Allowing your teen to drink while on vacay in a country where it’s legal

[Anonymous]

I would.

[Anonymous]

Yes my 18 year old (graduated hs) ordered a strawberry mojito on vacation. We all had one drink and continued on with our afternoon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I lived in the UK when I was 18. Drank there. Came back to the US for college and stopped drinking until I was 21.

This wasn’t directed at you, though, right?

What a weird reply!

Op, yes I would and did.

[Anonymous]

I would but not a cocktail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by “drink”?

Have a glass of wine with dinner? Yes.

Hang out at a bar all night? No.

Read the last sentence of the first paragraph in the original post.

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Will the thread police across all of DCUM give it a rest?

[Anonymous]

I think the premise of the question is incorrect, in that it implies that allowing your child to drink in your house in the US is illegal, which it is not.

[Anonymous]

I would, because I want my daughter to grow up thinking that alcohol is not this sexy forbidden thing. I don't want her to go nuts in college and way overdo it. I figure the occasional small amount of wine with dinner or whatever might set her up to be a responsible, moderate drinker in her adult life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the premise of the question is incorrect, in that it implies that allowing your child to drink in your house in the US is illegal, which it is not.

Op here: I didn’t say it was and didn’t mean to imply that it was. But since we don’t allow it in our house, that’s the people I’m asking. If you already allow it in your home, I already know you’d allow it elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Yes I would.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, I'm just going to answer anyway even though I'm not your target responder. Our American-French kids have practically always been allowed sips of wine or hard cider at the table, and starting at 16, French cafes allow certain low-alcohol drinks. They've always refused those, because the sips convinced them they actually don't like the taste of alcohol! It's not that surprising - DH and I drink rarely and when we do, it's never more than half a glass, so I think our children are genetically predisposed not to have much liking for alcohol.

There. Must have blown your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you allow your American teen to drink if you were on vacation where the drinking age is 16 or 18 and your teen is of age. I’m talking about one drink.

Please don’t answer if:

1. You already allow this in the US.

2. You (or partner) are not from the US and you (partner) grew up in a culture where this was fine.

3. Your kid already dabbles in stuff.

I’m talking about a pretty straight and narrow kid only.

If you're so big on rules, OP, why do you care what anyone else does? Even people who are kind of like you?

[Anonymous]

Yes. I would. And I would encourage it if the kid had any sort of interest in it; but I wouldn’t push it if the kid really didn’t want to (like, if they seem appalled by the idea I’m definitely not going to push drinking on them!) But if the kid seems like they eventually might be a social drinker, I’d prefer they try for the first few times in a legal, appropriate, and supervised setting.

[Anonymous]

I feel ok with it. I think you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t. But I wasn’t allowed to drink anything and then went nuts in college. So I’m not opposed to at least trying to teach my kids some sort of moderation before they go to college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I'm just going to answer anyway even though I'm not your target responder. Our American-French kids have practically always been allowed sips of wine or hard cider at the table, and starting at 16, French cafes allow certain low-alcohol drinks. They've always refused those, because the sips convinced them they actually don't like the taste of alcohol! It's not that surprising - DH and I drink rarely and when we do, it's never more than half a glass, so I think our children are genetically predisposed not to have much liking for alcohol.

There. Must have blown your mind.

Not really. I grew up not being allowed to drink before I was of age. Same for my siblings. I may have 1 full drink a year (spread out over 3 different evenings where I occasionally sip the drink, each evening having maybe 1/3 of a serving). I don’t think kids are infrequent drinkers because they were or weren't allowed to drink before turning 21. Im not clutching my pearls all worried about this. I’m just seeing if people who don’t allow it at home, would be adverse to it elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you allow your American teen to drink if you were on vacation where the drinking age is 16 or 18 and your teen is of age. I’m talking about one drink.

Please don’t answer if:

You already allow this in the US.

You (or partner) are not from the US and you (partner) grew up in a culture where this was fine.

Your kid already dabbles in stuff.

I’m talking about a pretty straight and narrow kid only.

Haha I think its very cute and funny how op a. Assumes they know everything their teen does. And b.That op can control everything their teen does.

Good joke OP