Dealing with Unvaccinated family pt. 2
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Anonymous
OP here, this is a disgusting comment. I would never wish ill on anyone and am not angry that they're alive and well. |
Anonymous
| OP, I’m with you. I would have a hard time letting go of it myself. |
Anonymous
I didn’t mean as though you would wish them ill will. But I do think it’s hard for many very into covid people to admit that they didn’t experience a different outcome than most people who ran around unvaxed without masks. |
Anonymous
Yep. I let those people go in my life. Don't need them. They were being aggressively jerks about it. They showed their true colors. |
Anonymous
I think it’s hard for many *not* into covid people to remember that a whole lot of folks died or got long term symptoms. |
Anonymous
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Your family sucks OP.
I had family and friends who were a lot more covid cautious than I, but if I agreed to sit outside and wear a mask, that's what I did. They're assholes for agreeing to those conditions then refusing to mask up after you drove 2 hours. I mean, that's really, really shitty. We can all debate (especially in retrospect) what was or wasn't necessary, but the reality is that wearing a mask for a few hours, even outside, was certainly annoying but ultimately not the end of the world. And agreeing to do that in order to see family, then backing out after said family arrived, is rude af. It doesn't matter if OP was being overly cautious. Her family knew how she felt, agreed to mask, let her drive 2 hours, then balked. They suck. |
Anonymous
| OP you have anxiety. A lot of people with anxiety went all in on the covid precautions. The real risk to your family was whatever had your kid actually in the hospital. Mandating your relatives to wear masks was stupid and pointless. You were looking for something to focus on instead of your child’s health emergency so you distracted yourself with your relatives not following whatever COVID practiced at the time. Looking back it should be obvious that requiring them to wear a mask was pointless. They already realized this at the time but you didn’t. You were also probably wiping down your groceries at one point. |
Anonymous
Tons of people died, yes. But they were mostly elderly. The real risk to OP was her child’s illness. Not covid. The long term symptoms thing is always thrown out there by covidians, but most of us can just use common sense and ascertain that although almost everyone we know had covid, not a single person is still sick. I truly do think there are a lot of people out there like OP who were fooled and spent years doing silly things like going around in cloth masks. It’s probably hard to accept that the covid denying relatives were correct. |
Anonymous
| Not overacting OP. With your parents threatening they may not want to see you all again, it sounds like the problem goes way beyond masks. Your kids may be better off not being around them. |
Anonymous
They don’t get it because they aren’t concerned about covid like OP is. They don’t share her anxiety. They aren’t anymore concerned with COVID than they are the flu, HIV etc. They think OP is hysterical and don’t understand. |
Anonymous
What bs and gaslighting. Masks are absolutely effective. Take your qanon crap elsewhere. |
Anonymous
Op, dcum has been overtaken by the rwnjs. It's intentional as they push their agenda. I don't see how you can get past this with family. Their lack of concern for your family is appalling. |
Anonymous
Admit who you are and what you're about. Child of Putin we know you are allergic to science. |
Anonymous
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A healthy family would've respected your boundaries for a short visit, even if they personally disagreed with you. I don't think asking them to mask up was unreasonable on your part, even if it wasn't really necessary at that point in time. It also sounds like this isn't the first disagreement/boundary issue you've had with your family.
It's a bit odd that you are still rehashing this a year later. Do you think your stress over having a kid in the hospital played a part in your reaction that day and your feelings over the past year? How have things been with your family in the year since this happened? Are they acting like everything is fine? Is no one speaking? There are really only 2 things to do at this point, as I see it: 1. You act like nothing happened but accept the fact that you aren't going to be able to enforce boundaries with your family about anything. Proceed accordingly. 2. You try to discuss this with them which will likely cause an argument and may do more damage. |
Anonymous
Family threatening they don't ever want to see you again over anything as silly as refusing to wear masks for a short visit during a pandemic is awful. The child was at high risk at that time, and a concerned family would.have just masked up and seen them separately from other unmasked friends and relatives, or visited outdoors. People who are Covid cautious have a right to be that way, and people who aren't and don't care have a right to do what you want too. Grandparents aren't guaranteed access to grandkids no matter what they do; if they don't want to compromise for even a short period of time, it's their choice not to see their grandkids. Apparently going without masks is more important than their grandchild at that time, so I would take them at their actions. And threatening not to see you again was awful. Sending hugs OP. |