Did you take a gift for your DC's room mate?

[Anonymous]

My mom never did this stuff, so I feel like I've got no sense of what makes sense. DC has been in a bit of touch via text, but that's the extent of it.

If you/your DC took a gift, appreciate any suggestions. I was thinking of a gift card to local coffee shop (no chains in town).

[Anonymous]

I suppose I’m old, but that seems . . . weird to me.

[Anonymous]

Nope. That's weird. Send a care package with homemade cookies. Tell your child you packed enough so they can share with roommate.

[Anonymous]

Omg no, butt out. Your kid and the other kid will get along or not, but currying favor through a gift card will not sway the balance in a positive direction.

[Anonymous]

No don’t do a gift. I did have cookies delivered to their room though

[Anonymous]

omg NOOOOO super weird

[Anonymous]

Nope, but when I send a care package of homemade brownies or whatever, I send extra for my kid to share with their roommates.

[Anonymous]

NO! This seems really strange.
And would then make the roommate feel odd if she didn't also bring a gift - which she likely won't.

[Anonymous]

No way. This is super weird.

[Anonymous]

What in the world?

[Anonymous]

Is that a thing?

[Anonymous]

Seems weird to me - other than doing something like getting a goodie basket (like snacks, candy?) for both to share - or baking them a batch of cookies....

[Anonymous]

No. Why?

Let your kid navigate their own relationships (though you can invite the out for a meal if you visit).

[Anonymous]

No, but if they are friends and you send a care package you could send something but not now.

[Anonymous]

I don’t plan to but I feel like I should do something for the poor girl who has to room with my DD. She doesn’t know what she’s getting herself into!