Having to explain things to wife 3 or 4 times....what is this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it’s you. I had a lot of trouble following your post. I read the flooring thing a couple of times, and I still don’t understand.

I am exhausted and it's daylights savings time tired. The basic point is that I say things and it's as if they are not heard. Then she gets frustrated and throws up her hands in anger.

NP and I understood first time. That said, sounds like a processing disorder if it's not new.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like it's time for a divorce!

Just kidding, but it's posts like these that make me really glad I'm not married anymore. In my house nobody is frustrated with anybody else and nobody is suspected of being stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it’s you. I had a lot of trouble following your post. I read the flooring thing a couple of times, and I still don’t understand.

I am exhausted and it's daylights savings time tired. The basic point is that I say things and it's as if they are not heard. Then she gets frustrated and throws up her hands in anger.

Which would be entirely consistent with an underlying medical issue. Are you even willing to consider that this could be case and your wife needs medical care rather than your judgment?

[Anonymous]

Clap your hands as you speak.

Leave (clap) the bin (clap) at the curb (clap).



Or repeat your sentences


Leave the bin at the curb. At the curb, leave the bin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clap your hands as you speak.

Leave (clap) the bin (clap) at the curb (clap).



Or repeat your sentences


Leave the bin at the curb. At the curb, leave the bin.

Or get her to repeat it back to you. That’s helpful for me when I want to make sure I’m understanding DH if I feel he’s unclear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clap your hands as you speak.

Leave (clap) the bin (clap) at the curb (clap).



Or repeat your sentences


Leave the bin at the curb. At the curb, leave the bin.

I don’t see how this is the wife’s fault at all though. Was the wife bringing it back in? It sounds like the county was bringing it in rather than replacing it.

“…the damaged recycling bin needed to be left by the curve so that the county could replace it. They kept bringing it into the garage and I had to take it back out…”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it’s you. I had a lot of trouble following your post. I read the flooring thing a couple of times, and I still don’t understand.

I am exhausted and it's daylights savings time tired. The basic point is that I say things and it's as if they are not heard. Then she gets frustrated and throws up her hands in anger.

Which would be entirely consistent with an underlying medical issue. Are you even willing to consider that this could be case and your wife needs medical care rather than your judgment?

Of course, just trying to clarify for the person who could not understand my post. Her mother and grandmother had dementia. I am willing to consider medical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clap your hands as you speak.

Leave (clap) the bin (clap) at the curb (clap).



Or repeat your sentences


Leave the bin at the curb. At the curb, leave the bin.

I don’t see how this is the wife’s fault at all though. Was the wife bringing it back in? It sounds like the county was bringing it in rather than replacing it.

“…the damaged recycling bin needed to be left by the curve so that the county could replace it. They kept bringing it into the garage and I had to take it back out…”

Wife continued to bring the bin back into the garage despite my explaining that it needed to be left out (for as long as it took) for the county to come replace it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clap your hands as you speak.

Leave (clap) the bin (clap) at the curb (clap).



Or repeat your sentences


Leave the bin at the curb. At the curb, leave the bin.

Aren't you charming. Not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be lots of things. Possibilities include (but ar not limited to):
Hearing loss
Dimentia
ADHD
She doesn’t like you so she doesn’t listen
She doesn’t believe you so she doesn’t care what you say
She’s really dumb and you’re just noticing
You don’t communicate as well as you thought
She has multiple personalities and they’re not sharing info about flooring tiles and recycling
She’s gaslighting you and doing it poorly
She’s having an affair (not sure how but that always comes up)
You’re gaslighting her
You’re having an affair (again, not sure how, but it’s often the husbands fault, and it’s often because of affairs)

Lol all of this! It literally could be anything; or nothing. But the most likely explanation is affair!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Could be lots of things. Possibilities include (but ar not limited to):
Hearing loss
Dimentia
ADHD
She doesn’t like you so she doesn’t listen
She doesn’t believe you so she doesn’t care what you say
She’s really dumb and you’re just noticing
You don’t communicate as well as you thought
She has multiple personalities and they’re not sharing info about flooring tiles and recycling
She’s gaslighting you and doing it poorly
She’s having an affair (not sure how but that always comes up)
You’re gaslighting her
You’re having an affair (again, not sure how, but it’s often the husbands fault, and it’s often because of affairs)

Lol all of this! It literally could be anything; or nothing. But the most likely explanation is affair!

When you hear hoofbeats…

[Anonymous]

My MIL’s dementia started at about that age. I’d get her evaluated by a doctor if this is new behavior. If she’s always been like this then maybe she has ADHD, maybe she doesn’t trust your judgment, maybe she just daydreams a lot and doesn’t listen.

[Anonymous]

My DH likes to talk to me at times when I’m not listening. He tries to demand my attention on his timetable. To avoid a fight, I just nod at whatever he’s saying. I only hear part of it. Maybe she’s just ignoring you. Try to talk to her when she’s not doing something else.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get it. This sounds really petty. Unless she is forgetting big things like the kids need to pick up at 4 or she is supposed to be to work at 9….you need to chill. You sound high anxiety

[Anonymous]

Do you live on a straight road? Maybe there’s no curve to leave the bin