Should I just leave it now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was exhausted.
I think she feels I faked it and hadn't really wanted her to come round.
She had left me a card wishing me good luck for my new job role which I found when I came downstairs.
Straight after, I contacted her saying to come and visit me or call. But she never did come back and said her call function isn't working but also that she didn't want to call anyway as she felt it might disturb me. I made it clear I wanted to see her. It was a shame I couldn't see her at lunch but in my defence, she was sent on a very early lunch to what what is normally.

You truly don’t get it. You blew it, yet expected her to do all the heavy lifting to fix it in a way that was the least inconvenience for you. You are not being a friend. Stop trying to blame her. Repeat: you are not being a friend.

[Anonymous]

And this is why we can’t have nice things.

[Anonymous]

She works. You had two weeks off. Yet you’re the one upset with her for not making time to come back? How about you have her name the time and place of her choosing and then YOU go there.

[Anonymous]

Wow OP you were rude that day and are still being rude. If you want to be friends, reach out, apologize, ask to meet up NOT during her work hours.

[Anonymous]

Merrily we troll along….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was exhausted.
I think she feels I faked it and hadn't really wanted her to come round.
She had left me a card wishing me good luck for my new job role which I found when I came downstairs.
Straight after, I contacted her saying to come and visit me or call. But she never did come back and said her call function isn't working but also that she didn't want to call anyway as she felt it might disturb me. I made it clear I wanted to see her. It was a shame I couldn't see her at lunch but in my defence, she was sent on a very early lunch to what what is normally.

You were exhausted and asleep so she was completely correct that she would have bothered you if she had called. I feel incredibly frustrated with you just reading this thread. If you want to be friends with this woman text her to find a time to meet somewhere that is convenient to her. Zero percent of people would understand that in your world friendship is dependent on stopping by your house repeatedly.

[Anonymous]

I’m kinda shocked that OP said “why didn’t you call me?” She texted you, just like you said to. Then you flaked. Why did you put it on her to call you?

[Anonymous]

Agree with PPs. OP, you were rude. This is on you. Why don’t you go to her and meet her for coffee or lunch near work? Why do you keep expecting her to come to you? Why didn’t you apologize when you flaked on her? Why is she the only one making an effort in your friendship?

[Anonymous]

Reading OP's responses, I think her former co-worker figured out that this was not a friendship worth having.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reading OP's responses, I think her former co-worker figured out that this was not a friendship worth having.

OP is either a troll or someone not worth staying friends with or both.

[Anonymous]

As I said. She lives with family at the moment so not an option to go to hers.
I have offered the option to her to call me or visit me as it’s convenient for her being on the way back from my old workplace.
I asked her why she didn’t phone as I could have then been woken up and gone to see her. I know she said it might disturb me but I wondered why she didn’t see that as an option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I said. She lives with family at the moment so not an option to go to hers.
I have offered the option to her to call me or visit me as it’s convenient for her being on the way back from my old workplace.
I asked her why she didn’t phone as I could have then been woken up and gone to see her. I know she said it might disturb me but I wondered why she didn’t see that as an option.

No one can be this dense, can they?

[Anonymous]

I must be as I don’t understand what you are trying to imply

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I must be as I don’t understand what you are trying to imply

Flying Anvil Moment: You are NOT a friend worth having.

Pages of explanations and you still dig in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I said. She lives with family at the moment so not an option to go to hers.
I have offered the option to her to call me or visit me as it’s convenient for her being on the way back from my old workplace.
I asked her why she didn’t phone as I could have then been woken up and gone to see her. I know she said it might disturb me but I wondered why she didn’t see that as an option.

Are people this lazy in real life? The best you can do is walk downstairs to open your door if she gets lucky and you’re awake? You act like a queen, “Peasant, I give you permission to visit me or phone me. Now kiss my feet.”

Okay, Marie Antoinette, enjoy your cake and all.