My sister tells relatives my business

[Anonymous]

So not everyone is private about this stuff. If I had COVID, my mom would tell any of her siblings or cousins she happened to talk to that week, and it wouldn't bother me in the least. Is it possible your sister is like me and doesn't realize that you are more private? Can you just let her know that you don't want her to tell people your health info in the future?

[Anonymous]

Personally I wouldn’t care whom an immediate relative shared health info with, but I would be beyond nerked if every Tom, Dick and Harry in the family tree contacted me about it.

[Anonymous]

Have you had a conversation with her about it? I'm very private and as other posters have said I tend to think it's implicit that anything I share is not meant to be repeated. Over time, I've realized I'm more sensitive about privacy than others. I think it's worth having a conversation with your sister before writing off the possibility of sharing. I made a new friend recently and she repeated something that I had meant to be private. Later on, I said that I tend to be private and is she okay with keeping things I share to herself. She was very receptive and apologized for the the first instance. I ended up feeling like we were a lot more on the same page after talking, and I was pleasantly surprised by how great her reply was.

My dad on the other hand I've told him countless times not to repeat things and he's hopeless. In that case, I don't share things with him that I'm not okay with having repeated.

[Anonymous]

This is my whole entire family OP. I have to be careful what I tell everybody.

[Anonymous]

My sister is the same way.

I now tell her nothing.

And somehow, she still is frustrated that I never tell her anything about my life. Oh well, none of her business.

[Anonymous]

OP here:

yes, I told her not to discuss my health or me in general with relatives. She literally said " it's just covid, get over it " then she said " well it happened. Sorry, get over it, it's done"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here:

yes, I told her not to discuss my health or me in general with relatives. She literally said " it's just covid, get over it " then she said " well it happened. Sorry, get over it, it's done"

She said "well it happened, sorry get over it" when? After she told the relatives, you told her "you shouldn't discuss me" and she responded "well it happened, sorry get over it?" Maybe not the best most gracious response, but now you know not to tell her stuff you don't want her to pass on.

Honestly, I think you're being a bit obnoxious. These are all relatives who care about you and your health, right? So if Aunt asks sister, "how's Suzy doing?" (because, you know, you're her sister) you want your sister to say "I cannot disclose that information."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had COVID recently. My sister has told aunts/ uncles. Now I am getting phone calls and texts about it. Asking how I am feeling etc. If I wanted them to know, I would have told them. Its very mild symptoms anyway. Would this annoy you?

She also previously told an aunt I had hernia surgery. So I was pretty surprised when my aunt brought it up.

I usually don't talk about my sister to relatives.

This requires a post on an online forurm about what to do? STOP TELLING YOUR SISTER SHIT!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here:

yes, I told her not to discuss my health or me in general with relatives. She literally said " it's just covid, get over it " then she said " well it happened. Sorry, get over it, it's done"

She said "well it happened, sorry get over it" when? After she told the relatives, you told her "you shouldn't discuss me" and she responded "well it happened, sorry get over it?" Maybe not the best most gracious response, but now you know not to tell her stuff you don't want her to pass on.

Honestly, I think you're being a bit obnoxious. These are all relatives who care about you and your health, right? So if Aunt asks sister, "how's Suzy doing?" (because, you know, you're her sister) you want your sister to say "I cannot disclose that information."

PP here. My last punctuation mark cut out, which changes the whole thing.

So if Aunt asks sister, "how's Suzy doing?" (because, you know, you're her sister) you want your sister to say "I cannot disclose that information." ?

Just wanted to clarify, because, frankly, I don't know what OP actually wants the sister to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here:

yes, I told her not to discuss my health or me in general with relatives. She literally said " it's just covid, get over it " then she said " well it happened. Sorry, get over it, it's done"

She said "well it happened, sorry get over it" when? After she told the relatives, you told her "you shouldn't discuss me" and she responded "well it happened, sorry get over it?" Maybe not the best most gracious response, but now you know not to tell her stuff you don't want her to pass on.

Honestly, I think you're being a bit obnoxious. These are all relatives who care about you and your health, right? So if Aunt asks sister, "how's Suzy doing?" (because, you know, you're her sister) you want your sister to say "I cannot disclose that information."

She can say, sister is fine. I was fine. She didnt need to make it a dramatic thing. She could just say that I am good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here:

yes, I told her not to discuss my health or me in general with relatives. She literally said " it's just covid, get over it " then she said " well it happened. Sorry, get over it, it's done"

She said "well it happened, sorry get over it" when? After she told the relatives, you told her "you shouldn't discuss me" and she responded "well it happened, sorry get over it?" Maybe not the best most gracious response, but now you know not to tell her stuff you don't want her to pass on.

Honestly, I think you're being a bit obnoxious. These are all relatives who care about you and your health, right? So if Aunt asks sister, "how's Suzy doing?" (because, you know, you're her sister) you want your sister to say "I cannot disclose that information."

PP here. My last punctuation mark cut out, which changes the whole thing.

So if Aunt asks sister, "how's Suzy doing?" (because, you know, you're her sister) you want your sister to say "I cannot disclose that information." ?

Just wanted to clarify, because, frankly, I don't know what OP actually wants the sister to do.

She can say. Sister is good. I was good. A small cold is what it felt like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had COVID recently. My sister has told aunts/ uncles. Now I am getting phone calls and texts about it. Asking how I am feeling etc. If I wanted them to know, I would have told them. Its very mild symptoms anyway. Would this annoy you?

She also previously told an aunt I had hernia surgery. So I was pretty surprised when my aunt brought it up.

I usually don't talk about my sister to relatives.

This requires a post on an online forurm about what to do? STOP TELLING YOUR SISTER SHIT!!!!

I don't understand when people say " this requires a post on an online forum"?

So what? I have time to post, so why not? I didn't say it was a huge life changing thing. Are we not supposed to post unless you find it worthy?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

It's funny that you mention your sister's boundaries but you don't honor your own to yourself after her first "telling of your business". You didn't learn the lesson the first time and mad that your sister is being...your sister.

Keep your business to yourself. Problem truly solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So not everyone is private about this stuff. If I had COVID, my mom would tell any of her siblings or cousins she happened to talk to that week, and it wouldn't bother me in the least. Is it possible your sister is like me and doesn't realize that you are more private? Can you just let her know that you don't want her to tell people your health info in the future?

+1

This wouldn't bother me in the slightest. It's a fact, not gossip.
But if it bothers you, I am confused ... as you clearly know this is how your sister operates but you continue to share with her.