DH says my parenting style is a failure

[Anonymous]

You should realize now that you have an 80% or more likelihood of divorcing this guy and prepare accordingly. He sounds like a horrible person.

[Anonymous]

If your kids are effed up it's because they are observing and learning how to have an extremely unbalanced, dysfunctional and disrespectful relationship. Your husband treats you badly and the kids are learning how to do that. You react badly by allowing this and they are learning to do that also.

I'd get some marriage counseling fast so you can discover whether this marriage is salvageable.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a wonderful mother, OP.
Please don’t take anything your husband says to heart. It feels AWFUL when someone criticizes your parenting.

[Anonymous]

Don’t do marriage counseling with him. Get professional support for yourself- that’s super unacceptable how he’s talking to you and you need help to 1) not internalize it and 2) not allow him to speak to you like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I'd just play dumb and assume when he says "we" he means that he's going to do it.

"I'd love for you to read more to the kids, babe! I think that's a fantastic idea! All their books are in the den, so you'll go read to them for what, an hour? I'm gonna go run some errands while you do that, see ya!"

"A bedtime routine is a FANTASTIC idea! Pajamas are in the top dresser. While you do the routine I'm gonna go take a shower"

"The kids would LOVE some help with their homework! It's all in the red folders in their backpacks. The kitchen table is clear, you can set up there"

This but honestly he sounds like a toxic jerk. I hope he has some redeeming qualities OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is an ass.

+1000.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is a jerk and though I rarely say this on DCUM, I think you should consider divorce. This is a terrible dynamic to model for your kids.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP. I understand how exhausting being a working mom of only 1 kid can be. Two little ones is a ton. Maybe you can find a babysitter to help out after school, and maybe go over Kumon studies with the oldest. Age 6 is a great time to start Kumon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The 3 year old hasn't chosen a career yet?

AND does no homework? 😔

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry OP. I understand how exhausting being a working mom of only 1 kid can be. Two little ones is a ton. Maybe you can find a babysitter to help out after school, and maybe go over Kumon studies with the oldest. Age 6 is a great time to start Kumon.

Worst. Advice. Ever.

If OP gets a babysitter she should use the extra time for HERSELF not to cart her kids to completely unnecessary classes.

[Anonymous]

Really OP— you should divorce. You don’t have time to deal with a man like this ruining your life. There are men who can help you more. Imagine what example he is setting for your kids. Save yourself and your kids.

[Anonymous]

His style of being a husband is a failure.

[Anonymous]

Drop that zero and get with this hero. I cook, clean, drive my kids to school pick them up. Teach them music and sports. Your husband is a loser

[Anonymous]

I would tell him to clean up so you can enrich the kids and read with them.

[Anonymous]

I’m surprised no one has mentioned what seems obvious to me- your DH wants a SAHM. And a tiger mom at that. Is that something you can afford and/or want to do?