If you have a mixture of people who need to gain weight, and people who need to lose . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless you’re making total crap food, he has to be the one to take this on.

You could help him with his self esteem though. Low self-esteem often leads to over eating, so if he doesn’t maintain his self esteem he might spiral. I would do things like encourage him to big clothes that actually fit well and feel good.

He is on medication that affects his appetite. This is not a psychological issue, but thanks for bringing blame to weight issues, because lord knows we don't get enough of that.

OP, are there side dishes that appeal to your kids and relative that your husband could just pass by? Mac and cheese, cheese grits, some kind of creamy pasta or potato thing?

[Anonymous]

Cook lots of vegetable heavy dishes to share. Add carbs (rice, pasta) and extra protein (meat, fish) to those who need it.
Sub cauliflower rice for rice for those who are watching carb intake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless you’re making total crap food, he has to be the one to take this on.

You could help him with his self esteem though. Low self-esteem often leads to over eating, so if he doesn’t maintain his self esteem he might spiral. I would do things like encourage him to big clothes that actually fit well and feel good.

He is on medication that affects his appetite. This is not a psychological issue, but thanks for bringing blame to weight issues, because lord knows we don't get enough of that.

OP, are there side dishes that appeal to your kids and relative that your husband could just pass by? Mac and cheese, cheese grits, some kind of creamy pasta or potato thing?

I honestly don’t know what you mean.

Here is what I have seen: somebody gains weight because of a medical issue, they start feeling bad about themselves, then they cope with food, then they feel worse abojt themselves, etc. My point is that weight isn’t the problem, it’s all the shame people feel about weight that’s the problem.

[Anonymous]

I would serve the food plated. And then put extra on the table. That way he can just eat what you've given him.

[Anonymous]

Self control. You need to feed the teens. They need to eat.
Your DH has to learn to control himself from even looking at their food.
If you can manage a new meal plan or try something new for 2 weeks, you can sustain it on a daily basis.

Don't buy junk food. You really don't need it. Even the teens don't need that. Do you buy cookies? Chips? Sodas? ice cream? Don't buy those obvious junk.
Then, you have to slowly get rid of other sugary drinks.
Have fruits around. If i don't see them, I won't eat them mentality. So, if I see an apple instead of the bag of chips, I'll grab the apple.

You have to make yourself eat greens first. So, he should fill up the plate with greens, then follow up healthy proteins, like fish, beans. Spinach and kale actually has a good amount of proteins.

Where is the weight gain? Waist or elsewhere? or everywhere.

DH also has to move. Can he move? Can he exercise or at least walk. If he can move, start walking. Then, increase the pace, everyday. No time? There is time. If he has time to eat and watch tv he has time to move.