I’m getting a lot of pressure to name my baby names I hate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t your baby have your FIL’s last name? That’s enough. Don’t get talked into even using the name as a middle name. There are names I truly hate and wouldn’t use as middle names.

+1. I hate the names Keith and Wayne. I wouldn’t name a boy either no matter what!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t your baby have your FIL’s last name? That’s enough. Don’t get talked into even using the name as a middle name. There are names I truly hate and wouldn’t use as middle names.

+1. I hate the names Keith and Wayne. I wouldn’t name a boy either no matter what!

+2.

[Anonymous]

Is it actually important to your DH? If yes there’s a chance I’d strongly consider it even if I didn’t like the name. Would definitely do it as middle name.

I would not to do it to appease MIL, even if I liked the name tbh. Best not to set an early precedent that you’ll give in to what she wants.

[Anonymous]

What’s the name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s the name?

What difference does it make if the mother hates the name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s the name?

+1

Is a different version possible? What’s his middle name? His hometown’s name? The street that he grew up on?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hmm.

So, let’s talk specifics.

Let’s say FIL name is Gene Gary Thompson.

And you want to name the baby boy
Atlas Hunter

because you looooooove that name.

I think you should consider using Gene or Gary as the middle name.

Is Atlas Gary as cute? No, but OP, no one cares about middle names and cuteness, but everyone cares about family.

My 2 cents.

Yep. If this were the other way around and she really wanted to name the baby after her father, but DH was vetoing, how many people would be calling him an insensitive monster. Middle names are fair compromises for family names, in my opinion.

THIS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the name?

What difference does it make if the mother hates the name?

Because honestly, OP probably wants to name the boy Felix Grayson or something trendy, and FIL name is Tim, and it just won't work for OP so she's pouting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the name?

What difference does it make if the mother hates the name?

It doesn't really make a difference, but I'd be more upset about being pressured to name a child an old man name like Harold or Walter compared to Matthew or James.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t your baby have your FIL’s last name? That’s enough. Don’t get talked into even using the name as a middle name. There are names I truly hate and wouldn’t use as middle names.

+1. I hate the names Keith and Wayne. I wouldn’t name a boy either no matter what!

I think that's sad and disrespective to the father and the father's family. It's a middle name. Who cares? My cousin used the middle name Herman for her son because it was a family name. That is kind of the point of middle names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the name?

What difference does it make if the mother hates the name?

Because honestly, OP probably wants to name the boy Felix Grayson or something trendy, and FIL name is Tim, and it just won't work for OP so she's pouting.

Wow, projecting much? There are so many names from my dad's generation that I would never give a baby these days that OP doesn't surprise me at all. Here are a few: Gerald, Eugene, Ronald, Howard. I'm guessing if the FIL's name was something like John, Timothy, Gregory, George, etc., OP would be more open to it even if she wanted something more current. But if someone had pressured me to use either my dad's name or my FIL's name for my DC, I would have had a similar reaction to OP, because while I love them both, those names just do not sound right for a baby born in 2022, sorry.

Also, all the Graysons I've met have been girls so I think you are off on your interpretation of trendy boy names.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t your baby have your FIL’s last name? That’s enough. Don’t get talked into even using the name as a middle name. There are names I truly hate and wouldn’t use as middle names.

+1. I hate the names Keith and Wayne. I wouldn’t name a boy either no matter what!

I think that's sad and disrespective to the father and the father's family. It's a middle name. Who cares? My cousin used the middle name Herman for her son because it was a family name. That is kind of the point of middle names.

The father and his family almost certainly are passing their family name onto the baby. Is that not enough? The kid has to get his entire name from them even if his mom really doesn't like them? And you think the father's family is being disrespected here? What the heck.

Women are not just incubators for the father's family legacy. They are people and parents and they are actually allowed to have a say in this. FFS.

Brain wave: what if OP and her DH find a name they both like? Seems like the best possible compromise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmm.

So, let’s talk specifics.

Let’s say FIL name is Gene Gary Thompson.

And you want to name the baby boy
Atlas Hunter

because you looooooove that name.

I think you should consider using Gene or Gary as the middle name.

Is Atlas Gary as cute? No, but OP, no one cares about middle names and cuteness, but everyone cares about family.

My 2 cents.

Yep. If this were the other way around and she really wanted to name the baby after her father, but DH was vetoing, how many people would be calling him an insensitive monster. Middle names are fair compromises for family names, in my opinion.

THIS.

I would feel exactly the same if it were reversed. However what we’re talking about here is far worse because the son most likely has the grandfather’s last name!!

[Anonymous]

I hate the name Paul. Visceral, true hate. I wouldn’t date anyone named Paul. And wouldn’t name my son Paul for anything.

Besides, the son of a son of a man will have the man’s last name. Enough with the pushing. No to the name OP hates like I hate Paul for first or middle name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t your baby have your FIL’s last name? That’s enough. Don’t get talked into even using the name as a middle name. There are names I truly hate and wouldn’t use as middle names.

+1. I hate the names Keith and Wayne. I wouldn’t name a boy either no matter what!

I think that's sad and disrespective to the father and the father's family. It's a middle name. Who cares? My cousin used the middle name Herman for her son because it was a family name. That is kind of the point of middle names.

I care. I loathe the name Keith. I would use it as a middle name either. Hate is strong.