How to deal with "friends" critical of DD's college choice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a very good friend who is critical of the university my DD was accepted to ED. We visited the school several times; researched it and thinks it will be a perfect for her. It's private and not inexpensive but she received a substantial merit scholarship and with college savings, will be able to cover the tuition. It is small; not popular with the DC crowd but is where she thinks she wants to go. How do I handle a good friend who keep offering alternatives like Towson or St. Mary's (which are completly fine schools) but not where my DD wants to go. I don't think I should have to defend my DD's choice but it's getting hard to continually just brush it off.

She’s being rude. She’s passively trying to tell you that your daughter’s choice was not a very good one. Friends don’t typically do that. Just tell her you don’t want to hear it anymore. If you can’t stand up to her for yourself, then do it for your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, I also have a "friend" like this. Always questioning my kid's decisions and choices. I agree with the advice already given. Sounds like our "friends" are either jealous or insecure - or both.

[Anonymous]

My DC got into a school ED and a very good friend of mine keeps suggesting we keep some of the other EA school DC applied to in mind as they are more likely to give merit awards than the ED school....I've explained that we made the decision already and decided we can afford my DC's first choice school even without a merit award. And that we are committed now...but still getting disapproval. I'm just letting it go and not engaging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Oh, Darla, you don’t understand. Larla was accepted at Awesome U early decision, so her commitment and financial package are already locked in and we don’t have to worry about college apps any more! I am SO glad to be done with this process, and she is super-excited to start planning her dorm room.”

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people. If her own child is not going to like Princeton or Duke what sense of authority does she think she has on the subject even?

Even if they are she is completely out of line.

[Anonymous]

What is wrong with people?

[Anonymous]

I like the PP advice to turn the tables in a friendly way. Like - Suzy is happy with her choice, I’m curious why you seem to question it?
Critical people don’t usually have a response. It could end it. Congrats to you guys tho and don’t let it bum you out!

[Anonymous]

I am sorry that she is not being supportive. Is that out of character for her? If not, why do you like her.

Either way, I would be direct. “We are very happy that Larla got into her first choice school. I would appreciate it if you joined us in supporting her decision.”

[Anonymous]

what is WC?

[Anonymous]

I totally get it. My B student with ADHD went to a “lesser” college that is trashed on this site but thrived. I had similar negative comments from “friends”. I would just ignore.

[Anonymous]

Tell them to EAD.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the suggestions, but Larla has accepted ACME University and she is over the top. The decision is made and done, so we don't need any other suggestions. We're all so happy she accepted.

[Anonymous]

This has happened to my son. Super outdoorsy kid and went to CU Boulder. Numerous people have made comments about it being a party school and kind of scoffed at his choice. He just wanted to school out west, didn’t get into Colorado College and didn’t like University of Denver. Though there’s definitely people that think it’s cool he went there, I think some people can’t mind their own business.

[Anonymous]

Say you are poor + they offered a good deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a very good friend who is critical of the university my DD was accepted to ED. We visited the school several times; researched it and thinks it will be a perfect for her. It's private and not inexpensive but she received a substantial merit scholarship and with college savings, will be able to cover the tuition. It is small; not popular with the DC crowd but is where she thinks she wants to go. How do I handle a good friend who keep offering alternatives like Towson or St. Mary's (which are completly fine schools) but not where my DD wants to go. I don't think I should have to defend my DD's choice but it's getting hard to continually just brush it off.

Friend is jealous. Next time she brings it up just laugh and say "time to move on. Larla and all of us are so thrilled!" Then change subject.