First day of 12th grade and my kid is anxious about...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to teach your kid statistics and math and how to assess actual risk.

The most dangerous thing for kids is driving and, in the long-term, being fat and out of shape.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to teach your kid statistics and math and how to assess actual risk.

The most dangerous thing for kids is driving and, in the long-term, being fat and out of shape.

+1000

+2.

Why aren’t kids taught to learn about media hysteria, and filter it out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to teach your kid statistics and math and how to assess actual risk.

The most dangerous thing for kids is driving and, in the long-term, being fat and out of shape.

+1000

+2.

Why aren’t kids taught to learn about media hysteria, and filter it out?

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would a 12th grader be worried about sexual assault? By that age don't they know how to handle themselves? Does he have special needs?

Sexual assault is unlikley. Most seniors are so busy they are mostly focused on how hard the year is going to be and are already nervous about leaving the nest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Gun violence at school” (more accurately termed the criminal misuse of firearms by deranged people who might as well have had a revolving light on their head for all the administrators cared), is terrible but fortunately rare. With notable exceptions, schools today typically make some effort to be prepared. Without meaning to minimize in any way your DC’s fear, I wonder if something else might be behind it.

If a 12th grade student isn’t equipped to deal with sexual predators (both administratively and/or via a punch in the nose and a swift kick in the nads), I really don’t know what to say. Again, is there something else behind this?

Definitely get the phone fixed. Is there somebody he can talk to about processing fears and anxieties?

Unfortunately, ar my school last year, we (teachers) flagged a student who openly discussed stabbing and shooting specific students & teachers (by name) to administration, the admin told us that he probably “didn’t really” need an administrative intervention at all. This student would draw swastikas everywhere and was CAUGHT (so think of the times he wasn’t caught) with a knife at school twice. He and his mom both talked about all the guns they had at home. A lot. The mom even told us she was scared of her own kid, but admin didn’t think they needed to do anything with him whatsoever. Quite frankly, I am scared to Google his name. This was middle school, so i have no idea what happened in HS.

+1

Yup. Problem parents have problem kids - and the administration does nothing. FCPS parents should know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would a 12th grader be worried about sexual assault? By that age don't they know how to handle themselves? Does he have special needs?

Sexual assault is unlikley. Most seniors are so busy they are mostly focused on how hard the year is going to be and are already nervous about leaving the nest.

Also, they are not drinking during school. So much college sexual assault is tied to drunkeness, alcohol and drugs.

[Anonymous]

OP here.

Moved back to Verizon, paying $30 more a month again. I'm totally okay with that that.

My kid is a high-achiever who has always been very mature and very observant. Yes he reads stats all the time and will even quote them.
Yes he is bogged down with all the college apps, essays, heavy course load. I am thankful that he is open and can talk to me about what he is anxious about.
The last thing I'd want to do is to trivialize what's important to my kid.

With regards to "a 12th grader should know better...", tell that to those women involved with Weinstein, with Cosby.. didn't they know better?

Also, even hitting closer to home, these articles:

https://wtop.com/fairfax-county/2022/08/clearly-a-breach-of-trust-fairfax-co-superintendent-after-firing-of-convicted-counselor/
-- What? someone didn't follow up on an email?

https://wtop.com/loudoun-county/2022/09/former-loudoun-co-school-counselor-pleads-guilty-to-indecent-liberties-with-student/
-- These are counselors, the one that our kid is supposed to trust? The ones that we push our kids to "let the counselor get to know you so they can write you a good letter of recommendation.

BB gun in the restroom at school:
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1082676.page

He is a lot more concerned about how the school handles guns and predatory behavior.

Yes it's easy enough to not give into media hysterics and all that (just like we do at DCUM), but when you are a kid and you
find a gun holster in the student section of the school's football game, during a game where backpacks were not allowed...

Is that not triggering? (no pun intended here)

You think . what was "security" doing and apparently the school was only concerned with guns that can't fit into backpacks.