What was it like to have a 3rd later in life?

[Anonymous]

Our friends went for a third and had twins. Godspeed!

[Anonymous]

I'm 37 and have a 13 year old and a 3 year old. I had 0 problems getting pregnant until I hit 37. I've had a 2nd trimester loss, unable to get pregnant again and now most likely a chemical pregnancy. I don't recommend the path I'm on. It's been an emotionally draining year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our friends went for a third and had twins. Godspeed!

NP. This is my biggest fear. I want a third but could not handle four or the implications it would have on our life. And I say that as one of four kids myself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

33

Later in life is a bit dramatic here.

Omg for real, I was expecting 45-49.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our friends went for a third and had twins. Godspeed!

NP. This is my biggest fear. I want a third but could not handle four or the implications it would have on our life. And I say that as one of four kids myself.

I am the opposite. I am trying for a third, and i would be happy with twins, especially if they are the same gender. I currently have two girls who are very close.

I would love two girls or two boys. Whats one more college tuition or one more plane ticket for vacation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our friends went for a third and had twins. Godspeed!

NP. This is my biggest fear. I want a third but could not handle four or the implications it would have on our life. And I say that as one of four kids myself.

I am the opposite. I am trying for a third, and i would be happy with twins, especially if they are the same gender. I currently have two girls who are very close.

I would love two girls or two boys. Whats one more college tuition or one more plane ticket for vacation?

PP you’re replying to. This is how I felt when having my second, lol! Would’ve been thrilled with twins in that case

[Anonymous]

I had a third at 35 and a fourth at 38. DH and I both work full time. We felt busy before and we still feel busy, but nothing too crazy.

[Anonymous]

I debated this OP, when my kids were similar ages to yours. We ultimately decided against it and now that they are 14 and 11 I'm so glad that we didn't. I am very busy driving them around to all of their activities, and I enjoy getting to watch their games and perfomances without a bored 5 year old with me. They are both girls and while they are good kids they require a lot of "emotional management" I'll call it. They are healthy and have no special needs. We can afford to send them to college and are on track for an early-ish retirement.

I'm sure if we had had the third I would not regret him or her, but I am very content with our life now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is rarely NOT a different dynamic between the siblings when there is this big of an age gap. The parent might not care, but it definitely is a breeding ground for resentment. Youngest child almost always gets more of everything than the older two got. Attention, opportunities, quality of life.....

I agree with this, especially since being around a sweet elementary schoolers who still worships you is just more enjoyable than being around two emotionally taxing and unpleasant teenagers. If you’re going to have a third, please continue to focus on being the best parent you can be to your older kids. I think having an elementary schooler and a teenager is a juggling act and they’re only three years apart.

+2

[Anonymous]

There was a threat about having 3 kids and trying to get them to all their activities, check homework, pack lunches etc. Posters basically said that's what you get for having 3 kids. It was a little harsh but don't just think about how you will handle things in the next couple years. Think about getting kids to t-ball and varsity baseball practice at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was a threat about having 3 kids and trying to get them to all their activities, check homework, pack lunches etc. Posters basically said that's what you get for having 3 kids. It was a little harsh but don't just think about how you will handle things in the next couple years. Think about getting kids to t-ball and varsity baseball practice at the same time.

This is such a short sighted view. You have a lifetime of creating a family. Juggling practices is miniscule. Think farther about grandchildren, holidays, vacations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is rarely NOT a different dynamic between the siblings when there is this big of an age gap. The parent might not care, but it definitely is a breeding ground for resentment. Youngest child almost always gets more of everything than the older two got. Attention, opportunities, quality of life.....

I am the poster above. That was not the case for my family at all. My oldest sister got the most attention and financial resources. Then she got married and had kids and got the most attention because of that. My parents had less money when I was younger because they were spending on college tuitions, etc.

What she was doing was always more important than what I was doing. She got new prom dresses for every prom, I wore the same prom dress to all five proms. She got to buy a new dress for high school graduation, I wore a hand me down. She had a lavish wedding we all planned. She didn’t help me at all with my wedding and my parents gave me the same dollar amount for my wedding as hers even though I got married fifteen years after she did (hello, inflation). We all went to drive her to college and to her college and grad school graduations and it was this huge deal. My parents didn’t even come to my graduations after high school.

Everything she was doing was always more important and valued. And my two sisters are much closer to themselves than to me since they are closer in age.

I very much felt like the tag a long afterthought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

33

Later in life is a bit dramatic here.

+1. Lol

I am 38. And my two are the same age as OP's. I am going forward with it, advanced maternal age and all.

Congratulations!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was a threat about having 3 kids and trying to get them to all their activities, check homework, pack lunches etc. Posters basically said that's what you get for having 3 kids. It was a little harsh but don't just think about how you will handle things in the next couple years. Think about getting kids to t-ball and varsity baseball practice at the same time.

This is such a short sighted view. You have a lifetime of creating a family. Juggling practices is miniscule. Think farther about grandchildren, holidays, vacations.

Absolutely. Pregnant with fifth now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

33

Later in life is a bit dramatic here.

Omg for real, I was expecting 45-49.

Lol right? I had my first at 36…