Routine vs. Go With The Flow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi, does anyone have any experience (negative or positive) to share regarding you and your significant other being opposite in terms of one person being more routine based and the other person being more go with the flow?

We are both go with the flow, so nothing gets done. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, does anyone have any experience (negative or positive) to share regarding you and your significant other being opposite in terms of one person being more routine based and the other person being more go with the flow?

We are both go with the flow, so nothing gets done. LOL

But we have a good time!

[Anonymous]

I don’t know if it’s as much routine as to planning for us. DH wants to leave 45 minutes early to go someplace 25 minutes away. He thinks about and weighs things that might go wrong and I’m more whatever happens happens, it will be fine. I’ll decide it will be fun to go to a movie or out for a few drinks on the spur of the moment, and he’d rather plan ahead.

Luckily we kind of balance each other out.

[Anonymous]

Everyone I know that proudly says they “go with the flow” is lazy. And it doesn’t work with young kids or any kid with inattention issues; if so it will be chaos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know if it’s as much routine as to planning for us. DH wants to leave 45 minutes early to go someplace 25 minutes away. He thinks about and weighs things that might go wrong and I’m more whatever happens happens, it will be fine. I’ll decide it will be fun to go to a movie or out for a few drinks on the spur of the moment, and he’d rather plan ahead.

Luckily we kind of balance each other out.

The worst is my husband used to say "let's be ready to go at 9:00am", which included the buffer for going 25 minutes away in 45 minutes. Then at 8:50, he'd be standing at the door waiting for me! I'm kind of a planner / routine person, but really dislike when people don't say what they me

[Anonymous]

If you don’t recognize the need for both and flexibility, you are either controlling or lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am routine, H is go with the flow.

My experience: I am stressed AF all of the time, while H is cool as a cucumber because he knows I’ll handle it. I also spend a lot of time yelling at him for sleeping in and forgetting to do things.

Alternately, you are stressed AF all the time and DH is cool as a cucumber because he knows much of what you are agonizing about can’t be changed fixed with extra anxiety.

Getting the kids to school on time, caring for the dog, getting to work on time, saving for retirement, feeding the baby…all pretty important things, yea?

Yes those are all important things, OP. The baby's not going to starve, the dog will get walked, retirement savings can be automatic, everyone will get to work and school on time. Running around screaming your head off about everything will not make things run like the well-oiled machine you think it will.

Calm down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am routine, H is go with the flow.

My experience: I am stressed AF all of the time, while H is cool as a cucumber because he knows I’ll handle it. I also spend a lot of time yelling at him for sleeping in and forgetting to do things.

Alternately, you are stressed AF all the time and DH is cool as a cucumber because he knows much of what you are agonizing about can’t be changed fixed with extra anxiety.

Getting the kids to school on time, caring for the dog, getting to work on time, saving for retirement, feeding the baby…all pretty important things, yea?

Yes those are all important things, OP. The baby's not going to starve, the dog will get walked, retirement savings can be automatic, everyone will get to work and school on time. Running around screaming your head off about everything will not make things run like the well-oiled machine you think it will.

Calm down.

I’m jealous. I have ADD and live by my plans and schedules. They are the only thing that keep me from running around screaming my head off because “we are already late, and WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU CAN’T FIND YOUR SHOES??”
How does everyone get to work and school on time and get the baby fed and the dog walked without any kind of a plan?