When does homesickness come?
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Anonymous
| It's great they are independent. Success. |
Anonymous
This was my experience, too. Even when I did poorly on tests and was miserable at college, I was never actually homesick; just depressed about my bad grades. But, when I dropped my child off at college, THEN I had plenty of child sickness. I've really missed my kid. |
Anonymous
This. I wasn’t homesick but that had nothing to do with my love for my parents! |
Anonymous
| It’s so early it’s still in the fun easy stage. Work will start piling on and he’ll need a break. No one will be there for Thanksgiving so I highly doubt he’ll want to stay, unless he is planning to go to a friends house locally. |
Anonymous
| Six weeks |
Anonymous
| Another one who was never homesick, not even when I spent a year abroad. I loved college!! |
Anonymous
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I also was never homesick. I still loved my parents. I wanted to see them on weekends, but I liked my new life and I was ready to live on my own.
I’m sure he misses you. That’s different than being homesick. Don’t conflate the two. It shouldn’t feel offensive. Try being proud and happy for him. |
Anonymous
| Thanks everyone. You are right (whoever said it) - I am hurt. And it's probably more about how much he is enjoying his classes and clubs and experience than how little he values home. I loved college and wasn't homesick but wasn't about to suggest to my parents that I stay at school over Thanksgiving - in August no less. I think it was just a thoughtless comment but ugh, it stung. I will simmer on dcurbanmom and try to be mature with him. Thanks for your advice and perspectives. |
Anonymous
That was me. Sending my best, OP. You clearly did a great job getting him ready for his next stage in life which is many years in the making. Vent to us! We’re here for you. Good job raising a kiddo who is adjusting so beautifully. |
Anonymous
| Reminds me of the kid who is at sleep away camp and it is the end of the first week and he is already asking to stay full summer. Fast forward to week 5 and he is wishing he had only gone for four weeks. It is early and the entire point of those early weeks of freshman year are to make them so much fun and so busy that the kids get swept up in the excitement and don't have time to think about anything else. I bet by October he is thinking about his own bed, clean laundry and a home cooked meal. |
Anonymous
| Have classes even really started yet? He’s still in the fun stage; it’s like summer camp. Wait until the work really starts and he realizes most of his friends will be going home for Thanksgiving. I’m sure he won’t want to be sitting in a dorm, ordering takeout because the dining hall is closed. |
Anonymous
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Maybe he met a girl and thinks he wants to go to her house for Thanksgiving or has a friend who is from somewhere really cool and wants to go to their house. Its hard to imagine anyone staying on campus for Thanksgiving if they have other options. Its going to be super dead.
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Anonymous
| It would also be okay to express that Thanksgiving is a family holiday, and you hope that you can all be together. I am sure everyone wants to hear about his new life as a college student. |
Anonymous
| Was it an ordeal or expensive to get him to his school? Maybe he’s worried about the hassle or expense of going home for just a few days. |
Anonymous
| We have a super-close relationship with our kid, he never got homesick but was always happy to be home. I think that's perfect. |