Coincidence or not? Wedding date right near due date

[Anonymous]

Could be an intentional slight, could be cluelessness. Either way, I’d be psyched I didn’t have to go.

[Anonymous]

I think this probably has nothing to do with you? Just have her brother say, I'm not sure if we can come because of the baby, and leave it with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd bet there are a lot of postponed weddings happening this summer so dates are packed. it was probably "oh my mom has a vacation already planned this one available date in july and aug is the other option unless we wait until oct but who knows if there will be some new crazy covid wave. So lets go with aug even though that unfortuantely means brother and his fam cant attend"

so more not caring greatly that you can be there as opposed to actively wanting you to not be there

Yeah, I would kind of get that if she had invited a lot of people from her side. But it's literally just us and her parents. Her fiancee has a very huge family so it will be mostly guests his side of the family.

[Anonymous]

My guess is that her choices were that weekend and next year and she REALLY didn't want to wait for next year. Booking a wedding venue is really hard right now.

[Anonymous]

LOL

You ever think its not about you? She's planning a wedding and the venue might be booked for every other week? Or she doesn't want to get married in hot, humid July? Or she knows you could deliver early or late?

Get over yourself. Its not like you would be attending at 9 months pregnant or two weeks postpartum anyway. So why schedule it around you?

[Anonymous]

You got pregnant about 6 months ago then, correct?

The wedding is in August, correct?

What are the chances she planned this date before you were even pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you tell her specifically what your due date was? Do you have conversations with her?

Not very often, but yes, we told her the due date. It's possible she just forgot?

Yes, it's very possible!! Did your DH even talk to her since hearing about the date?! If this happened with either of my siblings, I'd call as soon as they communicated the date.

So he did call, and told her the date was right around my due date. And they had a conversation - and at the end of the conversation, they decided that most likely he would probably just take our older child and go by himself.

It just feels really weird, but maybe I'm being hormonal.

[Anonymous]

Might be the only date available that works for their venue and the majority of the party. We also chose a wedding date out of desperation that probably interfered with other family life events based on our work schedules and availability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL

You ever think its not about you? She's planning a wedding and the venue might be booked for every other week? Or she doesn't want to get married in hot, humid July? Or she knows you could deliver early or late?

Get over yourself. Its not like you would be attending at 9 months pregnant or two weeks postpartum anyway. So why schedule it around you?

Ok, I see your logic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You got pregnant about 6 months ago then, correct?

The wedding is in August, correct?

What are the chances she planned this date before you were even pregnant?

I guess this is also a possibility. Ok, ok. I'm being crazy. Thanks DCUM LOL. Thank god it's anonymous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Might be the only date available that works for their venue and the majority of the party. We also chose a wedding date out of desperation that probably interfered with other family life events based on our work schedules and availability.

There’s still a backlog of Covid brides out there. I’d assume this is what was available and your due date was not etched in her mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Might be the only date available that works for their venue and the majority of the party. We also chose a wedding date out of desperation that probably interfered with other family life events based on our work schedules and availability.

There’s still a backlog of Covid brides out there. I’d assume this is what was available and your due date was not etched in her mind.

I guess in my mind my due date is etched in everybody's mind because I've been counting down since November!

[Anonymous]

Just RSVP immediately and make sure your DH is on the same page.
.... We are so excited for your wedding celebration. Unfortunately due to my due date 2 weeks after your wedding date, we will not be able to attend.
We can't wait to celebrate post your nuptials and see pictures!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Might be the only date available that works for their venue and the majority of the party. We also chose a wedding date out of desperation that probably interfered with other family life events based on our work schedules and availability.

There’s still a backlog of Covid brides out there. I’d assume this is what was available and your due date was not etched in her mind.

I guess in my mind my due date is etched in everybody's mind because I've been counting down since November!

Also churches can book up weekends pretty quickly - and they are typically booked out 6-8 months in advance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is that her choices were that weekend and next year and she REALLY didn't want to wait for next year. Booking a wedding venue is really hard right now.

Yes, especially since it's at a church, times may be limited by other services and pre-planned way in advance.