Staying because he is a good dad

[Anonymous]

OP it sounds like your DH doesn't like YOU.

[Anonymous]

To sum:
Op spend little to no time educating her child during the pandemic.
Op has a crush on someone else.
Op is upset that her husband spends a lot of time of quality time with his child!
let that sink, OP is jealous of the relationship her husband has his her child!
Why is such a wonderful person so not into you op? Did you ever ask yourself what are you contributing to this dynamic? Or is it just him?

[Anonymous]

I thought people w kids stay because he is a lousy dad. Plus lousy husband or whatever.

What’s stopping you from leaving? You could do 50/50 or even give him 80% custody if you need to focus on other things. It can always be changed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought people w kids stay because he is a lousy dad. Plus lousy husband or whatever.

What’s stopping you from leaving? You could do 50/50 or even give him 80% custody if you need to focus on other things. It can always be changed.

DP. Interest post, pp!

I sometimes think of how easy it will be for me to divorce because my DH is a great dad. I would be very comfortable giving him 50/50 custody.

Him being a great dad is one of the main reasons why I love him. Ironically, it will also make it so much easier to divorce him if I ever decided to.

[Anonymous]

Well....I suspect this thread did not go the way OP was expecting...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought people w kids stay because he is a lousy dad. Plus lousy husband or whatever.

What’s stopping you from leaving? You could do 50/50 or even give him 80% custody if you need to focus on other things. It can always be changed.

DP. Interest post, pp!

I sometimes think of how easy it will be for me to divorce because my DH is a great dad. I would be very comfortable giving him 50/50 custody.

Him being a great dad is one of the main reasons why I love him. Ironically, it will also make it so much easier to divorce him if I ever decided to.

Yup, and my disaster prone, can’t connect with anyone, can’t remember to brush his own teeth spouse would make a terrible solo parent or coparent.
My life would remain hell co-parenting with him; he has mental disorders.
So divorce w kids is not an easy decision for me. I only have bad options: stay in this hell to protect the kids and compensate for their lack of a father, or cut bait and let dysfunction rule 20-50% if the time.
I’m told the dysfunctional types- if not narcissists or wealthy- give up the custody time if posed in a way to save face . Ooh, you must be so busy and important. Oh, you need some time, take a couple years to regroup.

[Anonymous]

Op sounds like she’s 16 yo or something.

Crush on a friend?
8 yo child that mainly the husband interacts with?
May want an open marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op sounds like she’s 16 yo or something.

Crush on a friend?
8 yo child that mainly the husband interacts with?
May want an open marriage?

Is OP called Yoko?

[Anonymous]

OP, I can totally relate. The sexual and romantic side of my marriage deteriorated over time and after I was married fifteen years that side was pretty much nonexistent. However, my H was a very good dad and pretty good husband aside from the lack of sex and affection.

I stayed for another 9 years until my youngest was out of HS. I saw no good reason to implode my kids lives for the reasons I have stated. I viewed it as selfish. I love sex, and I had some great sex in the beginning of my marriage and after my divorce, but my kids were more important to me than sex.

If you could have a sex life outside your marriage with no repercussions that would be great, but you can't.