Grandparents who want nothing to do with their grandchild.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

We’re different, PP. Please stop being such a judge mental grandmother because I didn’t feel exactly as you did. Let people here and in real life express their honest feelings please.

+1. Ignore JOY grandma, PP. I actually always feel sorry for older people who can only accept positive feelings. It will not be good for her grandchildren.

JOY grandma here. No toxic positivity.

Its very hard when your kids grow up and move on. One by one our friends are becoming grandparents. We have one friend whose only son is having a baby. It is there first grandchild and they are distraught. This couple is critical of their wonderful DIL and complain about her to their son. They reminisce about their son when he was growing up when it was just “them”.

JOY Grandma suggests feels Grandma learn how to change her self talk because it’s not about you. Being a grandparent is the best thing that ever happened to us. Our feels are pride in the child we raised, we love to see how different things are, these days. But the biggest feel is JOY.

Redirect your feels. And maybe look into how to install a car seat.

Lol. Joy Grandma is not only drunk but is also a narcissist. Hey Joy Granny - yes, apparently it is all about you!

JOY grandma is installing car seats and picking up kids at daycare.

Feeling gma is breaking up her child’s marriage.

Nope, feeling grandma is spending time with the grandchildren despite feeling pangs of emotion about the passage of time and the ephemeral period of time we have as parents of babies.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

We’re different, PP. Please stop being such a judge mental grandmother because I didn’t feel exactly as you did. Let people here and in real life express their honest feelings please.

+1. Ignore JOY grandma, PP. I actually always feel sorry for older people who can only accept positive feelings. It will not be good for her grandchildren.

JOY grandma here. No toxic positivity.

Its very hard when your kids grow up and move on. One by one our friends are becoming grandparents. We have one friend whose only son is having a baby. It is there first grandchild and they are distraught. This couple is critical of their wonderful DIL and complain about her to their son. They reminisce about their son when he was growing up when it was just “them”.

JOY Grandma suggests feels Grandma learn how to change her self talk because it’s not about you. Being a grandparent is the best thing that ever happened to us. Our feels are pride in the child we raised, we love to see how different things are, these days. But the biggest feel is JOY.

Redirect your feels. And maybe look into how to install a car seat.

Lol. Joy Grandma is not only drunk but is also a narcissist. Hey Joy Granny - yes, apparently it is all about you!

JOY grandma is installing car seats and picking up kids at daycare.

Feeling gma is breaking up her child’s marriage.

Nope, feeling grandma is spending time with the grandchildren despite feeling pangs of emotion about the passage of time and the ephemeral period of time we have as parents of babies.

You have a lot more past than you do future. At this point you’re burning daylight and burning bridges.

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Do they have other grandkids?
Maybe they feel this grandchild is now “out of their family”
My ex FIL stopped seeing his GD after his son divorced her mom. Who knows why? But I think no one facilitated the visits so it all died off

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How far away from the child do the grandparents live? My parents live across the country and visit, at best, once a year and they love their grandchildren.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a devoted grandmother myself and my middle grandson looks exactly like my daughter when she was a baby. I have to admit that I did sometimes get pangs when looking at him when he was a baby thinking about my own time as a new mom holding my baby girl.

It wouldn’t keep me from my grandkids but a powerful resemblance is a little painful.

Wow! I am a grandmother and this is disturbing to read.

Why? It doesn’t keep me from being involved or loving him. Just imagine someone handing you a baby that looked exactly like your child when she was a baby. I mean - exactly. It floods you with memories and longings.

It’s not about you!! I cannot imagine what goes through your head. One of my grandchildren looks just like my child (this even feels bazaar to type) and I feel JOY. PURE JOY. I feel joyful that my child will experience such joy. Memories and longings….you have been given the gift of making memories as a grandmother. Is there anything better? Longings. Pick up that baby and feel that love.

We’re different, PP. Please stop being such a judge mental grandmother because I didn’t feel exactly as you did. Let people here and in real life express their honest feelings please.

+1. Ignore JOY grandma, PP. I actually always feel sorry for older people who can only accept positive feelings. It will not be good for her grandchildren.

JOY grandma here. No toxic positivity.

Its very hard when your kids grow up and move on. One by one our friends are becoming grandparents. We have one friend whose only son is having a baby. It is there first grandchild and they are distraught. This couple is critical of their wonderful DIL and complain about her to their son. They reminisce about their son when he was growing up when it was just “them”.

JOY Grandma suggests feels Grandma learn how to change her self talk because it’s not about you. Being a grandparent is the best thing that ever happened to us. Our feels are pride in the child we raised, we love to see how different things are, these days. But the biggest feel is JOY.

Redirect your feels. And maybe look into how to install a car seat.

Lol. Joy Grandma is not only drunk but is also a narcissist. Hey Joy Granny - yes, apparently it is all about you!

JOY grandma is installing car seats and picking up kids at daycare.

Feeling gma is breaking up her child’s marriage.

Nope, feeling grandma is spending time with the grandchildren despite feeling pangs of emotion about the passage of time and the ephemeral period of time we have as parents of babies.

You have a lot more past than you do future. At this point you’re burning daylight and burning bridges.

Puh-lease. My DD was the spitting image of my MIL, especially when my DD was in early elementary school. My MIL died when my DD was 3. I knew that whenever my DH's extended family saw her, there was just a bit of melancholy as they remembered my MIL. That didn't mean they didn't love my DD and shower her with affection. It was a moment of remember pain and loss. They were especially sorry that my MIL didn't get to see my DD grow up because she would have REVELED in that. I completely understand their feelings about it and don't judge them for it.