Summer wedding conundrum

[Anonymous]

Are you, your Mom and your kids vaccinated? If so I would go to the wedding. Just cause someone isn't vaccinated it doesn't mean they have covid. These days with omicron, being vaccinated doesn't seem to matter much when it comes to getting it, but it does seem to matter what your severity/outcome is.

[Anonymous]

I just want to say, good on you for assisting in getting your mother there! My aunts and uncles declined to get my grandfather to our wedding (NYC to DC), and that was almost 5 years ago but reading this reminds me of what I didn't have.

And he is alive and well, no mobility issues, they just wanted to do their own thing.

Don't worry about the covid stuff, eventually your DH will come around, or he won't. Either way it will be a lovely time.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is being kind of unsupportive of the fact that you want to go, but he’s also right. Are your children old enough to be vaccinated? I would not be attending a wedding with unvaccinated guests this year— have you forgotten Delta already?

[Anonymous]

OP your sibling is an a-hole. Luckily you have time. Agree to whatever you’re comfortable with but with the caveat that you will not attend any indoor events without a vaccine protocol in place - whatever seems safest at that point in the pandemic. We were boosted - and so careful and yet had COVID like so many others over Christmas. My DH & DC have been good since 5-7 days after positive. I felt horrid two weeks out, still tested positive. Negative after 3 weeks but have never felt great since (so nearly a full month in.) All the 80yo’s are at risk in the scenario you’re planning and I’m a normally healthy 50yo.

[Anonymous]

Be furious at your uptight DH ans not anyone else
Go with mom
And have him go with kids to his parents
You can stay at your sister’s until they leave and then come to an empty house - heavenly!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would plan on going. Summer is a lightyear away in pandemic time.

I would hope and anticipate that we will all be past this nonsense by summer. Just plan to go and deal with the issues then.

[Anonymous]

It is so hard to know what will be happening with COVID in the summer but right now, vaccinated people are definitely spreading COVID so the wedding would be risky regardless of whether your unvaxed sibling attends. Will everyone test before the wedding? that will help somewhat. Will it be outside or in a well-ventilated space? That helps too. I'd focus more on that stuff and less on one person who is unvaxed.

[Anonymous]

Assuming you mom wants to go, you should go. Visit your in-laws another time. You can cut out a week of camp. Wedding>In law visit >camp.

[Anonymous]

By telling your sister now that you will not attend without a vaccine requirement you are doing her a BIG favor. You won’t be the only potentially canceling at the last minute because vaccines are not required. By making her deal with this now, she will have a much more predictable guest list. Unvaxxed scum sibling should bow out if h or she won’t get vaccinated. Don’t let your other unvaccinated sibling trash all your summer plans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be furious at your uptight DH ans not anyone else
Go with mom
And have him go with kids to his parents
You can stay at your sister’s until they leave and then come to an empty house - heavenly!

This. The unvaxxed person is an idiot too.

And simplify things, OP. Everyone does not have to do everything. Weddings are important. Seeing family is important. You and DH should divide and conquer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am squarely with your husband. I would not have RSVP'ed yes without asking if all guests were required to be vaccinated. Seems like the first question anyone would ask!

You need to let your mother and hosts know ASAP that you are reconsidering coming to the wedding if they don't have a vaccination policy in place. Insist. Perhaps you'll make them do it. If they don't, and cases are still high, or there is a new variant, don't go. If cases are really low, perhaps you can take that risk.

But really, you shot yourself in the foot by not asking this before agreeing to come. Lesson learned for future events, I hope.

The fact is 6 months out OP thinks the hosts are not requiring full or any vaccination. If there's 1 there could be more. Or the OP sister might be delusional and the brides family or bride/groom might give her a hard reality check. Weddings can trend smaller in the time of Covid-19 so hosts know the general status. The fool might be getting a courtesy invite to a vaccination required wedding and then be bumped when it rsvp's yes.

Some wanting anti-vaxxers to be invited and allowed to attend a wedding can abruptly end the quest when confronted with a hypothetical on seating. By that I mean you want them you will be sitting a table with them and any similar people for a long wedding dinner. We know belligerant anti-vaxxers who range from young adults who go to bars etc to old. A reluctant person might get 1 J+J in Sept 2021 because of a work requirement and call itself vaccinated for a July 2022 wedding.

OP's sister wants her to escort the 80 year old mother for air travel and everything else associated with the wedding. I guess the plan was to then do it all in reverse along with DH+kids and then go to visit the DH old parents. Or is it go from the fly to wedding to DH parents? If so what about the OP old mother?

[Anonymous]

one unvaccinated person is going to kill you and your iILS?
and you and your dh are not on prozac?

[Anonymous]

why are you all so scared of unvaccinated people?
you are more of a threat to them than they are to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why are you all so scared of unvaccinated people?
you are more of a threat to them than they are to you.

It's the viral load they could be passing. The fact is all the unvaxxed or barely vaxxed we know are belligerent and less prudent. As I posted earlier when push came to shove the people who said persons T-Z must be invited to a wedding didn't want to sit at the same table next to them unmasked eating a long wedding dinner.

You want them you sit with their potential viral load was a definitive moment on do they get to attend a wedding.

[Anonymous]

Go to the wedding. If DH’s parents are uncomfortable with your visit after that event - and it should be their decision, not your husband’s - then don’t visit them.