My friends kids can do no wrong and I’m either about to say something…

[Anonymous]

The only way to deal with people with annoying kids is to avoid them. They always think you are crazy and strict for normal parenting and having their misbehaved kids around while the parents whine about mistreatment is a double whammy. Unfortunately usually you have to just minimize your time together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He acted up significantly at school and you only did no Nintendo for a week. Oh my.. so you write a lengthy post criticizing her when you are a problem.

Actually know I’m genuinely curious.

What punishment do you think is appropriate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you don’t like or respect her. Why are you pretending, again?

I do like her, or I did. But her entire personality had been replaced. Sometimes I wonder if it’s PPD that manifested.

As far as respect. I respect a lot about her. She’s incredibly smart. A hard worker. One of the best coworkers I’ve ever had. A brilliant academic.

As a parent, no. I don’t really. She’s not abusive but I do think she’s setting her child up for failure and the main reason he’s so unlikable is because of her.

She’s causing severe long term damage to her son. Tell her. Or you aren’t a friend.

This is not just a family problem, it’s a societal problem... when mothers spoil their boys rotten.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He acted up significantly at school and you only did no Nintendo for a week. Oh my.. so you write a lengthy post criticizing her when you are a problem.

Actually know I’m genuinely curious.

What punishment do you think is appropriate?

No electronics, tv, fun outside of school and scheduled activities for a week. And, write an apology to the teacher and principal. I would come down very hard on that.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been through something similar with a friend. When I finally reached my limit and said something (with as much kindness as I could), she ended the friendship. And you know what? It was the best thing ever. I realized I had been faking it too long and her mis-perception of her child’s behavior was actually a character flaw.

Sometimes friendships run their course and I am *so glad* that I’m no longer her sounding board as her child gets suspended, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd start pulling away now. Things are just going to get more difficult with that type of dynamic as the kids age. You don't want this affecting your kid. Either with copying the behavior or being targeted by this kid.

+1

You think it's bad now? In HS, these "not my precious boy" parents are going drag you straight into their shenanigans - and guess who is going to be kicked out of school because of the other dumbarse kid? Yup, your kid. Just say no, OP. Time for better friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been through something similar with a friend. When I finally reached my limit and said something (with as much kindness as I could), she ended the friendship. And you know what? It was the best thing ever. I realized I had been faking it too long and her mis-perception of her child’s behavior was actually a character flaw.

Sometimes friendships run their course and I am *so glad* that I’m no longer her sounding board as her child gets suspended, etc.

x100000

This. Run, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He acted up significantly at school and you only did no Nintendo for a week. Oh my.. so you write a lengthy post criticizing her when you are a problem.

Actually know I’m genuinely curious.

What punishment do you think is appropriate?

No electronics, tv, fun outside of school and scheduled activities for a week. And, write an apology to the teacher and principal. I would come down very hard on that.

I’ll keep that in mind. Hopefully he never does it again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He acted up significantly at school and you only did no Nintendo for a week. Oh my.. so you write a lengthy post criticizing her when you are a problem.

Yeah, she should have put some soap in his socks and given him a code red, amirite?
WTF is wrong with you PP?

A) the punishment fit the bit of trouble, which was hardly serious.
B) these are little kids.

OP's punishment was appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He acted up significantly at school and you only did no Nintendo for a week. Oh my.. so you write a lengthy post criticizing her when you are a problem.

Yeah, she should have put some soap in his socks and given him a code red, amirite?
WTF is wrong with you PP?

A) the punishment fit the bit of trouble, which was hardly serious.
B) these are little kids.

OP's punishment was appropriate.

This was very serious and no, OP is in denial of how her child behaves and wants to criticize someone else. Little kids need consequences to understand their behavior. This is why so many kids are acting up as teens now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He acted up significantly at school and you only did no Nintendo for a week. Oh my.. so you write a lengthy post criticizing her when you are a problem.

Actually know I’m genuinely curious.

What punishment do you think is appropriate?

No electronics, tv, fun outside of school and scheduled activities for a week. And, write an apology to the teacher and principal. I would come down very hard on that.

I’ll keep that in mind. Hopefully he never does it again.

Of course he'll act up again. He knows it s not a big deal at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd start pulling away now. Things are just going to get more difficult with that type of dynamic as the kids age. You don't want this affecting your kid. Either with copying the behavior or being targeted by this kid.

+1

You think it's bad now? In HS, these "not my precious boy" parents are going drag you straight into their shenanigans - and guess who is going to be kicked out of school because of the other dumbarse kid? Yup, your kid. Just say no, OP. Time for better friends.

OP child is misbehaving at school and she's acting like it's no big deal. She isn't any better, if anything worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You took a lot of time to write this so not sure why you haven't just said this exact thing to her. A true friend would say these things with the express idea of wanting to help, not surt. Maybe she'll surprise you and actually listen to your opinion and get her DS the help he needs, assuming all of what you said is true. If she doesn't listen then do you really want her in your life? She sounds like a lot of work, and sounds chaotic.

All of this. She is doing her kid no favors and sounds annoying AF.
I try to be empathetic, but at some point would have told her ‘You kid was dead ass wrong, all of our kids are sometimes, that’s why God made parents’

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he has some possible SN, in which case she’s nearly missed her window to really make progress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd start pulling away now. Things are just going to get more difficult with that type of dynamic as the kids age. You don't want this affecting your kid. Either with copying the behavior or being targeted by this kid.

+1

You think it's bad now? In HS, these "not my precious boy" parents are going drag you straight into their shenanigans - and guess who is going to be kicked out of school because of the other dumbarse kid? Yup, your kid. Just say no, OP. Time for better friends.

OP child is misbehaving at school and she's acting like it's no big deal. She isn't any better, if anything worse.

Go away, troll.