Question for anyone who belongs to a country or other club

[Anonymous]

If they are people you like you should be doing half the inviting/hosting. Whether it’s a meal at your house or going to some where and picking up the tickets. It shows you have an equal level of interest and don’t just want to see them for the perks they can give. I know lots of people don’t do this but I personally try hard to keep it roughly half and half.

[Anonymous]

I don’t like hosting people at my house for dinner - our club is stress free for me so happy to host and don’t expect anything in return. As far as f&b minimum, that’s covered very quickly so anyone saying that is likely trying to make you feel better. At ours if for some reason you weren’t meeting it, you can but wine to go at wholesale prices

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're just enjoying your company. Don't worry about it.

+ 1

We’re happy to have your company and we don’t want anything in return.

We use our club very often to entertain in the summer because we rarely entertain in our home. We don’t really like having a bunch of people in our home and all the cooking and preparations are tiresome. By going to our club, we can just focus on hanging out with our friends and having a great time with them.

This. I am using the club essentially as an extension of my households hospitality, but I don’t need to do any preparation, work around nap time, etc. I never give a seconds thought to being paid back any more than if I invite you to my house I don’t expect you to pay me back for the wine.

[Anonymous]

Just general reciprocity is great - invite our family over for a dinner/ casual BBQ some time. No need to reimburse or match the spending or anything.

[Anonymous]

We never expect anything in return. If someone wanted to treat us to dinner that would be fine but not necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're just enjoying your company. Don't worry about it.

This

Same.

[Anonymous]

Take them out to dinner to a restaurant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're just enjoying your company. Don't worry about it.

+ 1

We’re happy to have your company and we don’t want anything in return.

We use our club very often to entertain in the summer because we rarely entertain in our home. We don’t really like having a bunch of people in our home and all the cooking and preparations are tiresome. By going to our club, we can just focus on hanging out with our friends and having a great time with them.

Um, there are these things called restaurants and bars and lounges...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Btw, they have to float your guest costs at the pool too (~$25 per guest).

Not every club does this.

Our club is in our gated neighborhood in a beach town.

We frequently let people use our house which means they have to use our account for golf, pool bar & restaurants etc.

We politely let people know that we don’t want any payment etc. Those that do insist on paying have their open invite revoked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is F&B? I want to be ready for when I get fancy friends.

Food and beverage minimum. Probably an additional $20,000+ on top of member fees.

Few clubs have an F&B minimum that high.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Btw, they have to float your guest costs at the pool too (~$25 per guest).

Not every club does this.

Our club is in our gated neighborhood in a beach town.

We frequently let people use our house which means they have to use our account for golf, pool bar & restaurants etc.

We politely let people know that we don’t want any payment etc. Those that do insist on paying have their open invite revoked.

NP. Curious to know why the invite gets revoked when guests insist on paying for themselves?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the F&B min, this is still a meal they are inviting you to and treating you too. You should reciprocate by inviting them to your home, dinner, etc. it doesn’t matter that is a country club.

+1. They may or may not care but you should reciprocate. Anyone talking about the F& B minimum as a justification is just trying. To make you feel better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Btw, they have to float your guest costs at the pool too (~$25 per guest).

Not every club does this.

Our club is in our gated neighborhood in a beach town.

We frequently let people use our house which means they have to use our account for golf, pool bar & restaurants etc.

We politely let people know that we don’t want any payment etc. Those that do insist on paying have their open invite revoked.

NP. Curious to know why the invite gets revoked when guests insist on paying for themselves?

Because it’s annoying AF. We invited you as our guest. Especially when they ask how much they owe. I don’t know and I am not going to take the time to find out, I said don’t worry about so don’t worry about it.

[Anonymous]

I’ve worked really hard to make money. Often to the detriment of being a well rounded person.

I’ve been at the center of the action for many younger years in my life and I’m to the point where I just want to see people have a good time while remaining in the background. Picking up the check is an easy way to do it. That’s why we invite friends to the country club. Because they enjoy it and our kids enjoy it. No need to reciprocate and you should never feel like you owe anything.

I truly get a ton of satisfaction out of hosting people and knowing they are having a good time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Btw, they have to float your guest costs at the pool too (~$25 per guest).

Not every club does this.

Our club is in our gated neighborhood in a beach town.

We frequently let people use our house which means they have to use our account for golf, pool bar & restaurants etc.

We politely let people know that we don’t want any payment etc. Those that do insist on paying have their open invite revoked.