Explaining to a 2 year old where is brother is…
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Anonymous
| It might help if you do a little role play with figures and houses made of blocks. Make buildings representing school and home, etc. have figures representing DS, his brother, you, dad, stepmom. Physically move them around to show the routine. It helps make the abstract concrete for him. He’ll probably do it over and over again to get used to the idea. This is why okay is so important. Then when you have to take your kid to the drs office you build a doctors office out of blocks and role play that. Etc. |
Anonymous
+1 Woah! |
Anonymous
| Wtf is SS? |
Anonymous
I would've said it more kindly, but this is accurate. |
Anonymous
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So your husband divorced a pregnant woman or you are the other woman?
I agree that the solution isn't figuring out how to explain something to a 2 year old. |
Anonymous
| It sounds like you're trying to create drama about the custody arrangement. Stop doing that. |
Anonymous
I thought it was second son but that didn't make sense because he's the oldest but then I realized it's Step Son! |
Anonymous
| Has he met your step sons' mom? It may help. My two youngest siblings stayed at my mom/stepdad's while I went to my dad's 3 weekends a month. They would greet my dad (when he came to get us. Toddlers ask a lot of questions, maybe if you could say, he is at "Name of stepmom's house" and is coming back in 3 sleeps, it would help. Also, just emphasize, he's coming back. |
Anonymous
I started to argue with this post and then really started doing the math in my head. Yep you are right. |
Anonymous
+1 I guess you should of thought of the consequences for your AP actions especially when children are involved. I though the same thing about you but decided not to say anything. |
Anonymous
My math says 5-year old Step son was 3 when the OP’s baby was born… or @2yo when OPs son was conceived. |
Anonymous
Yup. So that is pretty quickly. |
Anonymous
You really have no idea. The pregnant wife could have left. Or maybe they were having marital troubles for a while and decided to split soon after the baby was born? Maybe they were never married to begin with and the SS is the product of a one night stand and the mom wanted to keep the baby? Maybe the mom is gay and the dad/dh is an involved bio-parent (I know of this situation personally). There are so many plausible scenarios here that don't involve two-timing a pregnant mother, etc etc. |
Anonymous
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Well, this kind of thing is what you get when a man has children with two different women in close succession.
OP, I would suggest you think of a very boring explanation and repeat it the same way each time. Your child will likely get tired of asking. But it seems like there's more going on here. You've chosen a "blended" family, so you're going to have to explain all kinds of sensitive things to your child and stepchild as the years go by. You chose for your child to live only part-time with his half-brother. So why is it bothering you? Does it come as a surprise to you? Or is this because you feel like your child might end up with 50/50 custody too someday? And for God's sake don't give him some big spiel about how everyone's oh so very very special! That's way too many words for a 2 year old. |
Anonymous
+1 My first thought |