are you fine with male teacher at daycare?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry- nope. I would not be ok with that.

+1

[Anonymous]

I wanna say yes but it's giving me a bad feeling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry- nope. I would not be ok with that.

Why? I have a boy. Should I be worried about every female teacher or babysitter?

[Anonymous]

I feel like there's a new thread with this title at least once a year. WTF, lady?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry- nope. I would not be ok with that.

Why? I have a boy. Should I be worried about every female teacher or babysitter?

When you look at the arrest pictures of child pornography rings, they are men. Very rarely do you see women pictured. Now, this preschool teacher might be the best preschool teacher in the world with zero ill intent. But my opinion and my feeling is I would not be OK with giving a male unrestricted access to my three-year-old who needs a lot of help in the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry- nope. I would not be ok with that.

Why? I have a boy. Should I be worried about every female teacher or babysitter?

No because women do not typically sexually abuse children, check the data. You should be worried about adult males who have access to your son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry- nope. I would not be ok with that.

Why? I have a boy. Should I be worried about every female teacher or babysitter?

When you look at the arrest pictures of child pornography rings, they are men. Very rarely do you see women pictured. Now, this preschool teacher might be the best preschool teacher in the world with zero ill intent. But my opinion and my feeling is I would not be OK with giving a male unrestricted access to my three-year-old who needs a lot of help in the bathroom.

But like.... how do you feel about dads in general? As your kids get older, would you trust another male parent to watch them the way you would a female parent?

I was raised by a single dad and I find that the bias against male caregivers gets really problematic really fast. It's true that men are statistically more likely to commit these kinds of crimes but we're still talking about something most humans would never do, and discriminating against all men is a really troubling overreaction. Obviously be conscientious, research your daycare, choose people and a place you're comfortable with, but I think this is going too far.

[Anonymous]

One of my kids had a male teacher in his pre-K class. There was a female aide as well. We had never had a male preschool teacher but, it worked out great. He was good with the kids, patient, and kind. It was like having Mr Rogers as a teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I worked for many years in an elementary school. There were never very many male teachers. Some of them were really great teachers. Others, not so much. However, parents generally loved the male teachers no matter what because they just assumed male teachers were good, I guess. Or they liked the idea of a male role model. Not totally sure, but I can tell you some of those guys had no business working with kids. Either they were very weak teachers, they were creepy, or both.

Same is true for women of course, some have no business working with kids, but people do not automatically assume they are great teachers just because they are women.

The unconditional love for males in a teaching role is a bit of a weird dynamic and inappropriate overreaction.

I think far more people are of the opinion of OP, that there’s something creepy and off about male teachers/caregivers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I worked for many years in an elementary school. There were never very many male teachers. Some of them were really great teachers. Others, not so much. However, parents generally loved the male teachers no matter what because they just assumed male teachers were good, I guess. Or they liked the idea of a male role model. Not totally sure, but I can tell you some of those guys had no business working with kids. Either they were very weak teachers, they were creepy, or both.

Same is true for women of course, some have no business working with kids, but people do not automatically assume they are great teachers just because they are women.

The unconditional love for males in a teaching role is a bit of a weird dynamic and inappropriate overreaction.

I think far more people are of the opinion of OP, that there’s something creepy and off about male teachers/caregivers.

That’s not true at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry- nope. I would not be ok with that.

Why? I have a boy. Should I be worried about every female teacher or babysitter?

When you look at the arrest pictures of child pornography rings, they are men. Very rarely do you see women pictured. Now, this preschool teacher might be the best preschool teacher in the world with zero ill intent. But my opinion and my feeling is I would not be OK with giving a male unrestricted access to my three-year-old who needs a lot of help in the bathroom.

But like.... how do you feel about dads in general? As your kids get older, would you trust another male parent to watch them the way you would a female parent?

I was raised by a single dad and I find that the bias against male caregivers gets really problematic really fast. It's true that men are statistically more likely to commit these kinds of crimes but we're still talking about something most humans would never do, and discriminating against all men is a really troubling overreaction. Obviously be conscientious, research your daycare, choose people and a place you're comfortable with, but I think this is going too far.

The question isn’t about single dads, or your dad, who I’m sure is a wonderful man. It’s about a male who is choosing to work as a preschool daycare teacher, it’s a very weird career choice for a man. Am I being biased? Sure! But I still wouldn’t trust a man with unrestricted access, 8 hours a day, 5 days a week to a young child. I would even probably side eye a male kindergarten teacher. Once they get into the older elementary grades I think differently. Maybe it’s because kids can speak up from themselves a little bit better if something happens.

[Anonymous]

Yes! I think it would be great to show little kids that men can be caretakers too! and role models!

[Anonymous]

keep in mind that there will be very few situations where the male caretaker is alone with the kids because of the way they staff daycare... and because the way they do fingerprints, background checks... i think that this way of thinking is just very limiting to men!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have loved it - real men care for kids. I have had exclusively good experiences with male DCP. I think they have been better for the same reason that women engineers have to be better than their male counterparts to get the same job.

Agreed! -woman engineer

Not the same -- harder to be awoman engineer v make DCP. but - you have to know it's what you want to do as a DCP male as it's not encouraged/expected

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be happy for my kids to see a man in that role. One of my kids had a male teacher for pre-k and he was awesome.

+1 My kids' best preschool teacher was a man.