Not to tell children/family that I am out of job?

[Anonymous]

If I was between jobs, I wouldn't tell anyone in my family because they all have big mouths and can't keep a secret. Honestly, if you don't want to talk about it then I'm all for withholding the truth, even if it means saying, "Work is fine." I don't know what your field is but the job market is great so I hope you'll find a new company soon.

[Anonymous]

If you buy fewer/cheaper gifts, your kids won’t notice. You seem really stressed and embarrassed, but cross this off the list of things to care about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's mental to lie to your kids. Do they have money anxiety?

Oh please. OP’s plan is fine. We don’t have tell everyone everything. OP’s kids sound little so why worry them?

[Anonymous]

I didn’t even tell my husband when I lost mine, because I was already interviewing for other jobs and got a new job right after I lost the old one. I didn’t want to deal with more anxiety than I already have.

[Anonymous]

You have a choice between showing your children that you can adapt and meet the challenges of this situation and instead you are choosing to show them a lie. It’s a huge wasted opportunity, but your call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have a choice between showing your children that you can adapt and meet the challenges of this situation and instead you are choosing to show them a lie. It’s a huge wasted opportunity, but your call.

I completely agree with this . My dad was unemployed a few times when I was a kid . My mom taught me how to save. How to prepare and get through it. My dad and I also really bonded when he was unemployed. I spent so much time with him . I learned to save starting with my allowance when I was a kid. I’m currently 40 not working by choice and if I was to retire right now I would be fine . My parents and their situation have a lot to do with that .

[Anonymous]

Only you know your children and family well enough to decide. Your kids sound pretty young, so I don't think keeping it from them is a big deal for a couple of months.

I also don't think it's wrong to keep it from the rest of your family as long as your spouse knows. Everyone has a different level of communication with their family.

[Anonymous]

That you're concerned about this shows you're a good mom, OP. But agree with the consensus that there's no need to worry very young children about it.

Hope you get a new and fabulous job soon!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are going to leave them in after care and not use this opportunity to spend extra time with them? Especially considering that you did work FT and plan to again. Gross.

Not OP but you could lose your spot in aftercare. If the goal is to find another job quickly it's best to keep the aftercare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t even tell my husband when I lost mine, because I was already interviewing for other jobs and got a new job right after I lost the old one. I didn’t want to deal with more anxiety than I already have.

Ummm wtf?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are going to leave them in after care and not use this opportunity to spend extra time with them? Especially considering that you did work FT and plan to again. Gross.

But if she takes them out of aftercare she might lose their spot and not be able to get them back in. Some places have wait lists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t even tell my husband when I lost mine, because I was already interviewing for other jobs and got a new job right after I lost the old one. I didn’t want to deal with more anxiety than I already have.

THAT'S messed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't want to pull them out from aftercare because they (early ES kid and preschooler) loves their aftercare even though they are not cheap ($1k for both aftercare only, additional $1.5k for 1 kid's daycare). It is a stress for me to keep them at home and I don't want them to see my sadness and anxieties. I just don't want to destroy their routine and I hope that I don't have crush their happy childhood. They are expecting their birthday gifts and santa gifts and I don't want to make any changes for now.

Good luck in your job search , I know it can be stressful but dannggg you are catastrophising.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are going to leave them in after care and not use this opportunity to spend extra time with them? Especially considering that you did work FT and plan to again. Gross.

What’s truly gross is you kicking someone when they’re already down. She needs the time to actively look for new jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are going to leave them in after care and not use this opportunity to spend extra time with them? Especially considering that you did work FT and plan to again. Gross.

Ooh, Miss Judgypants is here. We pay by semester, so it's all paid up. You're gross for being so judgemental.

I'm a DP and I would do exactly what OP suggested.

OP, good luck! Hopefully you'll find something by the new year.