How much bonus would you give?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny started at the end of August and we really like her, so want to be generous with her holiday bonus but don’t want to set an expectation that will leave her disappointed in the future.

We gave our previous nanny 1.5 weeks of pay in the past so we were trying to determine whether we should give our new nanny a full week, or if they she will expect 2 weeks in the future given that she worked with us for only 4 months. Should we do half of the 1.5 week bonus and hopefully she would expect around double the following year?

What would others do here?

Are you happy with her? Are you children safe and thriving with her? If not, fire her. If so, stop being cheap with the person who cares for your most valuable and only irreplaceable asset, your children and give her two weeks bonus! Otherwise, you may be looking for a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d give her a week since she’s only been here 4 months. After all, the hardest part is in the beginning learning a new baby and their schedule

I just hired a new person on October 1 and budget made me prorate their bonus. I’m not thrilled because 1/4 a bonus isn’t great.

I hope she quits. Never be cheap with your nanny and I am not a nanny but I never cheaped-out on any domestic employee even it meant my DH and I did without a present.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with my family for 10 years and they gave me $200. My gift to them is giving my notice. I found a new job. I’m done being treated this way! I’ve worked so hard during the pandemic when they had no housekeeper and expected me to pick up the slack.

Good for you. My gift would have been "Today is my last day." as I walked out the door. I also would have told them why.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I give 4 weeks bonus to my nanny. No wonder she always tells me I’m too generous Totally worth it though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I give 4 weeks bonus to my nanny. No wonder she always tells me I’m too generous Totally worth it though.

+1. I now get the equivalent of a four week bonus at my anniversary in January. The annual bonus is in my contract and has been increased for the last three years. It is wonderful!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I give 4 weeks bonus to my nanny. No wonder she always tells me I’m too generous Totally worth it though.

+1. I now get the equivalent of a four week bonus at my anniversary in January. The annual bonus is in my contract and has been increased for the last three years. It is wonderful!

Well that seems like a lot… but how long have you been there? This nanny has only been there for under 6 months. Anything beyond a week seems excessive to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I give 4 weeks bonus to my nanny. No wonder she always tells me I’m too generous Totally worth it though.

This year: three books in my favorite series (including preorder on the one coming out in the spring), an unscented candle, $50 for kindle books (for me, I already use the household card for unlimited kindle books for the child and as discipline/caregiving/special needs), $100 for whatever takeout/delivery I want (I already get whatever groceries I want), $1000 cash, $200 towards a pastime that the parent and I both enjoy, a new air purifier, and an abject apology for going along with the child’s birthday wish which gave half the party covid just as Christmas hit.

Looking at just the cash bonus, it’s slightly above my weekly net and slightly below my weekly gross. Oh, and this is just for Christmas. I was hired September 25, arrived September 27 and received a $1k bonus for relocating so quickly. Then there was another $1k bonus after my first month.

I am a live-in nanny who specializes in crazy hours, behavior, special needs and tutoring. My current position combines every one of those, and my employers are very, very grateful to have me. They also understand that there are multiple ways to show that they appreciate what I do, and a bonus is only one way.

[Anonymous]

One week

[Anonymous]

Our nanny has been with us for 6 months and we gave three weeks pay and a flight to see her family for Christmas with a week off. She’s amazing and we feel so lucky. It was the right amount to reflect how much effort she puts into taking care of our whole family.

I think a lot of people stick to 1-2 weeks, but I always hate when I feel that my job doesn’t appreciate me properly if I have gone above and beyond, and I didn’t want to have her feel the same.

[Anonymous]

These bonuses are ridiculous. I have never gotten this kind of a bonus for my regular attorney job. DCUM is out of their mind as usual. I've posted it before and I'll post it again. I see your nannies out on the hill every day and they are not worth bonuses. On their phones, ignoring your kids or snapping at them half the time. If they've convinced you they are indispensable, cool but odds are they aren't that great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These bonuses are ridiculous. I have never gotten this kind of a bonus for my regular attorney job. DCUM is out of their mind as usual. I've posted it before and I'll post it again. I see your nannies out on the hill every day and they are not worth bonuses. On their phones, ignoring your kids or snapping at them half the time. If they've convinced you they are indispensable, cool but odds are they aren't that great.

You must be bitter poor tink tink

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These bonuses are ridiculous. I have never gotten this kind of a bonus for my regular attorney job. DCUM is out of their mind as usual. I've posted it before and I'll post it again. I see your nannies out on the hill every day and they are not worth bonuses. On their phones, ignoring your kids or snapping at them half the time. If they've convinced you they are indispensable, cool but odds are they aren't that great.

20.21 again.

Special needs, 24/7, PoA, parent out of state weeks to over a month at a time (and unreachable for 12+ hours at a time), etc. Sure, paint every nanny as the same. My employers value who I am and what I do.

[Anonymous]

Lol, can definitely see there are some nanny trolls up in here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These bonuses are ridiculous. I have never gotten this kind of a bonus for my regular attorney job. DCUM is out of their mind as usual. I've posted it before and I'll post it again. I see your nannies out on the hill every day and they are not worth bonuses. On their phones, ignoring your kids or snapping at them half the time. If they've convinced you they are indispensable, cool but odds are they aren't that great.

Lawyers are a dime a dozen but a nanny you trust and your children love and she loves them is worth her weight in gold. She is, afterall, doing what you are incapable of doing--being the mother to your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These bonuses are ridiculous. I have never gotten this kind of a bonus for my regular attorney job. DCUM is out of their mind as usual. I've posted it before and I'll post it again. I see your nannies out on the hill every day and they are not worth bonuses. On their phones, ignoring your kids or snapping at them half the time. If they've convinced you they are indispensable, cool but odds are they aren't that great.

20.21 again.

Special needs, 24/7, PoA, parent out of state weeks to over a month at a time (and unreachable for 12+ hours at a time), etc. Sure, paint every nanny as the same. My employers value who I am and what I do.

Hope you are being paid overtime for all those hours! Wow.