Did you take a gift for your DC's room mate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t plan to but I feel like I should do something for the poor girl who has to room with my DD. She doesn’t know what she’s getting herself into!

Not so fast. Keep in mind she may be worse than your daughter, in different ways. Also, my mother always went on and on about what a slob I was. And it was true - my bedroom was a wreck. The second I moved to college, I kept my dorm room neat as a pin. I don't know how or why that was SO much easier, but it was. And I've been neat ever since.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope, but when I send a care package of homemade brownies or whatever, I send extra for my kid to share with their roommates.

This

[Anonymous]

Well, as I indicated in the post, my mom didn't do this stuff. I grew up working class and I sometimes think I missed the playbook on middle/upper middle class life. My parents dropped me off at college and came for graduation. They never attended a single parents' weekend. For example in terms of "missing," housewarming gifts - had no idea that was a thing. So I came here and asked "do folks do this?" but some DCUMers can't just answer, they got to hop in with their judgments.

So, will send a care package shortly. Thanks for the responses.

[Anonymous]

It's a Pinterest/Dorm Chatter thing.

I left a box of coffee pods and some snacks for them to share.

[Anonymous]

OP, don’t worry. I hear you. You sound like a great parent just trying to navigate and be sure you’re doing the right thing. Trust your instincts and go easy on yourself. We are our own worse critics. I love the cookie care package suggestions, I’m sure gestures like that will be much appreciated. Take care and all best

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, don’t worry. I hear you. You sound like a great parent just trying to navigate and be sure you’re doing the right thing. Trust your instincts and go easy on yourself. We are our own worse critics. I love the cookie care package suggestions, I’m sure gestures like that will be much appreciated. Take care and all best

TY - appreciate it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a Pinterest/Dorm Chatter thing.

I left a box of coffee pods and some snacks for them to share.

That's a great idea - ty for suggesting!

[Anonymous]

Y’all need to get your own friends, stop stealing your kids friends

[Anonymous]

OMG parents these days are total weirdos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG parents these days are total weirdos.

How is this weird? Isn't this a board where parents pose questions/seek input? Perhaps say more about you for commenting than not being able to leave it alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG parents these days are total weirdos.

How is this weird? Isn't this a board where parents pose questions/seek input? Perhaps say more about you for commenting than not being able to leave it alone.

It's WEIRD. Sorry. It just is.

[Anonymous]

You should play this by ear and not pre-pack a gift.

If the kid doesn't have parents or if they are gone and YOUR KID WANTS TO invite them to a quick meal and pay. Or take them for coffee and hand them each a prepaid card or something as a surprise and say "now you know a coffee shop - hope you can come back, have fun!"

If they're getting along and you send your kid toiletries, candies, and a few gift cards, include some candy for the roommate.

Don't wrap or plan a gift.

[Anonymous]

We often took other kids on my dd's Ivy crew team out to dinner + other parents took her. We did not give gifts until the graduation parties came around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG parents these days are total weirdos.

How is this weird? Isn't this a board where parents pose questions/seek input? Perhaps say more about you for commenting than not being able to leave it alone.

The question was fine. That there are enough parents who give gifts to their child's college roommate to make this a question is weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG parents these days are total weirdos.

How is this weird? Isn't this a board where parents pose questions/seek input? Perhaps say more about you for commenting than not being able to leave it alone.

The question was fine. That there are enough parents who give gifts to their child's college roommate to make this a question is weird.

I didn't see anybody on here saying they do/did that. Folks suggested send care packages to share or take room mates out to dinner, etc. Perhaps I missed, but I don't think anyone said they do that.