Do you spend most of your evening with your partner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I spend most of my evenings with your mother.

Most of the people that post on this board have nothing else better to do then to ask silly questions.

Well, then OP and I both have nothing better to do because I posted a similar question some time ago:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1063004.page

[Anonymous]

Yes. We both take an hour to ourselves after putting our kids to bed and spend the next 2-3 watching television.

[Anonymous]

Yes, we spend a lot of time talking, occasionally watch TV (we have a few shows we watch together). Sometimes I read a book while he’s on his iPad. But we’re pretty much always doing something together. (No kids, which I’m sure makes a huge difference!)

[Anonymous]

Depends on the season as DH is a golfer. When the weather is nice he’s out golfing 2-3x a week. I play tennis 1-2x a week all year round.

When we’re home together (empty nesters) we’ll cook together, catch up about work and family stuff, sometimes watch a show together, etc. We connect for an hour or two and then do our own thing to unwind from the day.

[Anonymous]

No.

We’ve been married a very long time and I love and value my partner more than I can say. Marrying him was by far the best and most important decision of my life. We are monogamous, we have a satisfying sex life, and we do many things together, but we also have separate interests and lots of friendships outside our marriage. Let there be spaces in your togetherness, as Gibran wrote

[Anonymous]

Before kids we spent most evenings together. And when we only had the one baby. When the second kid came along two years later that kinda stopped. Now the kids are old enough to amuse themselves in the evening...but there's so many more options out there in terms of streaming content that we usually each watch our own thing.

[Anonymous]

Sort of empty nesters here, as our ACs live with us and work. I don't work. We are in our 50s. DH comes home and we are out for a drive, a movie, dinner with friend etc.

DH and I are each other best friends. He is a better human being than me and more easy going. I make him laugh. We are very physical family. We go around hugging each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sort of empty nesters here, as our ACs live with us and work. I don't work. We are in our 50s. DH comes home and we are out for a drive, a movie, dinner with friend etc.

DH and I are each other best friends. He is a better human being than me and more easy going. I make him laugh. We are very physical family. We go around hugging each other.

Perhaps part of this is that you don’t work?

[Anonymous]

Most of the time yes. Of course we each have outside interests so will have some evenings where one or both of us is out, but normally we are together. It’s gotten more the norm since the pandemic because I no longer have to travel as often for work. That said, often we will be watching TV together but I’m double tasking - either work or personal stuff on my laptop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sort of empty nesters here, as our ACs live with us and work. I don't work. We are in our 50s. DH comes home and we are out for a drive, a movie, dinner with friend etc.

DH and I are each other best friends. He is a better human being than me and more easy going. I make him laugh. We are very physical family. We go around hugging each other.

Perhaps part of this is that you don’t work?

Yes. Without a doubt. I think a large part of it is - I don't work, kids are grown and we are not caring for a pet, elderly relative etc. When I worked and when kids were little, evenings were spent together getting prepped for the next next or attending to kids or cooking or other chores. DH and I were still working together and there was joy in that too because our kids were so cute, but we did not have the luxury to take off and do what we wanted to do.

DH was always supportive and equal partner with chores and childcare, but he liked that when I started staying home, both of us had a lot of leisure time and our family had a better quality of life. We have more energy & time and we have less responsibilities. + we like each other. Life is good and we feel lucky that we have each other.

[Anonymous]

My kids are little but go to bed at 8:30. Half the time we spend this time together, reading in the same room, watching a show, sorting/cleaning something. Half the time we do our own thing. One of us goes out with friends etc.

[Anonymous]

My wife buries her face into her phone watching tiktok. Can't even sit through a tv show or movie any more. Needs new content every 30 seconds or whatever those things last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I spend most of my evenings with your mother.

Most of the people that post on this board have nothing else better to do then to ask silly questions.

Nice!

[Anonymous]

Sort of.

We are usually in the same room, but we are watching different things. We usually have pop up conversations either about what we are watching/ working on or on things that happened during the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sort of empty nesters here, as our ACs live with us and work. I don't work. We are in our 50s. DH comes home and we are out for a drive, a movie, dinner with friend etc.

DH and I are each other best friends. He is a better human being than me and more easy going. I make him laugh. We are very physical family. We go around hugging each other.

Perhaps part of this is that you don’t work?

Yes. Without a doubt. I think a large part of it is - I don't work, kids are grown and we are not caring for a pet, elderly relative etc. When I worked and when kids were little, evenings were spent together getting prepped for the next next or attending to kids or cooking or other chores. DH and I were still working together and there was joy in that too because our kids were so cute, but we did not have the luxury to take off and do what we wanted to do.

DH was always supportive and equal partner with chores and childcare, but he liked that when I started staying home, both of us had a lot of leisure time and our family had a better quality of life. We have more energy & time and we have less responsibilities. + we like each other. Life is good and we feel lucky that we have each other.

I’m the 8:43 PP. My husband and I also like each other very much, and feel extremely lucky to have each other. We work together so it’s helpful for us to emphasize external friendships and interests, as well as some time apart in the evenings.