Joint Christmas Card

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not do this. Just send a christmas card of the kids.

+1

[Anonymous]

We've gotten one -- it's fine. Do you want you want.

[Anonymous]

I think it's weird to send them out with my current spouse and kids.

[Anonymous]

You know, you can do whatever the heck you want!!! I would love to get a friend's card in any format.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people do not stop being "family" because they divorced. They stop being a couple, and there's a difference.

Xmas cards are optional. Pushing this new "we are still a family and my divorce has not harmed my kids--just look at my Xmas card where my ex and I are pretending to enjoy one another's company" narrative is unnecessary and comes off as cringey. OP asked and we are just being honest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP. here. Wow, I mean we had an amicable divorce and young children. The kids want to still do our annual picture and cards. It seems harsh to say dad is not allowed. Neither of us have new SOs. Was going to put both our last names so there is no confusion about us not being together.

Why don't you just get back together then? Doesn't make sense why you are divorced.

NP. Because we don’t want to be married. It really comes down to I don’t want to have sex with him. He’s a great guy otherwise.

Please consider including this on the card.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some people do not stop being "family" because they divorced. They stop being a couple, and there's a difference.

Xmas cards are optional. Pushing this new "we are still a family and my divorce has not harmed my kids--just look at my Xmas card where my ex and I are pretending to enjoy one another's company" narrative is unnecessary and comes off as cringey. OP asked and we are just being honest.

You are seriously so strange. Why did you add all that extra baggage. Get a life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We send a joint Xmas card.

It’s a picture of our whole family at a graduation.

It’s normal for an amicable divorce. It’s not normal if there was abuse or a toxic environment.

I thinks it’s super weird for step mom to send a “family” photo at Xmas with somebody else’s kids. That’s super weird.

No, what's weird is you sending out cards with your ex.

The stepmom is part of a new family that involves your former husband and children.

If you cannot accept this and are sending out cards with your "family" (including the ex), I assure you that you are the one being perceived as "super weird."

There is no step mom in my situation but my kids friends have stepmoms they send out cards and believe me they do not feel like she is part of their family. It’s especially weird when the kids are in college when she appeared.

She is not their mom, she does not parent them. They rarely even see her, but yea send out a card as if these kids are your family.

We do holidays together, birthdays, graduation and travel to parents weekend together.

Sorry if that violates your made up rules about divorce, or maybe your the step mom who is jealous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP. here. Wow, I mean we had an amicable divorce and young children. The kids want to still do our annual picture and cards. It seems harsh to say dad is not allowed. Neither of us have new SOs. Was going to put both our last names so there is no confusion about us not being together.

Why don't you just get back together then? Doesn't make sense why you are divorced.

NP. Because we don’t want to be married. It really comes down to I don’t want to have sex with him. He’s a great guy otherwise.

Please consider including this on the card.

I’m sure there are plenty of women not having sex with their H…. (Even though they have a side piece) but sure send a picture pretend you’re happier.

[Anonymous]

OP is trying way to hard to tell the world that this is a "non-divorce" and then to argue with people who state the obvious point that divorced couples do not send joint Christmas cards. Either get back with your ex or move on with your life.

[Anonymous]

You can have one card made for the kids and one to send out to family/friends if you want. I don’t know how old the kids are but if you feel like they need the idea that this is their family no matter what then just make a card for them. I don’t see the harm in it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP. here. Wow, I mean we had an amicable divorce and young children. The kids want to still do our annual picture and cards. It seems harsh to say dad is not allowed. Neither of us have new SOs. Was going to put both our last names so there is no confusion about us not being together.

Why don't you just get back together then? Doesn't make sense why you are divorced.

NP. Because we don’t want to be married. It really comes down to I don’t want to have sex with him. He’s a great guy otherwise.

That's what my BF says about his wife, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is trying way to hard to tell the world that this is a "non-divorce" and then to argue with people who state the obvious point that divorced couples do not send joint Christmas cards. Either get back with your ex or move on with your life.

Are you one of the people who insists kids are always worse off after divorce? Divorce doesn’t have to be some horrible event that rips apart everything kids have ever known. Divorce can look however you make it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP. here. Wow, I mean we had an amicable divorce and young children. The kids want to still do our annual picture and cards. It seems harsh to say dad is not allowed. Neither of us have new SOs. Was going to put both our last names so there is no confusion about us not being together.

Why don't you just get back together then? Doesn't make sense why you are divorced.

NP. Because we don’t want to be married. It really comes down to I don’t want to have sex with him. He’s a great guy otherwise.

Having sex would solve your major Christmas card problem. A small price to pay I think!

We don’t have a problem.

Some wanna be step Mom’s seem to be the ones with problems.

Should your ex husband not care about what other women think? This great guy has the be single for the rest of his life, faithful to his ex wife who doesn’t want sex and still be a prop in the family photos? LoL.

Most prople would be confused by this Christmas card but it really reflects how confused you seem to be about what you want.

He can date whoever he wants and he picks the picture for the card because they are on his phone which is nicer than mine.

He’s not dating insecure women like you. His last girlfriend was awesome but she was a visiting scientist at NIH and she went home.

If he didn’t want to be in the picture he can choose not to be he has free will. Shall I stop putting our dog in the picture because it’s too confusing for the weak minded?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP. here. Wow, I mean we had an amicable divorce and young children. The kids want to still do our annual picture and cards. It seems harsh to say dad is not allowed. Neither of us have new SOs. Was going to put both our last names so there is no confusion about us not being together.

Why don't you just get back together then? Doesn't make sense why you are divorced.

NP. Because we don’t want to be married. It really comes down to I don’t want to have sex with him. He’s a great guy otherwise.

That's what my BF says about his wife, too.

Exactly and I’m sure he has a really nice picture of his beautiful family on his Xmas card.