This is slightly irritating (Covid risk tolerance and family)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to skip this event. It’s not your blood family, and it’s you who are making arbitrary lines in the sand all over the place.

My line isn’t arbitrary. I’m just not going to be around unvaccinated adults. That’s it.

Op- you yourself said that your line was a bit arbitrary in your initial post! Not sure why you are now taking issue with others saying the same thing. That being said it sounds like you and your DH are handling the situation well, and everyone is well meaning. It was nice of you to prioritize visiting family for your daughter.

[Anonymous]

OP - the unvaxxed are such outliners --- nothing they suggest should be considered.

[Anonymous]

Of course they are irritating - they are unvaccinated. They don't care if they are irritating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one will be able to keep up with your arbitrary behavior. In or out. Either it is safe to travel and see people, or it is not.

I really don’t think it’s arbitrary. I don’t think you can ever be fully safe in any circumstances. “Either it’s safe to drive or it’s not.” Well, it’s not safe because people die in car crashes all the time but I’m still going to take the risk. In this case I have just said “no unvaccinated adults” as a way of balancing risk and benefit.

You do you! But in this case your husband and child will still be going, correct? So I’m not really sure what this is accomplishing, unless you plan to stay away from them following the gathering too.

Not the OP. This is false. DH and DD would have to actually catch Covid. Then OP would have to catch it from them. That second situation is less likely to happen- the virus has to transfer through an extra layer of people to get to OP. I don’t know if I’m explaining it properly, but this is what our doctor explained to us when we had a similar situation.

[Anonymous]

It’s nice that your in laws are being so accommodating, OP. We have a similar situation in that we want to go to a family party and found out there are unvaccinated people coming and they have no compunction whatsoever about it. Our child is too young to be vaccinated, so I will probably go by myself. It sucks. I agree that the unvaccinated should either just make the decision to stay home, or be gracious about you choosing to do so.

[Anonymous]

The unvaccinated people are the ones creating this situation. I agree with the PP who said to blame it on your doctor. just say you checked with your doctor and you can't be around unvaccinated people.