Is it ok to remove people off Evite after RSVP date?

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Anonymous wrote:I would only do this if you put a date that you wanted them to respond by. If that date is passed, then ok to remove. Otherwise just roll the dice that if they haven't opened it by now they likely won't and they don't plan on coming. Not worth the embarrassment if they find out and say something.

I had an RSVP date that has passed. I don’t think they are coming. I just don’t want Evite to remind them that they didn’t RSVP and they RSVP the day before the party.

My plan was to tell families who RSVPd with siblings that they can come but there is no room for them in the party room because the room is capped. It is a bit annoying I have to pay for all the siblings but it is not a big deal. I couldn’t find the words to tell families the siblings weren’t invited.

You say "due to limited capacity in the party room, we cannot accomodate siblings." And no, you don't uninvite people you already invited.

I'd rather include siblings and families that want to come rather than ppl who can't be bothered to open an Evite and respond by the date

A good host would have reached out to those families via email to make sure the got the evite. Sometimes evites go to spam. How will those kids feel on Monday when they are the only ones who didn't know about the party?

This will be my only all class party in elementary school. My child is in public elementary. We have only been invited to 2 parties so far this school year. One girl invited most of the girls in class but not all and the other girl invited most of the girls and a few boys. I’m the only one inviting the whole class.

Congratulations. You're likely the only one rescinding invites as well. It will be remembered for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:I would only do this if you put a date that you wanted them to respond by. If that date is passed, then ok to remove. Otherwise just roll the dice that if they haven't opened it by now they likely won't and they don't plan on coming. Not worth the embarrassment if they find out and say something.

I had an RSVP date that has passed. I don’t think they are coming. I just don’t want Evite to remind them that they didn’t RSVP and they RSVP the day before the party.

My plan was to tell families who RSVPd with siblings that they can come but there is no room for them in the party room because the room is capped. It is a bit annoying I have to pay for all the siblings but it is not a big deal. I couldn’t find the words to tell families the siblings weren’t invited.

You say "due to limited capacity in the party room, we cannot accomodate siblings." And no, you don't uninvite people you already invited.

I'd rather include siblings and families that want to come rather than ppl who can't be bothered to open an Evite and respond by the date

A good host would have reached out to those families via email to make sure the got the evite. Sometimes evites go to spam. How will those kids feel on Monday when they are the only ones who didn't know about the party?

This will be my only all class party in elementary school. My child is in public elementary. We have only been invited to 2 parties so far this school year. One girl invited most of the girls in class but not all and the other girl invited most of the girls and a few boys. I’m the only one inviting the whole class.

Congratulations. You're likely the only one rescinding invites as well. It will be remembered for sure.

I asked if I could remove them. I likely won’t. I don’t know who they are. I regret inviting the whole class. My daughter originally wanted to invite most of the girls and left out 3 and wanted to invite a few boys. This is exactly what the other 2 girls did. One girl left out the same 3 girls and the other girl left out 2 girls. Instead of letting my kid pick the guest list, I invited the whole class because I thought it would hurt feelings. My kid doesn’t play with these kids. I don’t know the parents. I shouldn’t have invited them. Oh well. Lesson learned.

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Anonymous wrote:I would only do this if you put a date that you wanted them to respond by. If that date is passed, then ok to remove. Otherwise just roll the dice that if they haven't opened it by now they likely won't and they don't plan on coming. Not worth the embarrassment if they find out and say something.

The subject says "after RSVP date"

It is fine to remove them from the guest list.

But if they haven't even opened it they don't know it's passed. If people opened and saw it then maybe remove them, but I think it's awkward to remove people who haven't even seen it in the off chance they open it later. OP just needs to suck it up and plan better.

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Anonymous wrote:I would only do this if you put a date that you wanted them to respond by. If that date is passed, then ok to remove. Otherwise just roll the dice that if they haven't opened it by now they likely won't and they don't plan on coming. Not worth the embarrassment if they find out and say something.

I had an RSVP date that has passed. I don’t think they are coming. I just don’t want Evite to remind them that they didn’t RSVP and they RSVP the day before the party.

My plan was to tell families who RSVPd with siblings that they can come but there is no room for them in the party room because the room is capped. It is a bit annoying I have to pay for all the siblings but it is not a big deal. I couldn’t find the words to tell families the siblings weren’t invited.

You say "due to limited capacity in the party room, we cannot accomodate siblings." And no, you don't uninvite people you already invited.

I'd rather include siblings and families that want to come rather than ppl who can't be bothered to open an Evite and respond by the date

A good host would have reached out to those families via email to make sure the got the evite. Sometimes evites go to spam. How will those kids feel on Monday when they are the only ones who didn't know about the party?

This will be my only all class party in elementary school. My child is in public elementary. We have only been invited to 2 parties so far this school year. One girl invited most of the girls in class but not all and the other girl invited most of the girls and a few boys. I’m the only one inviting the whole class.

Congratulations. You're likely the only one rescinding invites as well. It will be remembered for sure.

I asked if I could remove them. I likely won’t. I don’t know who they are. I regret inviting the whole class. My daughter originally wanted to invite most of the girls and left out 3 and wanted to invite a few boys. This is exactly what the other 2 girls did. One girl left out the same 3 girls and the other girl left out 2 girls. Instead of letting my kid pick the guest list, I invited the whole class because I thought it would hurt feelings. My kid doesn’t play with these kids. I don’t know the parents. I shouldn’t have invited them. Oh well. Lesson learned.

Wait so the same 3 girls who your DD and the other girl didn’t want to invite are also the ones who didn’t RSVP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would only do this if you put a date that you wanted them to respond by. If that date is passed, then ok to remove. Otherwise just roll the dice that if they haven't opened it by now they likely won't and they don't plan on coming. Not worth the embarrassment if they find out and say something.

The subject says "after RSVP date"

It is fine to remove them from the guest list.

But if they haven't even opened it they don't know it's passed. If people opened and saw it then maybe remove them, but I think it's awkward to remove people who haven't even seen it in the off chance they open it later. OP just needs to suck it up and plan better.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m having a party this weekend and a few people never opened the Evite. It is an all class party and several people RSVPd with siblings so I am already full. Instead of telling people I can’t accommodate siblings, I just left it and wanted to wait until the end.

Is it ok to remove them before Evite sends a reminder right before the party?

These are kids my child has never mentioned. I have never met the parents and we have no relationship.

You mean is it ok to un-invite people you invited? No, sorry.

[Anonymous]

I think this could lead to unnecessary confusion/awkwardness, tho I guess you're within your rights to do it.

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Its likely the Mom who responded will say to Mom who didn't respond at pickup on Friday - hey are you going to Blakely Mae's party? And them Mom who didn't respond will go search for that Evite.

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I don’t think you should remove, but if anyone else rsvp’s late let them know you’ve reached capacity with siblings. I think anyone would understand that. You can set the evite to just remind the people who already replied yes.

Unlikely someone extra will just show up.

OP you’re nice inviting the whole class- don’t mind the haters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you should remove, but if anyone else rsvp’s late let them know you’ve reached capacity with siblings. I think anyone would understand that. You can set the evite to just remind the people who already replied yes.

Unlikely someone extra will just show up.

OP you’re nice inviting the whole class- don’t mind the haters.

She did invite the whole class but has made damn well that we all know how her kid doesn't play with the non responders, nor does she know the parents.

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Anonymous wrote:I would only do this if you put a date that you wanted them to respond by. If that date is passed, then ok to remove. Otherwise just roll the dice that if they haven't opened it by now they likely won't and they don't plan on coming. Not worth the embarrassment if they find out and say something.

I had an RSVP date that has passed. I don’t think they are coming. I just don’t want Evite to remind them that they didn’t RSVP and they RSVP the day before the party.

My plan was to tell families who RSVPd with siblings that they can come but there is no room for them in the party room because the room is capped. It is a bit annoying I have to pay for all the siblings but it is not a big deal. I couldn’t find the words to tell families the siblings weren’t invited.

You say "due to limited capacity in the party room, we cannot accomodate siblings." And no, you don't uninvite people you already invited.

I'd rather include siblings and families that want to come rather than ppl who can't be bothered to open an Evite and respond by the date

A good host would have reached out to those families via email to make sure the got the evite. Sometimes evites go to spam. How will those kids feel on Monday when they are the only ones who didn't know about the party?

This will be my only all class party in elementary school. My child is in public elementary. We have only been invited to 2 parties so far this school year. One girl invited most of the girls in class but not all and the other girl invited most of the girls and a few boys. I’m the only one inviting the whole class.

Congratulations. You're likely the only one rescinding invites as well. It will be remembered for sure.

I asked if I could remove them. I likely won’t. I don’t know who they are. I regret inviting the whole class. My daughter originally wanted to invite most of the girls and left out 3 and wanted to invite a few boys. This is exactly what the other 2 girls did. One girl left out the same 3 girls and the other girl left out 2 girls. Instead of letting my kid pick the guest list, I invited the whole class because I thought it would hurt feelings. My kid doesn’t play with these kids. I don’t know the parents. I shouldn’t have invited them. Oh well. Lesson learned.

Wait so the same 3 girls who your DD and the other girl didn’t want to invite are also the ones who didn’t RSVP?

No, all the girls in the class have RSVPd. There are some boys in the class who haven’t RSVPd. Like I said, they are kids my child doesn’t play with, didn’t have on the original list she made and never opened the Evite.

Everyone on my child’s original list is coming to her party. None of her actual friends are bringing siblings. The other classmates are the ones who are RSVPing with siblings or didn’t RSVP or didn’t open the Evite at all. That is why I am saying I regret inviting the whole class.

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Op, it was nice of you to invite the whole class. some people are always very poor with RSVPing. Once your RSVP date passes, you should reach out to them and call them or email them individually to see what their decision is and if they truly received the invite. You were also in the right to refuse additional siblings based on capacity.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you should remove, but if anyone else rsvp’s late let them know you’ve reached capacity with siblings. I think anyone would understand that. You can set the evite to just remind the people who already replied yes.

Unlikely someone extra will just show up.

OP you’re nice inviting the whole class- don’t mind the haters.

She did invite the whole class but has made damn well that we all know how her kid doesn't play with the non responders, nor does she know the parents.

I’m not sure why it is so strange for me to say that her friends are all coming to her party as well as other classmates. There are 3 boys who have not opened the Evite. I have nothing against these boys. I doubt my 5yo has anything against these boys. I’m just saying my child never mentioned them and I don’t think they play together.

[Anonymous]

I did this (deleted invitees after rsvp date) because I was a) peeved at the non-responders and b) had so many people coming already, but I regretted it. Following the deletions there were a couple misunderstandings. A kid asked his parents to find the invitation and respond, and they tried to, but link didn't work, so they contacted me. Another parent said she looked for the invitation the night before party and couldn't get to it. I felt badly, and had to admit what I had done, and re-invite them. I mean, if things worked perfectly, people would rsvp on time after reminders and all, but if they missed it/forgot, and their child wants to go, I'd rather the child be included rather than focus on who's right/wrong/rude out of the parents involved.

[Anonymous]

When will people stop using evite??? It is notorious for going into spam folders.