Is it ok to remove people off Evite after RSVP date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did this (deleted invitees after rsvp date) because I was a) peeved at the non-responders and b) had so many people coming already, but I regretted it. Following the deletions there were a couple misunderstandings. A kid asked his parents to find the invitation and respond, and they tried to, but link didn't work, so they contacted me. Another parent said she looked for the invitation the night before party and couldn't get to it. I felt badly, and had to admit what I had done, and re-invite them. I mean, if things worked perfectly, people would rsvp on time after reminders and all, but if they missed it/forgot, and their child wants to go, I'd rather the child be included rather than focus on who's right/wrong/rude out of the parents involved.

NP. I’ve never deleted a guest, but I did receive a text from a parent who hadn’t RSVP’d letting me know that their child whom I had invited would be attending with a sibling I didn’t know existed — 45 minutes before the party.

This was the same party where a different parent whom I didn’t know RSVP’d that their invited child plus 3 siblings and both parents would be attending. I paid the venue for this family’s 4 children to participate. Then they showed up with the kindergarten classmate, a toddler and twin infants in a stroller. Only the child we invited actually participated, so I paid for 3 kids for no reason at all. I don’t think the parents understood what the RSVP was for. For the life of me, I couldn’t understand why the whole family came. Why wouldn’t one parent stay home with the 3 little ones and the other parent take the oldest to the party?

That was the first, last, and only whole class party I threw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did this (deleted invitees after rsvp date) because I was a) peeved at the non-responders and b) had so many people coming already, but I regretted it. Following the deletions there were a couple misunderstandings. A kid asked his parents to find the invitation and respond, and they tried to, but link didn't work, so they contacted me. Another parent said she looked for the invitation the night before party and couldn't get to it. I felt badly, and had to admit what I had done, and re-invite them. I mean, if things worked perfectly, people would rsvp on time after reminders and all, but if they missed it/forgot, and their child wants to go, I'd rather the child be included rather than focus on who's right/wrong/rude out of the parents involved.

As a person deleted from an invite with no warning, I found it rude. My child wanted to go, but I was trying to coordinate with another family member to see if it was possible to make it work, then forgot. When my child reminded me, I was not able to access the invitation and it was obvious we’d been deleted. Evite has a reminder feature for good reason—right after sending it is usually when I get a handful of RSVPs. Some people hair can’t handle their kid’s party not being number one on my family’s list of priorities.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did this (deleted invitees after rsvp date) because I was a) peeved at the non-responders and b) had so many people coming already, but I regretted it. Following the deletions there were a couple misunderstandings. A kid asked his parents to find the invitation and respond, and they tried to, but link didn't work, so they contacted me. Another parent said she looked for the invitation the night before party and couldn't get to it. I felt badly, and had to admit what I had done, and re-invite them. I mean, if things worked perfectly, people would rsvp on time after reminders and all, but if they missed it/forgot, and their child wants to go, I'd rather the child be included rather than focus on who's right/wrong/rude out of the parents involved.

As a person deleted from an invite with no warning, I found it rude. My child wanted to go, but I was trying to coordinate with another family member to see if it was possible to make it work, then forgot. When my child reminded me, I was not able to access the invitation and it was obvious we’d been deleted. Evite has a reminder feature for good reason—right after sending it is usually when I get a handful of RSVPs. Some people hair can’t handle their kid’s party not being number one on my family’s list of priorities.

No, some people need to plan carefully in terms of numbers (venue needs to know) and are well within their rights to delete those who give no thought to inconveniencing the host by not responding by the rsvp date.

[Anonymous]

I posted this on the last thread like this but I had a mother send an email late the night before a party with some special instructions. I got the email, but had never received the invitation. After checking all of my spam/junk folders, I awkwardly emailed her that I didn't know about any party. She wrote back that she'd made a typo in my email address on the evite and had wondered why I'd never opened the evite (gee, maybe reach out next time?!)

[Anonymous]

WHATS WRONG WITH PEOPLE

NO YOU DONT DELETE SOMEONE THAT HASNT VIEWED OR RSVPD BECAUSE YOU REGRET INVITING THEM

IF SOMEONE HAS NOT VIEWED OR RSVPD YOU REACH OUT TO THEM. Maybe it went to spam, maybe you typed their email wrong. This is just about the rudest thing I’ve ever seen asked.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did this (deleted invitees after rsvp date) because I was a) peeved at the non-responders and b) had so many people coming already, but I regretted it. Following the deletions there were a couple misunderstandings. A kid asked his parents to find the invitation and respond, and they tried to, but link didn't work, so they contacted me. Another parent said she looked for the invitation the night before party and couldn't get to it. I felt badly, and had to admit what I had done, and re-invite them. I mean, if things worked perfectly, people would rsvp on time after reminders and all, but if they missed it/forgot, and their child wants to go, I'd rather the child be included rather than focus on who's right/wrong/rude out of the parents involved.

As a person deleted from an invite with no warning, I found it rude. My child wanted to go, but I was trying to coordinate with another family member to see if it was possible to make it work, then forgot. When my child reminded me, I was not able to access the invitation and it was obvious we’d been deleted. Evite has a reminder feature for good reason—right after sending it is usually when I get a handful of RSVPs. Some people hair can’t handle their kid’s party not being number one on my family’s list of priorities.

No, some people need to plan carefully in terms of numbers (venue needs to know) and are well within their rights to delete those who give no thought to inconveniencing the host by not responding by the rsvp date.

Even if you don't have the issue of venue, like if you're having it at a public park, you have food/supply issues. It gives me anxiety when I have rsvps for 30 guests and at the last minute get several more. I have always invited families (siblings welcome) for non-dropoff parties, so each rsvp might be 5 more people. By the night before, I want to have it settled how many pizzas, how many favors, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did this (deleted invitees after rsvp date) because I was a) peeved at the non-responders and b) had so many people coming already, but I regretted it. Following the deletions there were a couple misunderstandings. A kid asked his parents to find the invitation and respond, and they tried to, but link didn't work, so they contacted me. Another parent said she looked for the invitation the night before party and couldn't get to it. I felt badly, and had to admit what I had done, and re-invite them. I mean, if things worked perfectly, people would rsvp on time after reminders and all, but if they missed it/forgot, and their child wants to go, I'd rather the child be included rather than focus on who's right/wrong/rude out of the parents involved.

As a person deleted from an invite with no warning, I found it rude. My child wanted to go, but I was trying to coordinate with another family member to see if it was possible to make it work, then forgot. When my child reminded me, I was not able to access the invitation and it was obvious we’d been deleted. Evite has a reminder feature for good reason—right after sending it is usually when I get a handful of RSVPs. Some people hair can’t handle their kid’s party not being number one on my family’s list of priorities.

No, some people need to plan carefully in terms of numbers (venue needs to know) and are well within their rights to delete those who give no thought to inconveniencing the host by not responding by the rsvp date.

Even if you don't have the issue of venue, like if you're having it at a public park, you have food/supply issues. It gives me anxiety when I have rsvps for 30 guests and at the last minute get several more. I have always invited families (siblings welcome) for non-dropoff parties, so each rsvp might be 5 more people. By the night before, I want to have it settled how many pizzas, how many favors, etc.

OP here. I have extra favors and food. My problem is I am at my exact max capacity so if anymore kids RSVP, I have to inform some families I cannot siblings that classmates RSVPd with. I wonder if these parents who RSVPd have thrown a party before. They can clearly see I invited the entire class on the Evite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WHATS WRONG WITH PEOPLE

NO YOU DONT DELETE SOMEONE THAT HASNT VIEWED OR RSVPD BECAUSE YOU REGRET INVITING THEM

IF SOMEONE HAS NOT VIEWED OR RSVPD YOU REACH OUT TO THEM. Maybe it went to spam, maybe you typed their email wrong. This is just about the rudest thing I’ve ever seen asked.

OP here. I will not be removing guests. I am at my max headcount because people added siblings to their RSVP. I guess or hope it will all work out.

Once upon a time, I had a similar problem at my gym. We invited the class and we were at the max/over because of siblings. I didn’t mind siblings back then. I remember I had 1 or 2 people sick, 1 got the wrong time, another showed up without RSVPing at all.

I have extra favors, food and cake.

[Anonymous]

No you big fool

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did this (deleted invitees after rsvp date) because I was a) peeved at the non-responders and b) had so many people coming already, but I regretted it. Following the deletions there were a couple misunderstandings. A kid asked his parents to find the invitation and respond, and they tried to, but link didn't work, so they contacted me. Another parent said she looked for the invitation the night before party and couldn't get to it. I felt badly, and had to admit what I had done, and re-invite them. I mean, if things worked perfectly, people would rsvp on time after reminders and all, but if they missed it/forgot, and their child wants to go, I'd rather the child be included rather than focus on who's right/wrong/rude out of the parents involved.

As a person deleted from an invite with no warning, I found it rude. My child wanted to go, but I was trying to coordinate with another family member to see if it was possible to make it work, then forgot. When my child reminded me, I was not able to access the invitation and it was obvious we’d been deleted. Evite has a reminder feature for good reason—right after sending it is usually when I get a handful of RSVPs. Some people hair can’t handle their kid’s party not being number one on my family’s list of priorities.

No, some people need to plan carefully in terms of numbers (venue needs to know) and are well within their rights to delete those who give no thought to inconveniencing the host by not responding by the rsvp date.

We invite friends that we would like to come, and we care about having them come, so we ensure that they see the invitation and have a reminder to respond. We don't overinvite to parties. You don't overinvite and then disinvite. So rude.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:WHATS WRONG WITH PEOPLE

NO YOU DONT DELETE SOMEONE THAT HASNT VIEWED OR RSVPD BECAUSE YOU REGRET INVITING THEM

IF SOMEONE HAS NOT VIEWED OR RSVPD YOU REACH OUT TO THEM. Maybe it went to spam, maybe you typed their email wrong. This is just about the rudest thing I’ve ever seen asked.

OP here. I will not be removing guests. I am at my max headcount because people added siblings to their RSVP. I guess or hope it will all work out.

Once upon a time, I had a similar problem at my gym. We invited the class and we were at the max/over because of siblings. I didn’t mind siblings back then. I remember I had 1 or 2 people sick, 1 got the wrong time, another showed up without RSVPing at all.

I have extra favors, food and cake.

The people who RSVPed for siblings are so rude because it impacts your max headcount.

This is why I am an advocate of clearly spelling out, siblings, welcome, or we cannot accommodate siblings (even though people are supposed to know the only the named individual is invited.

When is your party can you or would you even be willing to send out an email saying that siblings cannot be accommodated? Or can you reach out to those families individually to see if they are coming or not. That way at least you know what to expect.

(I get frustrated when people don’t respond at all because they’re waiting on things on their end. That’s why there is a maybe button and that’s why you can communicate with the host why you may or may not be there.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m having a party this weekend and a few people never opened the Evite. It is an all class party and several people RSVPd with siblings so I am already full. Instead of telling people I can’t accommodate siblings, I just left it and wanted to wait until the end.

Is it ok to remove them before Evite sends a reminder right before the party?

These are kids my child has never mentioned. I have never met the parents and we have no relationship.

No, you can't uninvite people you already sent the invitation too simply by removing their name from an already sent email guest list. The invitation was sent to them already, therefore the invitation stands. You need to contact them to see if they are able to attend or to personally tell them they are no longer invited, if that is your firm intent and you really don't want to come now (though I would never).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did this (deleted invitees after rsvp date) because I was a) peeved at the non-responders and b) had so many people coming already, but I regretted it. Following the deletions there were a couple misunderstandings. A kid asked his parents to find the invitation and respond, and they tried to, but link didn't work, so they contacted me. Another parent said she looked for the invitation the night before party and couldn't get to it. I felt badly, and had to admit what I had done, and re-invite them. I mean, if things worked perfectly, people would rsvp on time after reminders and all, but if they missed it/forgot, and their child wants to go, I'd rather the child be included rather than focus on who's right/wrong/rude out of the parents involved.

As a person deleted from an invite with no warning, I found it rude. My child wanted to go, but I was trying to coordinate with another family member to see if it was possible to make it work, then forgot. When my child reminded me, I was not able to access the invitation and it was obvious we’d been deleted. Evite has a reminder feature for good reason—right after sending it is usually when I get a handful of RSVPs. Some people hair can’t handle their kid’s party not being number one on my family’s list of priorities.

No, some people need to plan carefully in terms of numbers (venue needs to know) and are well within their rights to delete those who give no thought to inconveniencing the host by not responding by the rsvp date.

Even if you don't have the issue of venue, like if you're having it at a public park, you have food/supply issues. It gives me anxiety when I have rsvps for 30 guests and at the last minute get several more. I have always invited families (siblings welcome) for non-dropoff parties, so each rsvp might be 5 more people. By the night before, I want to have it settled how many pizzas, how many favors, etc.

OP here. I have extra favors and food. My problem is I am at my exact max capacity so if anymore kids RSVP, I have to inform some families I cannot siblings that classmates RSVPd with. I wonder if these parents who RSVPd have thrown a party before. They can clearly see I invited the entire class on the Evite.

Is it a matter of just having to pay out of pocket for more guests? Usually that's all this is about. You booked a party for 20 kids and now have 25 and there isn't a MAX capacity at which 5 kids definitely can't come in, it's that you have to pay $20 or whatever for every extra kid.

People just need to stop with the all class parties. Because multiple people have mentioned here that "people they didn't even know" did this or that rude thing. Well, stop inviting people you don't even know to your parties. Just invite your kids friends and neighbors that you already know and can easily get in touch with if you have questions or need to follow up. Don't invite strangers and then complain you have no idea who they are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did this (deleted invitees after rsvp date) because I was a) peeved at the non-responders and b) had so many people coming already, but I regretted it. Following the deletions there were a couple misunderstandings. A kid asked his parents to find the invitation and respond, and they tried to, but link didn't work, so they contacted me. Another parent said she looked for the invitation the night before party and couldn't get to it. I felt badly, and had to admit what I had done, and re-invite them. I mean, if things worked perfectly, people would rsvp on time after reminders and all, but if they missed it/forgot, and their child wants to go, I'd rather the child be included rather than focus on who's right/wrong/rude out of the parents involved.

As a person deleted from an invite with no warning, I found it rude. My child wanted to go, but I was trying to coordinate with another family member to see if it was possible to make it work, then forgot. When my child reminded me, I was not able to access the invitation and it was obvious we’d been deleted. Evite has a reminder feature for good reason—right after sending it is usually when I get a handful of RSVPs. Some people hair can’t handle their kid’s party not being number one on my family’s list of priorities.

No, some people need to plan carefully in terms of numbers (venue needs to know) and are well within their rights to delete those who give no thought to inconveniencing the host by not responding by the rsvp date.

I already said I would not be doing all class party ever again. I’m just used to all class parties from preschool. Class sizes are bigger.

My party was for 20 people with a max of 25. I have hit my max. I did not overinvite. Parents RSVPd with extra kids. Almost every single kid in my kid’s class has siblings. If every kid RSVPd with siblings, I would have over 60 kids. That’s why I said these people must never have thrown a party before or they would know that there is limited space and it was obvious I invited the whole class.
Even if you don't have the issue of venue, like if you're having it at a public park, you have food/supply issues. It gives me anxiety when I have rsvps for 30 guests and at the last minute get several more. I have always invited families (siblings welcome) for non-dropoff parties, so each rsvp might be 5 more people. By the night before, I want to have it settled how many pizzas, how many favors, etc.

OP here. I have extra favors and food. My problem is I am at my exact max capacity so if anymore kids RSVP, I have to inform some families I cannot siblings that classmates RSVPd with. I wonder if these parents who RSVPd have thrown a party before. They can clearly see I invited the entire class on the Evite.

Is it a matter of just having to pay out of pocket for more guests? Usually that's all this is about. You booked a party for 20 kids and now have 25 and there isn't a MAX capacity at which 5 kids definitely can't come in, it's that you have to pay $20 or whatever for every extra kid.

People just need to stop with the all class parties. Because multiple people have mentioned here that "people they didn't even know" did this or that rude thing. Well, stop inviting people you don't even know to your parties. Just invite your kids friends and neighbors that you already know and can easily get in touch with if you have questions or need to follow up. Don't invite strangers and then complain you have no idea who they are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did this (deleted invitees after rsvp date) because I was a) peeved at the non-responders and b) had so many people coming already, but I regretted it. Following the deletions there were a couple misunderstandings. A kid asked his parents to find the invitation and respond, and they tried to, but link didn't work, so they contacted me. Another parent said she looked for the invitation the night before party and couldn't get to it. I felt badly, and had to admit what I had done, and re-invite them. I mean, if things worked perfectly, people would rsvp on time after reminders and all, but if they missed it/forgot, and their child wants to go, I'd rather the child be included rather than focus on who's right/wrong/rude out of the parents involved.

As a person deleted from an invite with no warning, I found it rude. My child wanted to go, but I was trying to coordinate with another family member to see if it was possible to make it work, then forgot. When my child reminded me, I was not able to access the invitation and it was obvious we’d been deleted. Evite has a reminder feature for good reason—right after sending it is usually when I get a handful of RSVPs. Some people hair can’t handle their kid’s party not being number one on my family’s list of priorities.

No, some people need to plan carefully in terms of numbers (venue needs to know) and are well within their rights to delete those who give no thought to inconveniencing the host by not responding by the rsvp date.

Even if you don't have the issue of venue, like if you're having it at a public park, you have food/supply issues. It gives me anxiety when I have rsvps for 30 guests and at the last minute get several more. I have always invited families (siblings welcome) for non-dropoff parties, so each rsvp might be 5 more people. By the night before, I want to have it settled how many pizzas, how many favors, etc.

OP here. I have extra favors and food. My problem is I am at my exact max capacity so if anymore kids RSVP, I have to inform some families I cannot siblings that classmates RSVPd with. I wonder if these parents who RSVPd have thrown a party before. They can clearly see I invited the entire class on the Evite.

Is it a matter of just having to pay out of pocket for more guests? Usually that's all this is about. You booked a party for 20 kids and now have 25 and there isn't a MAX capacity at which 5 kids definitely can't come in, it's that you have to pay $20 or whatever for every extra kid.

People just need to stop with the all class parties. Because multiple people have mentioned here that "people they didn't even know" did this or that rude thing. Well, stop inviting people you don't even know to your parties. Just invite your kids friends and neighbors that you already know and can easily get in touch with if you have questions or need to follow up. Don't invite strangers and then complain you have no idea who they are.

I already said this would be my last all class party. I’m just used to all class parties from preschool. I don’t know if it was because of Covid or our preschool had more polite parents but no one brought siblings unless I personally invited the siblings of families we were friends with.

My party was for 20 kids and can add up to 25. I’m at 25, the max headcount.

I did not over invite. I picked a venue that could accommodate my child’s class. I just gave parents who RSVPd with an extra 1-2 kids. Everyone has siblings. If the whole class came with all their siblings, I would have 60 kids. I don’t understand these parents. Have they never hosted a party? They would know space is limited and Evite clearly shows I invited the whole class.