I don't think I can be friends with moms who drive huge SUVs

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Anonymous wrote:So move back to your apartment if you care so much. But nope you move to your McMansion in McLean and then get angry at soccer moms who are living their life. Like what even is your post.

Doubt she had friends when she was renting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care about the SUV’s specifically but yes these types of people are why I don’t really have good friends. I can’t relate to them at all - we are friendly acquaintances and that’s it.

I feel the same about the ski trips out west, home remodels, country clubs, private schools, etc. It’s just never ending for many of these families and I feel like an alien visiting a foreign land I don’t understand. And I’ve been here 15 years.

There is competition for the prize that goes to the family that can suck up the largest amount resources per person.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you're having a hard time with your move to the burbs. Sorry to hear it. (Also the earthquake is connected how?)

I have a hybrid CUV, one car, live in the city, and try to watch my footprint. But you might regret writing off every woman you meet in *the place you now live* because you think that their lifestyles signal that they're the type of person to live in *the place you also live*. Plus: carpooling.

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You sound unhappy where you live, you might consider moving again. My mom drove a huge SUV because there were 4 kids, 3 of which were huge boys. I guess you would judge for having 4 kids anyway though. Congrats on living such an ethically sound life.

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So you moved into the neighborhood only to look down your nose at all of the people who live there?

Yeah, your life is going to be so much fun.

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The Prius is, and has always been, ugly.

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We do a lot of things for the environment, but we also need to carpool. Our Subaru Outback won’t suffice much longer for the reason that we have 2 kids. We can’t car pool except to bring 1 more kid. There are not a ton of 1 kid families and those families don’t always have space in their cars for our two.

If you want to fit 3-5 kids + sports gear, you will need an SUV or minivan.

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Anonymous wrote:So you moved into the neighborhood only to look down your nose at all of the people who live there?

Yeah, your life is going to be so much fun.

It is entirely possible to live in the suburbs and reduce the amount of resources you are using. It is a perfectly reasonable and desirable thing for a family to try to acheive,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Enjoy your Prius

I no longer have a Prius. That was in high school and I pointed that out because that's how I grew up. It was very important to my parents that I don't contribute to global warming so hence the Prius. Big SUVs are so wasteful. That's a fact Americans love to ignore.

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Anonymous wrote:We recently moved to the suburbs, and they are everywhere. Some of the kids are in travel lacrosse and soccer and they are in FIRST grade. They all have the same exact huge white SUV. It was hilarious the other day because a few of them ran into each other at the grocery store and were talking obnoxiously about their vacations while standing in line at Aldi. Anyway, once I got to the parking lot, they were all talking and loading their groceries. They all have the exact type of car a HUGE white SUV. My first car in high school was a Prius. Dh wants an SUV but I am adamant about having a sedan. We have two kids, and it's fine. Do these people not care about global warming? We had an earthquake a week ago, killing thousands of people. Driving these huge cars is such a waste and global warming contributes to more earthquakes. I went from living in an apartment to this. It's such a big change.

It's a fashion statement of sorts for them -- part of the "uniform" to fit in. Sometimes they are black, though. It's completely over the top and in most cases unnecessary but it's one of the "must haves" so they all have them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We recently moved to the suburbs, and they are everywhere. Some of the kids are in travel lacrosse and soccer and they are in FIRST grade. They all have the same exact huge white SUV. It was hilarious the other day because a few of them ran into each other at the grocery store and were talking obnoxiously about their vacations while standing in line at Aldi. Anyway, once I got to the parking lot, they were all talking and loading their groceries. They all have the exact type of car a HUGE white SUV. My first car in high school was a Prius. Dh wants an SUV but I am adamant about having a sedan. We have two kids, and it's fine. Do these people not care about global warming? We had an earthquake a week ago, killing thousands of people. Driving these huge cars is such a waste and global warming contributes to more earthquakes. I went from living in an apartment to this. It's such a big change.

What you are noticing is a different set of values- and that is okay. You have yours and they have theirs. At the end of the day, they are doing what they think is best for their child(ren). And you are doing what is best for your child(ren).

I hate SUVs and large trucks as well. They are more dangerous. They never fit into parking spaces and limit visibility for those who are not in SUVs/trucks. They also have more blind spots and endanger pedestrians/other cars/etc.

Find your people OP. It is okay. I know it is frustrating but you cant make other peoples choices for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We recently moved to the suburbs, and they are everywhere. Some of the kids are in travel lacrosse and soccer and they are in FIRST grade. They all have the same exact huge white SUV. It was hilarious the other day because a few of them ran into each other at the grocery store and were talking obnoxiously about their vacations while standing in line at Aldi. Anyway, once I got to the parking lot, they were all talking and loading their groceries. They all have the exact type of car a HUGE white SUV. My first car in high school was a Prius. Dh wants an SUV but I am adamant about having a sedan. We have two kids, and it's fine. Do these people not care about global warming? We had an earthquake a week ago, killing thousands of people. Driving these huge cars is such a waste and global warming contributes to more earthquakes. I went from living in an apartment to this. It's such a big change.

It's a fashion statement of sorts for them -- part of the "uniform" to fit in. Sometimes they are black, though. It's completely over the top and in most cases unnecessary but it's one of the "must haves" so they all have them.

More like a fashion victim.

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I think most people are guilty of latching onto something they see as wasteful and judging others while being very wasteful themselves. Water waste, bad recycling (and the opposing "recycling doesn't matter" contingent), plastic toys/products, buying new versus second hand, meat, flying/ travel, commuting... and everyone excuses their lifestyle as reasonably wasteful

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Anonymous wrote:So move back to your apartment if you care so much. But nope you move to your McMansion in McLean and then get angry at soccer moms who are living their life. Like what even is your post.

Doubt she had friends when she was renting.

I had a ton of friends who weren't flashy. My immediate community isn't like this. There's no space for a huge suv in our town house community. It's the neighborhoods around us—the birthday party moms.