SIL is immature spiteful bitch

[Anonymous]

Not OP here. Some people make it impossible to pity instead of hate. Just an observation.

[Anonymous]

OP why you need her to be happy for you so badly??? get over it. don't you have self confidence?

[Anonymous]

So you are flippin out because she is not overjoyed for you? Get over it! You are the immature one I am afraid.

[Anonymous]

OP you are right. You are "stealing her thunder" and so she's put out. Just be the better person.

Be glad you don't work with her!

[Anonymous]

My SIL can be a wonderful person in many ways, but she has also done several things to "one up me." We eloped, and she had a wedding and never ever stops bringing it up that they couldn't "crush" my MIL the way we did (because we eloped). And she says this in front of my MIL. I guess just to make sure my MIL doesn't forget we eloped.

She has done lots of other little things also. Nothing horrible, but it just drives me nuts. Her reaction to me being pregnant is "well, I guess you'll be the favorite DIL now." Guess, what. I don't WANT to be the favorite. I don't want to compete. She can continue to be the brown-nosed DIL. I don't need to be the favorite. I'm fine with being second or third or fourth!

And what really drives me nuts is then she wants to be my friend. I just don't get it. I'd be fine with being friends, but not if she is going to do things to try to make me look bad.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she thinks you are a B**** too for similar reasons. Look in the mirror. Geez.

[Anonymous]

10:11 - you said it. I knew someone that hired their sister because he felt bad for her. WORST mistake of his life! She was so toxic and incompetent, it was a nightmare. She couldn't get along with anyone without being toxic. Corporate finally had to oust her.

If you want to do your family a favor, find them a job NOT at your company!

SIL's and business do not mix.

The SIL's are definitely responding to this thread, also. They don't take kindly to new people in the family. Case in point.

[Anonymous]

Lack of enthusiasm is not the worst trait in an in-law. Maybe she doesn't feel your enthusiasm for her baby as well.

[Anonymous]

My MIL went to the bathroom to throw up after we announced our engagement.

Don't worry about your SIL - who knows what's going on in her mind.

[Anonymous]

My SIL never warmed up to me. She actually did struggle with fertility issues, but I didn't get pregnant in order to be hurtful to her. I had to live my life too. And I never rubbed it in her face -- we live in different states. But she just couldn't muster the civility to even acknowledge that babies had been born into our family. It did bother me just because I found it disrespectful. In the end though, it is her issue to deal with. Not mine. I have my own busy life and I can't worry about getting her to like me because she probably never will. Then she adopted a baby and I was very kind and supportive and called her to congratulate and sent a baby gift. Trying to be the bigger person. She may have been going through a really rough time, but I am an adult and I can get over the past and just accept that we will never be close. Sometimes I put up walls too.
Yeah, I felt disrespected, but I am not going to fixate on it. Now, when my husband suggested that she and my BIL should be the guardians of my kids I flipped out because she doesn't even know me or share my values (i.e, they are religious and I am atheist, and she would never be able to tell the kids stories about their parents because we don't know each other). But other than that, I am happy to live and let live and let bygones be bygones. Enjoy your pregnancy regardless of who is happy for you.

[Anonymous]

Mine is not a bitch she is just the stereotypical sanctimommy with an IQ in the single digits but perkiness to compensate. I ignore her.

She was complaining about her husband doesn't help so I chimed in at how I was exhausted too since DH was not pulling 50%. Her next comment was oh well , you know the daddies make the money and the mommies do the housework. I said well I work so that isn't the deal in our family. Her response was will I'm sure Fred makes more money than you and you work for fun. I was pissed I make 60% more than DH, our mortgage depends on ME, I have a longer commute, and I work more hours on-line after the kids go to bed.

[Anonymous]

There is NO love in DH's family. They only talk to you when they want something (then it's all "love" - hahaha). OP, don't let it get to you. They might think it's their job to be rude. Which is their problem, not yours.

[Anonymous]

I don't hate my SIL, but oh, she makes my head hurt sometimes. Perhaps my favorite story: SIL and my husband have a relationship that is strained, at best, and I just leave it well enough alone. So out of the blue one day she texts my husband, "In Key West. In love. Need money."

Um. Okay, I tell him, this is your call. I think she's goofy and I sure as hell wouldn't fund her whims, but if it were my sister, I'd be at the Western Union right now, so. (Of course, my sister isn't the recovering drug addict with a tendency to drive to Key West on a random Tuesday night, but that's another story.) He decides he'll send her a gas card - good compromise, I think - and tells her as much. She replies, "Don't need a gas card. Not coming home. Send cash." Love her!

Against his better judgement, he overnights her a gas card anyway, and she disappears back into the ether. A week later she reemerges and says, oh, she left town the next morning, so she never got the card. But she's sure the strangers she was staying with have it, right? She'll give them a call... you know, when she gets a chance. Now I'm hot. I step in and tell her - never again. Do not ask us for money ever again. DH backs me up, they get into it.

Turns out, the gas card had never been mailed - a whole 'nother story - and we got our money back, but since then, we really don't hear from her.

[Anonymous]

My in laws are great which I know is rare. My brother's wife is another story. When he came to the hospital to see the baby, she refused to come. She was angry that I had a baby when she couldn't conceive, she actually said that. I don't care what fertility issues you are having, there's no excuse for immaturity. She actually told my brother that I didn't deserve my baby because I wasn't even trying to get pregnant. He admitted that she is jealous of me. I've met this girl only a handful of times, not sure how she can be jealous when I stay out of my brother's business. His bad for sharing all that info with me. He should've just lied and said she couldn't make it to the hospital. I took the high road, told him that I don't hold it against her and I know it must be painful. In the end, she gave him such a hard time for seeing me, that my brother won't come around anymore. DD is now a year old and doesn't know her uncle. My SIL is materialistic, greedy and a giant BITCH flame away but she has no business being a mother until she let's go of her anger issues.

[Anonymous]

OP, that sucks that your SIL can't be happy for you. Don't let it get you down, and don't let it take away from the great news and your enjoyment of it all. Maybe she'll change at some point down the road. In the meantime, the best revenge is to not let it bother you.