Both parents have COVID and influenza-how to work with nanny?

[Anonymous]

I feel so bad for you and your family! I can’t imagine how stressful it is. Call and ask your nanny and see if she’s willing to do that. If she is unable to do that movie search, take care‘s to see if they will take emergency droppings for the weekend. Maybe you can contact centers to see if they know if anybody can help.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have *any* family you can call in? I would even fly in a dreaded mother-in-law in this kind of emergency. Or your best friend. I would watch my best friend's kids in this situation. Ask the nanny first but also tell your friends/family the situation.

Op here. We don’t have anyone capable or willing. especially since it’s such a big ask to take care of our 3 year old. He’s very large and destructive and strong and fast. Nobody in their 60s could do it. We moved to a new city before COVID and haven’t really made close friends here.

I hate to even ask this but like, if it gets really dire, is there some way to call in emergency foster care or something? Or would I be risking not getting my son back in a few days?

Do you know your neighbors? Even if you don't, if my neighbor knocked on my door and explained this situation to me I'd try to help.

In the meantime, if you have confirmed flu, try to get a Tamiflu prescription. Medicate the crap out of yourselves. Mucinex helped me when I had COVID.

I had to think about this when my DH and I both had norovirus simultaneously with a toddler to take care of. Our answer was screen time screen time screen time. And thankfully that particular illness passes (ugh) quickly.

Op here. We have lovely neighbors but they are all in their 60s/70s. DS is like a wild animal. You have to have eyes on him every second and also be capable of physically restraining him when he engages in self harming behaviors (he will bang his head against the floor. He also will throw himself against windows at full sprint). He won’t watch screens.
I don’t know what our neighbors can really do for us-drop off food or something but we have doordash for that.

Oof. In that case, triage. Which one of you is slightly less sick? That person is on duty to do the bare minimum for the kids. This is what my friends did when they both had OG pre-vaccine COVID at the same time with kids around. It sucks but you will get through it. Does he ever lay down? Can you have a "family sleepover" and all hang out in bed together?

[Anonymous]

For 1k a day I’d do it. I have the stamina and experience with autism/Aspergers

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Anonymous wrote:Omg just call this nanny and beg her.

Op here. I called and left a message but I think she’s doing pick up for her own kids and so she’s tied up for the next hour or two.

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Anonymous wrote:For 1k a day I’d do it. I have the stamina and experience with autism/Aspergers

Op here. Unfortunately I’m not in DC. Maybe I go onto the special needs Facebook groups for my area and post, begging for help?

It helps knowing some people out there would be willing to do this.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. How do I phrase this to the nanny? Do I just come out and offer her the $2k for the weekend? Do I offer more? I know she loves our DS and don’t want to insult our nanny but I want to make clear that we’re extremely desperate for her help and willing to pay for it.

My 5 year old is very similar to your 3 year old. I’m so sorry bc it is exhausting even when you are 100 %. I’d text the nanny and tell her you are in a bind and not sure what to do bc you physically can’t even make it to the next room. I’d ask her if there is any amount of money you could offer to have her keep him through the weekend? I’d also offer to add on the amount of these days to her paid days off, eg if she watches him around the clock for 5 days, in addition to whatever you will pay her, I’d give her 5 more paid days off this year. I’d also tell her you will text her your Uber eats info and add her to your Instacart account to make it as easy as possible. She can Instacart an order of toys from target or anything that will keep him busy.

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Anonymous wrote:For 1k a day I’d do it. I have the stamina and experience with autism/Aspergers

Op here. Unfortunately I’m not in DC. Maybe I go onto the special needs Facebook groups for my area and post, begging for help?

It helps knowing some people out there would be willing to do this.

I dive.. I’ll travel

[Anonymous]

I would ask the nanny, and then give her a paid time off for when you are better and can look after your kid yourselves again - defer her weekend and add some rest days after that.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Nanny to the rescue, thank goodness.

Are we still able to send our kids to school while we are sick? I’m trying to think about the week ahead and can’t remember the quarantine rules anymore.

[Anonymous]

Ask the nanny flat out "What amount of money will it take for you to watch them through the weekend"

You situation sounds terrible, I'm so sorry-please make sure you are taking Tylenol or advil for the fevers those are too high.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Nanny to the rescue, thank goodness.

Are we still able to send our kids to school while we are sick? I’m trying to think about the week ahead and can’t remember the quarantine rules anymore.

DO NOT SEND YOUR KIDS TO SCHOOL LIKE THIS. Do you want another family to go through what you are going though right now?

Covid is expensive, it cost our family $3,800 for arrangements while we were ill. It's what you do to be a decent human being.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you talk to her vs. us? This makes no sense to post here. Clearly you are well enough to post and be on social media. You had the kid a tablet and keep him in the bed next to you. I don't get how you are posting here a very clear post and yet saying you are that sick. When I'm that sick I cannot use even a tablet.

Op here. I’ve of course reached out to our nanny and asked for a call and am waiting to hear back.

Ds won’t watch a tablet or a screen. He never stops moving. Ever.

I’m ok in this moment but the fevers tend to come on fast and furious in the evening.

"Ds won’t watch a tablet or a screen. He never stops moving. Ever. "

How do you entertain your son or keep him busy? Does he sleep 8-12 hours?

[Anonymous]

You don't work with a nanny. You do not expose people to your gunk. The kid is going to get it, too. Don't do this to people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Nanny to the rescue, thank goodness.

Are we still able to send our kids to school while we are sick? I’m trying to think about the week ahead and can’t remember the quarantine rules anymore.

10 days and two negative tests 48 hours apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. How do I phrase this to the nanny? Do I just come out and offer her the $2k for the weekend? Do I offer more? I know she loves our DS and don’t want to insult our nanny but I want to make clear that we’re extremely desperate for her help and willing to pay for it.

Nanny here - I would start with the $2k offer when you make the request. Also offer food delivery! If you don’t mention money up front, she will likely say no.