i can change that? Thanks

Saying you want to die over what is a fairly normal adult problem. Petulant language like I just don’t want to.

Make a plan, articulate your plan, execute your plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s “dramatic” but you want to “fall asleep forever.” Hmm, what does that make you? DRAMATIC, dear.

Its not dramatic because i genuinely become suicidal from it

If you are suicidal take yourself to an ER and get some help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s “dramatic” but you want to “fall asleep forever.” Hmm, what does that make you? DRAMATIC, dear.

Its not dramatic because i genuinely become suicidal from it

OK, well I guess you just keep doing what you’re doing, since you don’t want to grow up. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

If you live at home it’s time to move out.