Grandparents who want nothing to do with their grandchild.

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Anonymous wrote:You have no idea what kind of grandparents they would have been even if their daughter had lived.

This is so true! Maybe they would have been the same.

It’s true. Both grandmothers of my kids are loving, good people. No tragedies in our family. One rarely came to see our kids and stopped visiting all together when they were young. The other has visited twice in 5 years, once for dinner and the other for a weekend. They just got consumed in their own lives socially and would prefer we always go visit them, which isn’t possible since we work and they are retired. It’s hard to understand but you really don’t know how this would have ended up if the parents were alive.

+1 my parents also don’t seem to grasp the working vs retired thing so we rarely see them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

We’re different, PP. Please stop being such a judge mental grandmother because I didn’t feel exactly as you did. Let people here and in real life express their honest feelings please.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

Chill, grandma. The poster is describing an instinctive feeling she had and the emotions it invoked in her. It's great that you had a different instinctive feeling and a different emotion. It's ridiculous to attack people for feeling differently than you.

"You're scared of dogs because one bit your face? It's not about you!! I feel JOY. PURE JOY when I see a dog."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

Chill, grandma. The poster is describing an instinctive feeling she had and the emotions it invoked in her. It's great that you had a different instinctive feeling and a different emotion. It's ridiculous to attack people for feeling differently than you.

"You're scared of dogs because one bit your face? It's not about you!! I feel JOY. PURE JOY when I see a dog."

+1. I don’t think “pure joy granny” is as loving and happy as she thinks. She just attacked another grandmother who was trying to empathize with grieving parents and share insight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

We’re different, PP. Please stop being such a judge mental grandmother because I didn’t feel exactly as you did. Let people here and in real life express their honest feelings please.

+1. Ignore JOY grandma, PP. I actually always feel sorry for older people who can only accept positive feelings. It will not be good for her grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

We’re different, PP. Please stop being such a judge mental grandmother because I didn’t feel exactly as you did. Let people here and in real life express their honest feelings please.

+1. Ignore JOY grandma, PP. I actually always feel sorry for older people who can only accept positive feelings. It will not be good for her grandchildren.

JOY grandma here. No toxic positivity.

Its very hard when your kids grow up and move on. One by one our friends are becoming grandparents. We have one friend whose only son is having a baby. It is there first grandchild and they are distraught. This couple is critical of their wonderful DIL and complain about her to their son. They reminisce about their son when he was growing up when it was just “them”.

JOY Grandma suggests feels Grandma learn how to change her self talk because it’s not about you. Being a grandparent is the best thing that ever happened to us. Our feels are pride in the child we raised, we love to see how different things are, these days. But the biggest feel is JOY.

Redirect your feels. And maybe look into how to install a car seat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

We’re different, PP. Please stop being such a judge mental grandmother because I didn’t feel exactly as you did. Let people here and in real life express their honest feelings please.

+1. Ignore JOY grandma, PP. I actually always feel sorry for older people who can only accept positive feelings. It will not be good for her grandchildren.

JOY grandma here. No toxic positivity.

Its very hard when your kids grow up and move on. One by one our friends are becoming grandparents. We have one friend whose only son is having a baby. It is there first grandchild and they are distraught. This couple is critical of their wonderful DIL and complain about her to their son. They reminisce about their son when he was growing up when it was just “them”.

JOY Grandma suggests feels Grandma learn how to change her self talk because it’s not about you. Being a grandparent is the best thing that ever happened to us. Our feels are pride in the child we raised, we love to see how different things are, these days. But the biggest feel is JOY.

Redirect your feels. And maybe look into how to install a car seat.

Not cool to be drunk so early in the evening, Grandma.

[Anonymous]

Not everyone feels joy like that with their grandkids.

[Anonymous]

My maternal grandfather abandoned our relationship after my mother died when I was 8. After she died I saw him a handful of times, the latest of which when I ran into him at the bank when I was 16. I assume it was just too painful for him but I don’t know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

PP. Give it a rest. Everyone reacts to grief differently.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

We’re different, PP. Please stop being such a judge mental grandmother because I didn’t feel exactly as you did. Let people here and in real life express their honest feelings please.

+1. Ignore JOY grandma, PP. I actually always feel sorry for older people who can only accept positive feelings. It will not be good for her grandchildren.

JOY grandma here. No toxic positivity.

Its very hard when your kids grow up and move on. One by one our friends are becoming grandparents. We have one friend whose only son is having a baby. It is there first grandchild and they are distraught. This couple is critical of their wonderful DIL and complain about her to their son. They reminisce about their son when he was growing up when it was just “them”.

JOY Grandma suggests feels Grandma learn how to change her self talk because it’s not about you. Being a grandparent is the best thing that ever happened to us. Our feels are pride in the child we raised, we love to see how different things are, these days. But the biggest feel is JOY.

Redirect your feels. And maybe look into how to install a car seat.

Lol. Joy Grandma is not only drunk but is also a narcissist. Hey Joy Granny - yes, apparently it is all about you!

[Anonymous]

Send them a wind chime.

https://remembermegiftsonline.com/memorial-wind-chimes/

[Anonymous]

Feeling Gma could by your MIL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

We’re different, PP. Please stop being such a judge mental grandmother because I didn’t feel exactly as you did. Let people here and in real life express their honest feelings please.

+1. Ignore JOY grandma, PP. I actually always feel sorry for older people who can only accept positive feelings. It will not be good for her grandchildren.

JOY grandma here. No toxic positivity.

Its very hard when your kids grow up and move on. One by one our friends are becoming grandparents. We have one friend whose only son is having a baby. It is there first grandchild and they are distraught. This couple is critical of their wonderful DIL and complain about her to their son. They reminisce about their son when he was growing up when it was just “them”.

JOY Grandma suggests feels Grandma learn how to change her self talk because it’s not about you. Being a grandparent is the best thing that ever happened to us. Our feels are pride in the child we raised, we love to see how different things are, these days. But the biggest feel is JOY.

Redirect your feels. And maybe look into how to install a car seat.

Lol. Joy Grandma is not only drunk but is also a narcissist. Hey Joy Granny - yes, apparently it is all about you!

JOY grandma is installing car seats and picking up kids at daycare.

Feeling gma is breaking up her child’s marriage.