Ali Wong divorcing

[Anonymous]

Oh, wow. I agree that this just makes her comedy less funny in retrospect.

It's also EXTREMELY rare to see high-profile Asian women in America married to Asian men, so it was refreshing to see in Ali Wong, and for her to feature it in a way that felt in-groupy in her comedy. This does change things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I finished “Dear Girls” last year and told my husband it was good but she and her husband will be divorced within two years. I am sad I was right. I wish I wasn’t.

Why

Why am I sad? Or why did I think they would divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I finished “Dear Girls” last year and told my husband it was good but she and her husband will be divorced within two years. I am sad I was right. I wish I wasn’t.

Why

Why am I sad? Or why did I think they would divorce?

Why did you think they would divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I finished “Dear Girls” last year and told my husband it was good but she and her husband will be divorced within two years. I am sad I was right. I wish I wasn’t.

Why

Why am I sad? Or why did I think they would divorce?

Why did you think they would divorce?

I listened to “Dear Girls” on audiobook, and so it was Ali Wong reading it herself. And read out loud, there was just this hint in her voice that she was trying to convince herself rather than telling something more neutrally. It felt like she was reading it as much to persuade herself and her husband that it was all true, rather than her audience. Idk. It was something in her narration that made me feel like the marriage was in deep trouble.

I’m unexpectedly sad about it. I haven’t loved all her stand up routines, but I loved “Dear Girls” and her movie and I think she’s done amazing things. She has broken a lot of barriers and I was also happy to see a strong prominent Asian couple out in public when there is so much awful anti-Asian violence out there. (I am not Asian). She seems to adore her family and I know this can’t be easy for any of them, and I’m sorry about it.

[Anonymous]

I keep coming back to this quote in the article:

As a result, the Always Be My Maybe star shared she became "more motivated to make my own money because I signed a document specifically outlining how much I couldn't depend on my husband,"

This is sad to me. I think especially after she became successful, the feeling that she believed in her husband but he didn’t believe in her would be increasingly hurtful. She tries to rationalize it so many ways and that’s what it comes down to: The person she married didn’t believe in her. I think there’s even part of Baby Covra where she says she used her TV money to pay off some of his debts? Ouch. That has to sting. I’m not surprised they’re getting divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I keep coming back to this quote in the article:

As a result, the Always Be My Maybe star shared she became "more motivated to make my own money because I signed a document specifically outlining how much I couldn't depend on my husband,"

This is sad to me. I think especially after she became successful, the feeling that she believed in her husband but he didn’t believe in her would be increasingly hurtful. She tries to rationalize it so many ways and that’s what it comes down to: The person she married didn’t believe in her. I think there’s even part of Baby Covra where she says she used her TV money to pay off some of his debts? Ouch. That has to sting. I’m not surprised they’re getting divorced.

I do agree that is sad in a way (that the pre-nup made her feel financially insecure) but I’m not sure how you get that this means she believed in him and not vice versa? I assume it was at his family’s behest because he comes from money. Which, yes, sucks. But doesn’t mean he didn’t believe in her.

Stand-up is a crap shoot. Wong is very good at it, and obviously has a ton of hustle, but she also had to get lucky in some ways. I believe in my spouse but he’s in a low paying profession and is unlikely to make much more no matter how hard he works on his chosen career path.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I keep coming back to this quote in the article:

As a result, the Always Be My Maybe star shared she became "more motivated to make my own money because I signed a document specifically outlining how much I couldn't depend on my husband,"

This is sad to me. I think especially after she became successful, the feeling that she believed in her husband but he didn’t believe in her would be increasingly hurtful. She tries to rationalize it so many ways and that’s what it comes down to: The person she married didn’t believe in her. I think there’s even part of Baby Covra where she says she used her TV money to pay off some of his debts? Ouch. That has to sting. I’m not surprised they’re getting divorced.

The "how much I couldn't depend on my husband" is very telling. Clearly there were issues before the wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I keep coming back to this quote in the article:

As a result, the Always Be My Maybe star shared she became "more motivated to make my own money because I signed a document specifically outlining how much I couldn't depend on my husband,"

This is sad to me. I think especially after she became successful, the feeling that she believed in her husband but he didn’t believe in her would be increasingly hurtful. She tries to rationalize it so many ways and that’s what it comes down to: The person she married didn’t believe in her. I think there’s even part of Baby Covra where she says she used her TV money to pay off some of his debts? Ouch. That has to sting. I’m not surprised they’re getting divorced.

Is that a reference to a prenup?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I keep coming back to this quote in the article:

As a result, the Always Be My Maybe star shared she became "more motivated to make my own money because I signed a document specifically outlining how much I couldn't depend on my husband,"

This is sad to me. I think especially after she became successful, the feeling that she believed in her husband but he didn’t believe in her would be increasingly hurtful. She tries to rationalize it so many ways and that’s what it comes down to: The person she married didn’t believe in her. I think there’s even part of Baby Covra where she says she used her TV money to pay off some of his debts? Ouch. That has to sting. I’m not surprised they’re getting divorced.

Is that a reference to a prenup?

Yes

[Anonymous]

I married into a wealthy family, and they would never have asked me to sign a prenup.
It’s an awful way to start a life together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married into a wealthy family, and they would never have asked me to sign a prenup.
It’s an awful way to start a life together.

Eh, I don’t know. It sounds like his money at time of marriage was really family money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I keep coming back to this quote in the article:

As a result, the Always Be My Maybe star shared she became "more motivated to make my own money because I signed a document specifically outlining how much I couldn't depend on my husband,"

This is sad to me. I think especially after she became successful, the feeling that she believed in her husband but he didn’t believe in her would be increasingly hurtful. She tries to rationalize it so many ways and that’s what it comes down to: The person she married didn’t believe in her. I think there’s even part of Baby Covra where she says she used her TV money to pay off some of his debts? Ouch. That has to sting. I’m not surprised they’re getting divorced.

I do agree that is sad in a way (that the pre-nup made her feel financially insecure) but I’m not sure how you get that this means she believed in him and not vice versa? I assume it was at his family’s behest because he comes from money. Which, yes, sucks. But doesn’t mean he didn’t believe in her.

Stand-up is a crap shoot. Wong is very good at it, and obviously has a ton of hustle, but she also had to get lucky in some ways. I believe in my spouse but he’s in a low paying profession and is unlikely to make much more no matter how hard he works on his chosen career path.

The pre nup made the marriage unstable. She needed to go out and make money because there was none for her from him. She was alone in her own marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I keep coming back to this quote in the article:

As a result, the Always Be My Maybe star shared she became "more motivated to make my own money because I signed a document specifically outlining how much I couldn't depend on my husband,"

This is sad to me. I think especially after she became successful, the feeling that she believed in her husband but he didn’t believe in her would be increasingly hurtful. She tries to rationalize it so many ways and that’s what it comes down to: The person she married didn’t believe in her. I think there’s even part of Baby Covra where she says she used her TV money to pay off some of his debts? Ouch. That has to sting. I’m not surprised they’re getting divorced.

I do agree that is sad in a way (that the pre-nup made her feel financially insecure) but I’m not sure how you get that this means she believed in him and not vice versa? I assume it was at his family’s behest because he comes from money. Which, yes, sucks. But doesn’t mean he didn’t believe in her.

Stand-up is a crap shoot. Wong is very good at it, and obviously has a ton of hustle, but she also had to get lucky in some ways. I believe in my spouse but he’s in a low paying profession and is unlikely to make much more no matter how hard he works on his chosen career path.

The pre nup made the marriage unstable. She needed to go out and make money because there was none for her from him. She was alone in her own marriage.

NP. I signed a prenup too but we don't have kids and I wanted to show I wasn't marrying for money. If we part ways, I'll just leave with all my stuff. I hope Ali will get child support from her STBX. I think it's great that she pursued comedy as a career instead becoming a layabout SAHM in spite of her jokes about 'laying down' instead of leaning in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married into a wealthy family, and they would never have asked me to sign a prenup.
It’s an awful way to start a life together.

Really? I don’t think so at all. It makes a ton of sense to me. I have no generational wealth so this is abstract to me personally but everyone I’ve known with a pre nup has actually had the best marriages I know, at least from the outside. The pre nup made them talk through issues a lot of couples ignore. But to be fair I think they did it well, with good independent lawyers and fairness in mind from the outset, so there is not resentment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her last standup was not funny. I’m sad for them.

Are you kidding? Its hilarious.